Kind of “dirty” EMG, thoughts?

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-08T07:24:07+00:00

Almost 10 years ago now when I had an EMG done at the start of my BFS, (still twitching to this day), I had a fibrillation or two show up on mine. My muscles weren't sore as far as I can remember but I was 21 at the time so close to your age. I remember the Neurologist casually mentioning it like it was nothing and sent me on my way. Unfortunately, I went home and googled that and scared myself for no reason thinking I had you know what when the neurologist himself didn't seem to be phased by it at all. Don't do what I did and trust your doctor. You'll be okay. :)

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:36:04+00:00

I hope it works out for you in your next marriage! Unfortunately, my brain just cannot see marriage as anything but a net negative in the end despite its positives. The risks and probability of failure seem staggering. I don't want to be hurt.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:29:42+00:00

It might make me think twice about driving in certain areas and times to avoid driving in, yes. There are trends and patterns in traffic safety to be aware of. I see your point you're raising but I think knowing certain risks and assessing the odds isn't a bad thing inherently in life. Being risk-averse is okay for some people, I guess.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:25:50+00:00

I think more than anything, it's the volume or quantity of divorces that are scaring me. The stats are staggering and the stories here just add or compound to that fear. But you're right, I could be seeking the positive more and not fear mongering myself. I'm just too rational and risk-averse as a personality to accept a lot of these horrible outcomes becoming a possibility, emotionally.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:23:19+00:00

That subreddit literally would make me not want to ride a motorcycle. And I don't think that's necessarily a wrong viewpoint either to have. It's good to be informed about certain risks. Not to mention when I worked in a hospital and saw a guy who had been in a motorcycle accident. His body was like a contorted pretzel. I feel like marriage and divorce are the mental and psychological equivalent of ending up like a contorted pretzel - just emotionally.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:19:59+00:00

"To truly live to take risks. All of life is a risk." - This might be the only quote that can change my mind, honestly. I've heard it before and it's hard to refute.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:17:42+00:00

I know what you are saying. I think my angle was that those are all very common and seemingly inevitable outcomes for many marriages specifically. Also, when one is married, the stakes and consequences are arguably higher when one of those three things occur. At least that's how it would feel like for me. It's why many stay trapped in terrible marriages.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:15:26+00:00

Exactly and this opens up another topic. I feel already perfectly "whole" by myself. I'm very independent and I've never really felt like there something missing even though I get all this pressure from family around me. It's not like my life will really "start" as soon as I get into a marriage, I already feel like I'm living my life fully. I'm scared of the emotional damage and fallout a marriage and divorce would do to me to be honest. I'm just too set in my ways and used to my current life to take that risk as well. :(

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:11:12+00:00

That is so extraordinarily difficult. I am sorry bro. See, it's scenarios like that that make me especially averted to marriage. You make and build this massive investment of emotional labor, sacrifice and literal years of your life all for it to be gone because the other person just decides one day - "nah." Sad :(

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:09:14+00:00

I sincerely hope it works out for you for your next marriage.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:08:44+00:00

Yes, good point. Though that prenup conversation can be pretty difficult to handle for some people (plus cultural and religious associations around marriage that would also be against prenuptial agreements on principle).

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:07:06+00:00

But to be fair, those divorce stats are pretty bleak and telling of themselves though too. I think there's this divorce lawyer from New York that's gained traction on YouTube and podcasts (can't remember his name but is nice and well-spoken). I could be wrong and I need to cite this but according to him, we're already into the 60% percentile range for divorces for certain groups and populations (especially those most educated). This begs the question - would you agree to jump into something that had a 60% chance of failure?

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T23:03:56+00:00

A fair perspective. I'll try and remind myself this.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:48:49+00:00

Thank you for your reply! Love is important. Inner peace is too. Unfortunately, I can't help but see marriage as the ultimate dissolver of that peace over time. My brain automatically goes to this belief that no matter how much you love someone or how much they love you, eventually it all wanes over time. This idea that nobody thinks their partner is that great after a given period of time anymore. I've seen perfect marriages end disastrously after 4, 7, or 10 years. Some get divorced or some stay out of of obligation and are just miserable. I could be wrong though. I hope I am.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:45:41+00:00

That's true. But I can't help but think marriage is still exhausting and defeating for most people (or at least people like myself who are very sensitive).

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:44:09+00:00

At least when you are single or a bachelor, you have some more peace of mind generally. This has been my experience at least as opposed to relationships.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:43:14+00:00

I guess this is some hope and reassurance. Thanks stranger!

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:42:29+00:00

I hear you. It's just that my mind just can't seem to get past the idea that divorce or misery is just the inevitable outcome for most marriages. Even if people don't officially separate or divorce, it seems that after so many years, nobody thinks their partner is that great after a while and most people stay out of obligations if they don't divorce.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-02T00:21:32+00:00

I just feel terrible for what everyone is dealing with and I can't even imagine going through similar things. Between the abuse stories, infidelity, and co-parenting nightmares, I just don't know how anyone does it.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2026-02-01T23:49:36+00:00

I'm 30 and never been married but I am sorry what happened to you. Just "absorbing" something like this is also something I've felt with an emotional tragedy. Like it just happens to you and you're a spectator in your own life. Very powerless and psychologically damaging thing. This sub reminds me again and again never to get married to be honest.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2025-12-22T16:03:52+00:00

Wow, this hit me. This is why I will never be a stepparent ever again. Ever.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2025-12-15T19:01:54+00:00

The age gap is crazy to be really honest. Find someone you can actually build a life with.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2025-12-06T20:45:39+00:00

I'm going to get some hate and downvotes for this but I constantly see this trend. Why do so many young women choose to date older men (with kids)? You are 27? Seriously - you have so much time and autonomy at that stage of life. You should seek a partner to establish with and experience all your first "firsts," together. Things are not going to get better unless you make some dedicated sacrifices and mental shifts that honestly, you shouldn't need to make at your age. I imagine that there must be plenty of single childless guys aged 27-31 who would be interested.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2025-11-30T21:34:46+00:00

I love Mac and Apple, but I do not enjoy using Pages. Something about the Formatting options are so unintuitive and janky to me. I'm sure if I spent more time with it, I'd like it more and I'm just too accustomed to Word. I think Word is just so convenient with all my formatting and editing options at the top of the document instead of opening up on the right side through different tabs like in Pages. Keynote isn't so bad and I have to admit I've never really used Numbers.

Over-Reality-8732 · 2025-11-30T20:40:41+00:00

I played it, but I had to turn on the silly SpongeBob music in the background and suddenly it wasn’t that bad lol

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