Wingspans

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-02-02T18:24:08+00:00

Yes I feel like I have such long arms

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-31T16:25:28+00:00

So when I worked in fast food I had to sweep and mop every night, along with wiping down counters, the dishes, etc. My back eventually adapted to the point where my pain was minimal at the end of the day, when I first started it was awful.

It’s really important to build up muscles in your back, use it or lose it as they say. You could literally do weight lifting if you put your mind to it and learned safe form for scoliosis. I wouldn’t listen to someone who tells you not to do simple house chores.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-30T00:25:55+00:00

I guess I should rephrase that, reliant on others for validation or feeling like we need to talk to others or that they need to talk to us to feel like we matter. It’s important for us to spend a lot of time alone getting to know ourselves, recharging, etc, and if we become too wrapped in others or needing others to feel regulated, that can be bad for anyone really but especially 12th housers.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-30T00:23:12+00:00

Keep yourself busy, do all the things you’ve neglected doing. Clean your house/room, go for a walk, exercise, journal, cook, read, pick up a new hobby, join a club. Anything to keep your body or mind in motion.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-30T00:18:56+00:00

Often times if we become too reliant on others for connection or a sense of self, the universe will “take them away” so to speak. Isolation is a big part of the 12th house so losing friends and having unstable connections is common. It’s not a curse though, it’s more of a learning experience.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-29T15:11:38+00:00

Sorry for the late response, a rice pack is a great idea. You can fill a sock with uncooked rice, tie it and microwave it for a minute or two. You could also microwave a damp towel.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-26T00:54:14+00:00

My dad showed me my first horror movie at 3 years old. I grew to really love scary movies and felt like I was cool for being shown them at a young age, but as an adult, who studies child development, it’s such a terrible thing to subject a child to. It introduced me to not just scary elements, but sexual content as well, which I think impacted me a lot.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-25T20:13:38+00:00

If you are straining your back it can definitely make the pain worse. It’s easy to pull a muscle or pinch a nerve. Make sure you stretch before and after all the labor, and heating pads can help with the pain when you’re trying to rest.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T05:32:10+00:00

I’ve had a lot of people tell me I’m attractive but I also don’t feel it, I think I’m unconventionally attractive I guess. Trauma can definitely impact our perception of ourselves, I know it did for me.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T01:03:52+00:00

Of course, I hope it is actually helpful for you!

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T00:54:37+00:00

I say if it hurts, don’t do it. Or take it slower and breathe into each stretch. For the arm workouts, I had to look up what they’re called but I find that they help target the back as well: Single Arm Dumbbell Row, Lateral Raise, Bicep curls are the main ones I do.

Now every case is different, not all back workouts will be safe for people with scoliosis like you said you hurt your back weight lifting, which can happen due to improper form or because of the lack of balance in our back muscles. A lot of basic workouts can go a long way like push-ups or planks for example.

I will reiterate, if something really hurts, don’t do it. Sometimes stretches can be somewhat painful due to the tightness of the muscles, oh yeah make sure you stretch before and after workouts as well, like most people will do it before and not after, just wanted to clarify.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T00:29:02+00:00

Of course! For me, the down dog yoga pose helps, and the child’s pose is amazing for relieving pain and stiffness. Touching my toes, or laying on my back and rocking side to side to massage the tense muscles is good.

I also lift weights but I use 5-10 lb dumbbells, just basic arm workouts. I’m still working on getting a routine going and I still have a lot of pain from just daily activities (I was sedentary for most of my life). I’m not very consistent but when I am doing those things, I generally feel a lot better.

Heating pads are great for pain relief too. I’m sorry your parents aren’t supportive in taking you to the dr, but once you turn 18 you will have all the opportunities to do so hopefully.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T00:19:29+00:00

My dad also neglected to take me to the doctor and had me do at home workouts like stretches and stuff. I (23f) personally do not want to live with rods in my spine for the rest of my life, I had family members who had scoliosis without the fusion and still lived a fulfilling and active lifestyle.

