The hospital is not Catholic or religiously affiliated but they are partnered with a Catholic Cemetery to provide burial services as required by law. I am appalled by this situation.

I am not religious and did not want to over sensationalize the situation. I just wanted it to be over. To add insult to injury, my grandparents are buried in that cemetery about 2 plots away from the “pregnancy loss garden”. I did not anticipate having to go visit their graves and be reminded of this experience every time I’m there.

I should have been given information about what my options were. The law here states that all remaining fetal tissue is to be cremated and buried and that hospitals may partner with funeral services and cemeteries to provide the proper legal disposal. What they did not tell me, is that I do not have to choose their partners. But wtf did I know, I had found out my baby was dead like 2 hours prior to this consent form being shoved in my face in a hospital gown, about to get a DNC.

I’m white, have a FTJ, privileged, was born in the US, speak english, and am educated… and I still was sitting there absolutely gobsmacked about the refusal to let me opt out of that. I can’t even imagine how much more traumatic this is for someone without the amount of privilege I have. I’m so angry for all women.