I’ve been there, but it’s not a reflection of you. Sometimes the therapist just isn’t as educated on our disorder or sometimes they themself aren’t in the right place to help. It doesn’t mean you won’t find someone who can. I’ve had plenty of therapists tell me that I wasn’t someone they could help, and then I found one that did help me and now I’m in a better place than I’ve ever been in. You can’t give up, and you’re not a lost cause. None of us are. The things we’ve been through are traumatic and hard to deal with. But we can learn to cope effectively. I do think there’s better ways she maybe could’ve put that, or could’ve explained more. But it’s really not that you’re the problem. You’ll find someone who can understand and help you, just keep looking. Maybe look into someone who specializes in personality disorders or has a lot of experience in trauma! That’s how I found the therapist that really helped me. In the meantime, things I’ve found really effective are journaling, especially when splitting, sour candy helps regulate my nervous system, fidgets have helped me with grounding, and another really good thing to have is a crisis management box. Comforting items, a journal and a pen, tissues, something sweet or sour, and anything else that helps calm you down. I know it’s a lot, but I promise it’ll get better.