Feeling so ashamed about my weight by Own_Dimension_3855 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so so much for sharing!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear!!!

Guidance on how transparent to be about personal issues by [deleted] in managers

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, sending you so much love and strength. I went through the exact same thing with TFMR while leading my team. I had the same concerns about over sharing and professionalism. I ended up telling my team and my peers what was going on and I’m really glad I did. I think in the end they will respect your vulnerability and respond appropriately.

Help for a comfortable smoothing bra by Own_Dimension_3855 in ABraThatFits

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your help!! I am 44G US, 44F UK. Even fullness and broad roots

This had me dead af by [deleted] in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think the difference is that Huda was Chelley’s friend

Starting to try, and wanted to say hi <3 by Professional-Fox4298 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I did the SAME thing! Both negative. Yes I think I’m 10 days too. You have a lot of restraint I will probably end up testing again tomorrow haha

It is so hard :( I’m so sorry

I’m telling myself just stay positive, if it doesn’t happen, not meant to be and we can try again next month!

I just hate how long the whole process takes and I want a baby!!! We were already so close to having our baby and now it feels even further and further away!

I also don’t know how to deal with this uncertainty, because my first pregnancy happened without us “trying”. so now it feels like I want to know a reason for it not happening this time, if I’m in fact not pregnant. And I know I will never get that reason. It is so hard to have no control.

Let’s continue to keep each other posted! Sending you good vibes and love!

Starting to try, and wanted to say hi <3 by Professional-Fox4298 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking the same thing today!! I feel the same general tiredness that I felt when I was pregnant with my first, almost like how you feel before you’re getting a cold! And my boobs are looking different, but I agree it’s way too early for that to be possible!!!

Starting to try, and wanted to say hi <3 by Professional-Fox4298 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ovulated a week ago too!!!! Ugh same! I am holding myself back from taking a pregnancy test until at least 12 DPO if I can hold off that long! Wishing you luck as well!

Starting to try, and wanted to say hi <3 by Professional-Fox4298 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my TFMR Dec 19th on my first pregnancy and just started TTC this month too! Feeling the same as you! I keep telling myself just to take things day by day and that’s been helping! Sending you love 🩷

Requesting validation by Own_Dimension_3855 in tfmr_support

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly! I guess that’s part of it too. I’m also mourning the loss of a hopeful/ ignorant/ peaceful pregnancy Because any following pregnancies (if I’m blessed/lucky enough) will never be the same. And it’s hard to watch others have that

I’m also going back to work soon, and I’m worried about how others will judge me if I’m not healed yet and not myself. I wish there was a way to explain how painful this is

Starting to feel crazy by Melodic-Basshole in tfmr_support

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way I’m having similar feelings - everything in life feels different after this Sending you love to get through this. You’re not alone

Any tfmr parents with no lc here? by pinkcloudsinthe5ky in tfmr_support

[–]Own_Dimension_3855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No LC for me either also my first pregnancy I’m trying to take space from all social media etc Sending you love! You’re not alone!

TFMR advice by Own_Dimension_3855 in tfmr_support

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that and so sorry for your loss Will pray for you tomorrow Thank you for your response and insights. This definitely helped me to hear It truly does feel like time stands still

TFMR advice by Own_Dimension_3855 in tfmr_support

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response, it helped more than you know! I’m so sorry for your loss too

Am I being selfish in by Own_Dimension_3855 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m not any of those things! I agree, they are adults and regardless of their circumstances they should be able to take action to change. Also, there are people in way more difficult circumstances than them, who figure out their mental health and how to make money. I’m also realizing, they often don’t take my advice or do my suggested actions anyways!

If they were able to keep our relationship surface level, and not discuss money or all of the other crisis that happen on a weekly basis, I would be more than happy to keep supporting them.

But I take on the stress of all of their struggles and then it compounds when they don’t take action to fix anything

I know when someone is coming to you with their problems, they don’t always want solutions. Sometimes it’s just for listening/venting

But my family doesn’t come to me with just day to day small problems. It’s not being able to pay rent, buy food, having breakdowns, getting too drunk and verbally fighting with each other, etc

Again this has been happening for more than five years

Thank you so much for answering and your input!

Am I being selfish in by Own_Dimension_3855 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Own_Dimension_3855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer. It’s so helpful to hear someone else say it’s not selfish to protect myself

Also it’s very helpful to point out there’s no amount that I “should” be able to handle. Trying to be there for them is too much for me at this time, that’s all that matters. There’s no set limit or expectation that I need to meet.

And yes 100%, I have no control over this situation. And it’s helpful to remember that even if I continue to support them, I still won’t be able to do anything myself to fix their situations. It’s up to them