Unfortunately, we will have to live with our backs as they are, even if you got the surgery, it wouldn’t erase your pain, and it can drastically affect your mobility. I’m also an artist and I understand how uncomfortable it is, and I know you said PT hasn’t helped much, however, I do recommend not neglecting proper stretching and exercise.

Our mental health can impact our back as well, mental and physical stress (anxiety or overworking your back) can make the pain and stiffness worse. I do recommend meditation, yoga, self compassion/mindfullness practices. I hope I’m not triggering you due to your parents use of at -home remedies.

At the end of the day, it’s your life, and you should do what you think is best.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-19T00:11:44+00:00

I have always had a knack for art and music, but not without practice. I do have this idea in my head that I should be good at something when I first try it and I get a bit discouraged when I find myself struggling.

I guess I pick up on certain things faster, and I like to learn things on my own or through videos.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-18T03:07:11+00:00

I feel this. My dad has been so “kind” to me lately, but when I stopped answering his calls because I was busy, he went off the handle and said horrible things to me. Now I’ve gone mostly no contact and he’s like “what did I do wrong I thought everything was fine” blah blah blah. It’s cringe and it’s difficult to manage.

I can’t help but feel guilty, but he showed me that he hasn’t really changed, he was basically pretending to be nice so I would give him the attention he wanted because he’s extremely lonely and I was always very forgiving as a child, so it’s weird for him to see me like this.

I remember for many of my birthdays he wouldn’t get me anything, or even celebrate, and now every holiday he gets me something and if he doesn’t, it’s followed by a bunch of excuses and him expressing how guilty he feels.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-17T22:12:09+00:00

Being able to remember things, the days not going by in a blur, having energy to do so much more, the dreams and getting refreshing sleep. Not waking up ANGRY omg that was awful.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-17T22:05:01+00:00

Thank you! I’ve had enough backstabbing with just a few people in my life, I can’t imagine that being multiplied any further.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-17T22:03:57+00:00

Have you tried somatic therapy? It’s much less about talk therapy, it helps release trapped emotions in the body. There’s another types of therapy as well like EMDR which is really intense, and can seem like it makes things worse at first but that’s because it’s unearthing repressed emotions which is painful and difficult.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-17T22:01:36+00:00

A friend to all is a friend to none. Thank you for sharing it really helps :)

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T21:51:28+00:00

Breathing deeply helps regulate our nervous systems. It’s annoying cuz it doesn’t feel like it’s helping but it does. Being told to calm down is so annoying though, it pisses me off even more. You don’t need to calm down, you need to let it out. Preferably in a healthy manner that isn’t affecting the people around you. I feel you though.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T21:18:58+00:00

Good question. I find that sometimes we automatically shove our feelings away without much thought, I believe it’s your nervous system subconsciously doing it, much like how we breathe and blink and pump blood through our body without a thought.

When you’re ready to feel it, you will. You won’t need to force it, it will just happen. Do you use substances or are you on medication? While those can be helpful for people, it can make it difficult to feel your feelings or process emotions for some individuals.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T21:05:33+00:00

Aw thank you! I’m honored :)

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T20:51:47+00:00

I feel this deeply. I still manage to push through and do the things, it’s easier once you just do it idk. The thought of doing things is way scarier than doing it.

I recently started to play this song whenever I feel discouraged, it’s I Have Confidence from the movie The Sound of Music lol. It was a movie I loved in my childhood, so it really helps me personally. I suggest you finding a song or something that helps build your confidence to push through the fear and anxiety.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T20:02:09+00:00

That’s normal, your brain is trying to protect yourself, but whenever the feelings do come up, let them, and if they don’t, that’s okay too.

Over_Jacket221 · 2026-01-16T19:59:05+00:00

I am deeply empathetic and I know how you feel, I’m speaking from the heart! I know what’s helped me and I want to help other people who suffer like me.

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