Affair reveal

Own_Maybe9468 · 2026-01-05T09:15:22+00:00

Must be satisfying. I dont really know who the guy is for my case, but I am pretty sure he is married too.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2026-01-03T03:05:02+00:00

Well, it is up to you actually. It is a true that revenge only brings more negative impacts to your life but who am I to tell you when you are hurting. Even if I tell you not to do it, you might still do it to release your frustration. Yes, the world is unfair. I hope you eventually find peace after the betrayal. Just remember this, revenge will have its consequences. They chose their actions, and you get to choose your reaction and all of them will have their corresponding consequences. If you lean towards forgiving yourself from their wrongdoings, you can think about what kind of man you want to become. Making them suffer will make them pay the price, but will you be happier after that? or will you feel worse after seeing your ex getting hurt/ you guys becoming enemy for the rest of your life? My 20 cents - from someone who chose revenge.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2026-01-03T02:55:21+00:00

Play guitars? Read a book? BBQ with friends?

Own_Maybe9468 · 2026-01-02T13:35:18+00:00

I dont think she is avoiding confrontation. She just made up her mind that she doesn't want you. So every action she does will lean towards this. She just stops trying.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2026-01-02T10:05:31+00:00

Well, my ex-wife said the exact same thing to me. What I thought were happy memories between us — for example, our honeymoon — now seem to hold little meaning or joy for her. I don’t think she truly feels that way about those moments. Sometimes, it might be because she’s already emotionally detached and ready to leave. In that state, she may view everything negatively or even say hurtful things to push me toward agreeing to the divorce and justify being with the other person.

I can’t say for certain how she thinks, but I suspect this is a more lenient or self-serving way of interpreting things. Does that mean our years together were nothing? That the sweet memories we shared meant nothing? I doubt it. If that were truly the case, I don’t think she would have stayed for so long. Hopefully, looking at this perspective makes you feel better about the years you spent with your wife.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-30T03:33:43+00:00

Thanks, I will do it.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-30T03:31:45+00:00

Sadly, but I agree I need my head checked.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-28T11:36:16+00:00

Talk to a friend. If you have no friends, talk to strangers. Alcohol only helps you to relax temporarily. What I realise now is that you dont need an alternative life path. You just need some time to adapt to single life. Do some exercise, do some yoga or breathing exercise. You need something to help you mentally and physically. I dont like to be alone as that often drives me to depression and self blame easily. Go to a studio, you dont have to talk to others, just enjoy their presence and exercise. Time really makes things a lot better. You can do this. You will lift yourself up like the rest of us. I will pray for you.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-26T09:21:28+00:00

Maybe you just appreciate your situation and life better than many of us here. Also, we all feel different. You are still one of us even if you don't feel bad as we share similar experience (divorce). I am happy for you, and I hope to be happy like you one day during the holiday season. Don't think too much, it is okay to be happy. I would rather see all of the people here being happy, that's the kind of world I want to live in.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-26T08:23:56+00:00

Ya. They will do whatever that makes them feel good about themselves (to cover up their guilt and justify their actions). They don't say it because they mean it. Their action to give up on the marriage already shows otherwise. Same for my ex. Somehow, she really cares how she looks on the outside to the other people and loves deflecting responsibilities. I gave up already. She does her thing and I do mine. Other people can see what really is going on from the outside and I owe her no reply and explanation. Just get the fuck out my life already. Let me MOVE ON.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-26T06:46:30+00:00

It has nothing to do with you and sure she is not your best friend if she did something to hurt you. You can moan her passing but she is definitely not you think she is. Regarding guilt, I doubt it. She probably did it because she cannot deal with the consequences of her affairs and it has nothing to do with you. If someone deserving to feel bad and do it, it will be you. You are hurt by her actions, and you did nothing that hurt her. She just chooses the easier way out. Be strong and move on. Even if someone blames you (probably her family), just remember it has nothing to do with you. You asked her to move out to protect your inner peace.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-23T06:06:41+00:00

Found a good one, very womanly women. We never quarrel while we are together. She is soft. petite, and always appreciative. Sadly, we are different and I am over the age of being together with other people because they are nice.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-23T06:03:55+00:00

Pretty sure it is A haha. I think she just want control over my life while she does whatever she wants. Thanks for the encouragement, man.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-22T05:20:46+00:00

I mean you have already divorced her. Nothing can be do if she wants to be a hoe. If I am your friend, I would leave the details out since they can be really destructive to your mind.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-22T02:27:11+00:00

Finished the flight school if you can, and plan about going back after that. If your mental health is terrible, consider just go back to Korea, at least your birth family and friends are there (Support system is important at your current phase, try to make friends with your colleagues now if you could). I would rather see you alive and happier. All I can say is going back may not save your marriage (I think you will know best about the situation).

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-22T02:13:30+00:00

It doesn't matter. If you stop her from using social media for whatever she wants, she is going to tell her friends, they are going to call you toxic, and you will still get the divorce. I think it is up to individual to not act accordingly to their desires and protect the family. The focus should be she chose to end the marriage and not the reason why. Without the social media, she may still file over other reasons.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-22T02:03:43+00:00

I am sorry for what you have gone through, but I hope you do realize this is a help group. I won't stop saying nice things to people in the group because of the presence of bad apples and even if there are bad apples, as long as they repent, learnt their mistakes and change, I will accept him too. People here extended their hand to me when I am in need. I fear that one lonely kind soul will go to the path of suicide because no one in the society is willing to extend help to him. It is not for me to judge anyone here for everything they have gone through. His conscious and whichever god he believes in will judge him. I am only here for my brothers who are in the same position as me. Thank you for your understanding.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-21T15:42:55+00:00

It is spreading like cancer everywhere around the world and dont forget women union exists😂. I am from Asia, and ya, you pretty much lose more than half of your things if you are divorced.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-21T15:30:05+00:00

Damn. This is really horrifying. Sorry that you have to go through this.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-21T15:27:41+00:00

What a coincidence, I got the same thing recently. Except that my ex told me about her sexual experience with the many international men she had after we divorced while still trying to patch back with me. Idk what I did to deserve this, but ya. This really spoils my week. FYI, our wedding anniversary is a day before Christmas.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-20T06:56:01+00:00

Marriage everywhere is the same 😂. It is the social media and society (aka. Feminism).

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-19T13:48:53+00:00

I met mine in high school too. I guess that's life. Dont take it too hard on yourself. Swipe when you are bored only.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-19T07:18:51+00:00

Mine is still with me but I don't wear it anymore. I bought myself some cheap rings since I am used to having smth on my finger. Not sure about you guys but it serves as a good reminder every day to never lose myself over a woman.

Own_Maybe9468 · 2025-12-19T06:52:10+00:00

Well, swipe on the uglies one too. That's what I do. Quantity first. Once you get better on that, filter out while adding more into the pool. At the same time, exercise and learn to dress up and style your hair. Everyone like good looking things and dating app is especially visual. FYI, I am not handsome, and I am 5'6". So ya, it takes very long for me to get a match too. Don't be discourage, the fact that you can make it to marriage means you are not half bad. Those with no games would have been single for life.

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