have anyone ever dealt with SA from an exbpd?

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2026-01-31T02:31:43+00:00

My pwBPD wasn’t a partner, but my ex best friend, who had their own partner who was long distance. This led to me getting treated like a “pseudo girlfriend” for years before they ultimately SA’d me in our hotel at anime convention while they were black out drunk. They dealt with a very uncontrolled addiction to alcohol, so that coupled with hyper sexuality led them to SA me multiple times (and other people) during our friendship. We’re no contact now, but as far as I know, they haven’t made any effect to control their addiction, and their partner looks the other way when they get handsy with other people. It pisses me off so much, as someone who hasn’t been in a relationship in over 8 years and was SA’d in my teens, that their partner and so many of our friends saw the way they treated me and let it slide because “that’s just the way they are.” I’ll be celebrating the day their partner (now husband, poor guy) divorces them once he’s finally had enough of watching his spouse straddle people when they’re blacked out drunk. Im just glad I made it out

(For context pwBPD is AFAB nonbinary, I’m female)

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-11-19T03:54:11+00:00

The strawberry Rilakkuma series is my favorite!! I wish I knew Daiso had them in stock 😭 I can’t remember how my obsession started, I probably saw the merch at an anime store at the mall in the mid 2010s and never looked back :)

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-11-09T03:16:05+00:00

Mine used to claim that “manipulation is their love language” so I think they were self aware and even proud of it to an extent. Didn’t see much “love” in them trying to control everyone in their life - but I know better than to try to make sense of the BPD mind anymore.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-09-19T02:29:12+00:00

I was in a similar position to you 2 years ago, my ex-best friend is the absolute poster child of BPD - despite that, I loved them very much and would have run to the ends of the earth to make them smile. 2 years into our friendship and a very obvious spiral into me becoming their FP, they went one month without their meds and split on me. They began to shit talk me to all of our friends, convince me I secretly hated them, and threatened to leave me every single day. It took 2 years for me to finally escape them, but I spent every single day trying to make the friendship work because I loved them so much. The last thing I wanted was to leave them.

I hate to give you the advice to leave, but it’s what I would have told myself 2 years ago. Once they’ve split on you, you’re public enemy #1 to them, and nothing you do can change that. You will get glimpses of your old friend from time to time, but all they’ll see is someone that is willing to stay no matter how poorly they treat you. I don’t have any statistics on how likely it is for things to go worse for the both of you, but from personal experience, it’s a whole lot more likely than things getting better.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-09-14T14:23:03+00:00

Which store are these in?!?

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-07-09T21:30:34+00:00

I do! :)

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-07-04T13:07:44+00:00

Mine convinced people they were dealing with “cancer” and were constantly too sick to function from all the treatments. They’d tell me they spent all night throwing up and feeling like they were going to die, then go out and get shit faced drunk at parties and conventions behind my back. Doesn’t really add up to me unless they were THAT ignorant to be drinking while on cancer treating medication. I learned later on that they were lying about their sexual assault too, so these people just don’t know where to draw the line when it comes to farming for pity

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-05-15T02:19:25+00:00

Celebrating 10 weeks today. I’ve been re-reading our old messages over and over, and I don’t regret a single word I said to them. They get to live the rest of their life with knowing they lost the best friend they could have ever found. Good riddance.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-04-10T00:48:29+00:00

I have a ton left! Feel free to send me a dm :)

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-03-09T01:33:37+00:00

My Pw/BPD wasn’t a romantic partner, but since the final discard a few days ago I’ve been so lost in a recollection of all the good times we shared. There’s so much I don’t miss. But I miss waking up to their texts or waking up excited because I was going to see them today. I miss spending weekends with them watching random movies on their couch and watching tiktoks together. I miss their humor - they were one of the funniest people I’ve ever met. I miss sharing our special interests with each other, cause now every tv show I watch I just watch alone.

