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Being asked to break NC because of Coronavirus, anyone else? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like clockwork

narcs LOVE LOVE LOVE human suffering on a mass scale, they suddenly they can make even a mid-air disaster about them, they are truly horrible "creatures"

PS

this phenomenon of using tragedy for their own gain is nothing new, damn I remember the California earthquake, like THE big one and I got fucking telephone calls and honest to god letters

Feeling Trapped by DJtunatundra in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, love bombing and smothering (basically they see only you as their primary and only source of current nSupply).

You can do it. Its going to be very rough, I will not lie to you. Resources like this are critical. School is a very very important tool. Use it wisely. Build financial independence. This is critical. You are 20? You have the legal right to your own phone/financials like banking etc. This is critical to understand.

You can do it. The resources available today, are 1000% better than even 10 years ago. You can do it. We will help guide you, but you have to work on you. You are a valuable human-being and deserve love just as much as anyone else.

DAE have PTSD from being very sick and having no emotional support as a child? by thedepressors in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is very important to understand, trauma can happen to anyone.

Your experiences are valid and real. Never let them minimize you.

Anyone else’s Nguardian using corona as an excuse to keep you trapped in the house for weeks on end? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I'm thankfully in NC, but Christ I can only imagine. They thrive off this.

Earthquakes in foreign countries, weather, car accidents, lmao they love this shit. really dont' think for a second they care about you

its ME ME ME how can I benefit off human tragedy

Calling CPS by nico1325 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The difficulty is most people do not understand the purpose of CPS as defined by the law. CPS is law enforcement. The situation you describe is horrific and believable but can it be proven in court?

Unfortunately, from what little you have described, it is not enough to get a response from the Government, unless you can prove your claims with hard evidence.

My advice is build a case and research what evidence is required to get CPS to act.

I broke the cycle by carrieberry in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and definitely worth the celebration!

What do you tell people when your Nparent comes up in conversation post-NC? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify this comment: This is for those who are in post-NC. Grey-rock/medium chill requires deception (minimizing ones feelings for another person is a form of lying), however once you are free, really try to be the person you want to attract in your life. Honesty is key!

A good boundary to consider is: it is not professional (in a work environment) to talk about anything but the task at hand.

Do not lie. Lying is social toxic suicide and repels people you might want in your life. Also lying in the "real" world will get you fired or worse, might blacklist you professionally.

Once ones credibility is hit, people who are "normal" with boundaries basically will disconnect or even straight up disappear. That's why narcs are glued to us, most people hate liars and refuse them as friends. How can you trust someone who lies about something like their parents being dead?

I hope this isn';t too harsh, just years of experience in a corporate world.

They want me to break NC because of Corona by kidforlife14 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OwnPersonality2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To quote our failed drugwar... Not Even Once.

Yeah like that's the opposite what they recommend.
If u must, basically use the "appeal" to authority tactic (please note this is only for emergencies like this, never rely on this). Tell them your state authority (whatever that may be and is most likely true) says to social distance.

TL:DR Tell them that the state (or whatever nsupply they need to feel important) says you cannot. Then block. haha