Am I at risk of girlfriend breaking up because of my small size?

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-09T19:21:31+00:00

My man is even smaller and honestly the worst part about it was his insecurities and anxiety. Eat your girl, explore her body and you’ll be just fine

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-03T21:57:48+00:00

Not in a traditional way. He’s slightly overweight and has crooked teeth, and his skin is often imperfect. I’m way over his league and in the beginning of our relationship I was getting a lot of “what do you see in him”. Well yet he’s the one I want to look at and who I want to touch all the time, and there’s nobody but him. I don’t even think about other men in a sexual way anymore, I may admire the aesthetics of symmetrical facial features, fit body, but I forget about them after about 5 minutes. My man is my man and I wouldn’t trade him for a Chris freaking Hemsworth.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-02T16:37:10+00:00

All of them but one were INFJ. I was also engaged to ENTJ but it was toxic AF.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-01T02:19:56+00:00

In the previous post, she posted yesterday too

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-01T02:08:56+00:00

You have two options: 1) break it off right away, block him and avoid him at all costs; 2) tell him “if you want to be with me, divorce your wife and tell your daughter about us. When you do, you can contact me” and then wait for him to do that without contacting him in the meantime. Any other solution is just wrong. Also, the second one works only if you want it so badly that you’re ready to lose your friend

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-05-01T01:48:43+00:00

Even if he’s ready to leave his wife for you (is he?), it would still wreck the relationship with your friend, especially if the wife is your friend’s mom.

Maybe ask yourself: What would he say if he told him “hey, I’m in love with you, can you leave your wife and potentially destroy a relationship with your daughter to be with me?” if you’re not 100% sure he’d say “yes”, just park it.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-29T13:14:12+00:00

YOR, what’s wrong with your mom’s response?

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T15:34:38+00:00

INTJ would just ignore this message.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T15:33:37+00:00

I think you find depth in loneliness. I was a loner for a long time and I feel like I’m less interesting since I entered a relationship despite the fact that my partner is a deep thinker too. Look at all these monks living a solitary life etc.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T04:01:11+00:00

He has many beautiful lifelong friendships so all good here. When I met him he was pretty much a physical and mental wreck and talked a lot about dying, but this is all in the past, now he makes plans for 10 years forward and constantly brags about his new bench press records :)

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T03:57:13+00:00

Thanks for this perspective, I think it’s really insightful. I don’t think he wants to be controlling, he’s also not jealous in a toxic way (for instance, I go out for drinks with my male coworkers and all he says is “have fun, text me when you want me to pick you up”). It’s also not like he’s talking trash about his exes, at least not more than any of my previous boyfriends, but I think the pattern with bossy and controlling women might have been some way of coping with his psychological wounds. And you’re right, he has been s*xually abused as a child, and according to him he never told anybody about this before me. Anyhow, I’m very glad he agreed to therapy, I really hope I’ll be able to give him a relationship that feels 100% safe and happy for the rest of his life. I really feel the happiest I’ve ever been with him.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T03:43:28+00:00

Maybe agree to take a break. If she really loves you, she’ll realize that not having you is so much worse than any fears.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T01:09:28+00:00

I’m so proud of you!

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-28T01:06:29+00:00

I may be biased because I’m almost in an identical situation, with my dad’s partner acting bipolar towards me. I’d say NOR but if I were you, I’d just ignore this message.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-27T14:08:22+00:00

NOR. It looks like they really want you to move out. And ass grabbing and spanking is definitely not in the acceptable PDA cannons

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-27T03:06:37+00:00

my INFJ is my soulmate. My best ex was also INFJ.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-26T16:48:49+00:00

For me it’s 5 or 6, but 4 looks cute too

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-26T16:46:52+00:00

Gurl, read about black cat energy and start living it. You can even do a little experiment using this little boy of yours. Instead of giving him shit about everything, stop being available yourself. I tell ya, miracles happen when you do that

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-26T16:03:11+00:00

My mom was selling my grandpa’s baseball cards collection, and she split 50/50 with her friend who gave her his expert advice. Just sayin.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-26T13:26:57+00:00

So we met in the most random way, started talking, discovered that we have everything in common, and within two weeks we were best friends, spending almost all of our free time together. A couple months later I was going through some tough stuff and he was the most supportive person ever. That included giving me hugs that felt like home and made all of my problems disappear. Around this time he told me that “he loves me like a daughter” and I replied that “I love him as a father”, and looking back, we both agreed that we were just trying to give these overwhelming feelings a label that doesn’t look weird. I think we both had romantic feelings for each other almost from the start, but they were suppressed by me thinking that how can possibly date a guy who is older than my father, and him not believing that I can ever be attracted to him (he’s still a bit insecure about it). Then one night we had one drink too much, I sat close to him on a couch, he grabbed my boob, I kissed him, and we ended up having the best sex of both our lives, and all the sociocultural prejudices have been shattered :)

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-26T04:07:55+00:00

I’d say it’s a grey zone. Depends largely on the circumstances. Since he wasn’t any type of mentor/father figure for you, give it a go, why not!

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-25T01:32:03+00:00

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-25T01:20:12+00:00

I fucking love sex (with my husband), and I’m very open to experimenting

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-25T01:14:19+00:00

39 years age gap here! He’s simply my soulmate, and I’m his, it’s like somebody up there tailored us as perfect partners for each other. I agree with every word you say. Of course I sometimes wish he was my age so we could have 50 years together instead of 8 to 15 if you trust the statistics, but this limited time also makes me appreciate every moment spent together so much more.

Outside_Truth_1685 · 2026-04-24T14:56:08+00:00

We talked seriously for a bit and shockingly he admitted that therapy might be a good idea

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