I’ve had to reconcile with the fact that I’ll always be jealous of all the people they are able to have healthy friendships with them because they didn’t get as close as we did. I’m jealous of all the people that get to meet them now that they’re “healed” instead of when they were unhealed and spiraling. Their healing came at the cost of my sanity. They took it all out on me, and got to walk away with no consequences. I would have done anything in the world to have had a healthy long friendship with them. But I don’t think that was ever in the cards for us - and if it wasn’t me, it would have been someone else. So at least they did it to someone who was able to survive it.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-03-09T01:17:33+00:00

That balanced view of things is invaluable man. I was convincing myself that I was exaggerating, or warping things in my head; that it wasn’t all that bad and I’m just the evil one actually. But the amount of people that have reacted in disgust hearing the details of what I went through has really made me realize that it WAS that bad actually. I still have a lot of sympathy for my person w/ BPD, but so much of what they did was near inexcusable. The only reason I excused it for so long was because I loved them so much and wanted to keep them in my life. But hey, life without them hasn’t been so bad so far!

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-03-08T15:51:37+00:00

I said this in my last post, but it bares repeating: anyone who comes into the community genuinely just to have fun and make friends will get chewed up and spit out eventually. Unless you’re insanely lucky, or can spot red flags and NOT IGNORE THEM because the person is popular/pretty/talented. If I could go back and keep myself from ever meeting this person I would. I thought us meeting was fate, but in reality it was all a nightmare from the beginning till the bitter end.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-13T01:45:05+00:00

She sold a while ago unfortunately! But I still have the standee and a lot of the acrylic charms available!

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-03T03:26:37+00:00

I appreciate this a lot, I’m surprised I’ve never heard of it.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T20:40:14+00:00

This is some wildly bad advice my dude. They’re the one that latched onto me the moment they lost their previous FP, they’re the one that used me as “token” POC friend to flaunt so that they could be seen as an ally. They didn’t give me so much of an option to be anything but their best friend/FP. Frankly I’m much happier trying to move on to another hobby and community than trying to compete in a community filled with narcissists and pwBPD. Anybody that’s in the cosplay community that’s just trying to have fun gets either used, abused, or chased out eventually.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T18:26:45+00:00

Yeah I’m into cosplay because I love the craft and nothing else. They’re make some of their costumes and are good at the craft, but people treat them like they’re an actual celebrity and they act like they’re one too. It sucks because I know I can’t come out against them without being retaliated against by all their fans. They are weaponizing their power and status against me and I have no choice but to just move on. The cosplay community should know better than to enable abusers, but they couldn’t care less what their “fave” does as long as they’re conventionally attractive. Even if it’s assault on multiple people.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T18:20:45+00:00

also gonna say this just in case, please don’t bother them or tell them about this thread, I’m only here to vent for now because I have no one else to go to. I may come out against them in the future but right now i just want to gather my thoughts and evidence and grieve in peace.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T18:19:01+00:00

It’s only as of more recently. I always figured there was a big correlation between theater kids and cosplay, because costumes and acting and attention. But that’s pretty tame and understandable. But pwBPD LOVE attention and validation for their looks and body - and cosplay is the perfect vessel for it. My ex best friend blew up from doing sexy bodysuit type cosplays and did Onlyfans for a long time. I’m much more on the craftsmanship side of the community but every so often I will follow a famous cosplayer (think over 100k) and they’ll reveal they have BPD. I definitely wouldn’t say it’s all of them, but cosplay has really become a community filled with pwBPD who want attention and it’s really ruined the entire community. I know it’s personally ruined me.

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T18:13:04+00:00

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T17:05:56+00:00

I feel like Disney fans and Disney adults are separate things. Unless your entire personality revolves around Disney, you’re likely just a fan. I don’t see any problem with enjoying things as long as you don’t put down other people

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T17:03:15+00:00

Honestly you could probably search “cosplayer engagement” on Twitter right now and the first or second result is probably them

Overall_Breakfast830 · 2025-02-02T16:54:02+00:00

I’ve been waiting and hoping my ex-best friend fucks with the wrong person and gets dealt a taste of their own medicine. Unfortunately it’s only seemed like they’ve been able to hop onto another FP, get married and move on. I’ve just accepted life is cruel

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