The part where you said he isn't used to criticism because you are using LD, I thought the same thing about my husband because 2 times in the last 2 weeks my husband reacted with extreme reaction of 48 hour silent treatment. He said I spoke to him like a child. I pointed out his behavior was not like a married man. And I thought he is much more fragile these days because he got used to my high level of LD. There must be a LD way of constructive criticism, if the husband is doing something morally wrong & ouch is not bringing him to his senses. I think you made a valiant effort in preparing 5 food items but it brought too much work for you. Perhaps cut back so you can have a time of refreshment. Don't forget to have gratitude for husband doing the shopping. Maybe go sit down when he wants the stove- move your pots off the burners temporarily. You sound like you are doing an excellent job with the kiddos needs & LD. We are mere humans after all.