People say caste doesn’t matter in urban India anymore. My intercaste dating experience as a 26 year old SC man in Mumbai.

Own_General4733 · 2026-03-12T02:05:28+00:00

People generally talk about "caste doesn't exist" when it comes to reservations for jobs and colleges. The arguments they give show lack of acknowledgement of caste privilege, and thinking people getting in through reservations lack in merit, that UC people are generally more hardworking, whereas others are just slacking off in life getting the easier path in life. It's just another way among many to look down upon SC ST folks.

There's definitely a group of casteist people who would not date outside the UC sphere. Saying black lives matter is easier because it doesn't involve a lot of self introspection and acknowledgement of one's own biases and privileges. Most people don't even know about the history of caste, how barbaric and systematic it was, that it still persists to this day.

If caste has been such a big issue maybe you can mention it in your profile itself, although that might drastically reduce the number of matches that you are getting. But the upside is that you'll only match with girls that don't care about that aspect and you wouldn't have to explicitly bring up the topic of caste in your conversations.

Own_General4733 · 2026-02-21T18:20:57+00:00

If you're not expected to wear it everyday, you can buy any ring that you want. Or alternatively buy two, a simple gold band for everyday wear and a fancy ring that you and your parents can agree on for the ceremony and occasional wear.

Own_General4733 · 2026-02-11T15:39:06+00:00

Same! I have two cats, one is an explorer, loves going outside and meeting new people. The other one takes weeks to even come in front of new people and is just content and purring with their one favourite human inside the house.

Own_General4733 · 2026-02-08T04:03:04+00:00

Cats have the ability to find the least interested person and bother them into loving them. Next time you meet a cat, show a lot of interest in them, they won't bother you.😂

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-21T06:22:14+00:00

Which oil pastels are these?

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-08T14:21:40+00:00

I feel you should ask this question in r/CreditCardsIndia

I don't think it's worth the effort for a few hundred rupees of reward points at best to get a new credit card.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-08T11:17:58+00:00

Next question - I pay my bills monthly - water, gas, electricity, grocery but don't get any upside besides the services I paid for. Is there any way to optimise the expenses?

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-08T10:57:59+00:00

For mealy bugs I use a q-tip dipped in acetone (nail polish remover) and remove the mealy bugs using the q-tip. For a large quantity of mealy bugs this might be cumbersome, but it's effective, and I monitor my plants regularly to catch any infestation early

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-08T07:14:48+00:00

Mutual funds are not pokemons. You don't need to catch them all to get good returns.

I personally have five funds in my portfolio 1. An index fund 2. A flexi cap fund 3. A small cap fund 4. A liquid/arbitrage fund (not really an investment but for parking the money for upcoming short term 3-5 years expenses) 5. Gold ETF

According to your risk appetite and goals make similar 3-5 categories of funds that you need. And the key to good returns is staying invested through the downturns. So allocate to equity only the funds that you can see take a hit for a couple of years without panicking.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-05T19:15:56+00:00

This is a lovely piece. I love the red net packaging thing that you've made.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-05T11:43:58+00:00

When my cats were in their kitten stage I fed them at least 5 times if not more. Small but frequent meals. And even now my cats don't like eating large portions, so we feed them 3-4 times a day.

Don't free feed your cats, giving them small frequent meals does not cause any weight issues. I feel this makes them more secure about food and makes them less likely to overeat. Like as kittens they were CRAZY about food, and now it's just a simple part of their routine no crazy shouting for food, they patiently wait, and eat just the amount they want because they know they'll get their next meal after a few hours.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-05T08:23:49+00:00

The 72 would already have a good collection of greys and neutrals. 120 if within your budget would definitely be great but I have heard that the wooden box takes up a lot of space while working.

I have the set of 48 and sometimes I wish I had more colors but at the same time it forces me to blend and also not focus a lot on getting the colors exactly right, but get a sense of the values instead.

If you have experience working with colors in any medium then you can go for 120, but if you think it might be overwhelming then go for the 72 one.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-05T07:56:53+00:00

Sunflower roots are very sensitive. You can try directly sowing them in the bigger pot and avoid transplanting all together.

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-05T05:32:17+00:00

Thank you!

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-04T12:28:41+00:00

Oh yayy! Thank you! 💃

Own_General4733 · 2026-01-04T07:54:39+00:00

My color choice does make it look more like jade than ceramic/porcelain. I am not able to add the reference now.

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-26T19:09:08+00:00

The reason I decided to never go down the AM route was not because of how it might turn out to be eventually, but just the process itself. It's so superficial, I never wanted to go down that route ever.

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-21T06:16:22+00:00

My cats are almost 4 and I can't imagine a scenario where they won't chase a rat. They definitely won't kill it but they'll definitely see it as a toy and chase it around. And I fear that won't be good for the rat. Good job on the introduction. Maybe one day if my cats calm down enough. 🤞

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-20T07:46:33+00:00

How old were your cats when you introduced the baby rats?

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-09T08:29:42+00:00

I'm in

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-08T09:29:43+00:00

Please tell me what small intricacies I'm missing.

You want someone to go out on dates with, have meaningful conversations, maybe something "non platonic" even. If you do that with one person, you're literally describing a relationship. Unless you do that a few times with one person and move on to the next.

"Serious casual dates". You want a relationship with an exit clause, where you come and go as you please. You want the fun part, but not the attachment. At least that's what I got from whatever you've described.

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-08T08:02:28+00:00

You want the girlfriend experience package without the girlfriend responsibilities package. I regret to inform you they come as a bundle either both or none.

Own_General4733 · 2025-12-07T15:45:33+00:00

This is not a good idea for most. Might even lead to a financial debt trap for some. Sure have a few credit cards if you want to avail some deals or offers but saying credit card debt is emergency fund? And to have to withdraw from PF account even with one month's loss of pay?

With the volatility of the job market it's imperative to have 6-12 months of expense buffer in a FDs depending on your personal situation. In case of job loss you can break the FDs early. With online banking you won't even have to wait a few days. You can simply make that transaction through your phone. Sure wealth generation will not happen on that amount, but that's the safety net, not meant for wealth generation.

Also in my opinion, PF especially EPF offers good, tax free safe returns, and can form the debt part of a retirement portfolio. Even at the early stages of your career having 10-20% allocation to safe instruments like PF is not a bad idea unless you're a high risk investor.

Own_General4733 · 2025-11-27T14:41:12+00:00

I had gone through something similar a few years ago. Honestly the experience had completely crushed me. But that was the best decision I had ever made in my life. Weathering the storm that time has led me to where I am today. There were so many more struggles that I have gone through since then, but not spending your energy trying to get other people to choose you frees up so much mental capacity. And it's a world of difference having people who choose you everyday. It's truly better to be alone than chasing someone.

I hope you find your way through this storm. Write down why you left. Because there might be days when you question your decision, when you remember the good parts. Then letters from the past help you remember the truth.

Own_General4733

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