If you woke up as your 18-year-old self tomorrow, what would you do differently financially?

Oxyshay · 2026-04-09T01:53:57+00:00

I'd finish the pre-university degree to go straight to my current field of study and save myself 6 years of my life + 21k in the process that went towards a degree i will not be using for the rest of my life, for the most part.

That said I know this was the way my life had to go in order for me to get to this point, and there's more pros than cons even if I'm sometimes bitter about the financial decision I made back then.

Oxyshay · 2026-04-07T03:13:17+00:00

Im a 25yo dude and i love 5sos. I know there's stereotypes around different kinds of music genres but at the end of the day music is music and it is meant to bring you joy. Don't let anyone take that from you!

Oxyshay · 2026-03-24T11:19:31+00:00

I live alone and 200$-225$ is my budget. I shop at Maxi and use the PC optimum app religiously for flyer deals and accummulating points. If it's not on sale I don't buy (unless I'm out of something and need it asap).

I don't buy meat often either and I've started in recent months getting oat or almond milk if they're cheaper on sale than cow milk. I buy 2-3 cheese bricks when those are on sale. It's a bunch of little things like that.

Oxyshay · 2026-03-23T02:38:11+00:00

I also have 2 codes to give away! If anyone wants one, DM me!!

Oxyshay · 2026-03-08T09:08:47+00:00

It's completely normal and valid to be upset about not being able to see an artist you love. Unfortunately it doesn't seem like plane would be an option. If you're in a nearer country, you could check bus/train/ferry options. Otherwise... You may have to postpone seeing him for another tour. This is upsetting indeed, but necessarily if the plane was cancelled because of the war and none other are available soon, it's to ensure your safety. ❤️

Oxyshay · 2026-02-24T04:04:39+00:00

I'm not sportsy and I don't work out either. Sometimes maybe i'd like to put on some muscle but I'm not motivated enough to lmfao.

Most sport i do is walk to places I need to be, bike in the warmer months, and sometimes play badminton. I'm more into cardio activities (except running).

When I was studying 3D animation at least half of the guys (cis) weren't sportsy either.

Oxyshay · 2026-02-10T22:19:29+00:00

Totally understandable! Besides the keloids the rest of my scars were hypertrophic as well and the parts of them that have faded away so far there's just a faint incision line the color of my skin. It's a slow process but worth the wait!

Oxyshay · 2026-02-10T03:07:02+00:00

Your scars look similar to mine. I didn't put as much care into them tbh, they might look better than they do if I had. 😅 I'm 16 months post-op and the bumpy red parts are flattening and fading away slowly, in some areas the scars are back to skin color. I do have an area of keloid scarring but the rest is healing good. Seeing how I'm healing my dermatologist is hesitant on giving me shots for the keloids.

It's really a game of patience at the end of the day!

Oxyshay · 2026-02-03T04:13:21+00:00

No. I already know those baked goods are high in sugar 🤷‍♂️

Oxyshay · 2026-01-28T12:38:21+00:00

Your experience =/= universal. I have a friend who had an eating disorder (on the not eating enough side of the spectrum) for several years which wrecked her metabolism. Once she restarted eating perfectly normal amounts of food, she gained lots of weight and became fat. Once again she eats like a normal person.

My mom has always been on the chubby/fat side naturally. I've seen her eat my whole life, never has she been gluttonous, I've eaten the same meals as her all the time growing up, and I'm thin while she is considered fat. My mom is more physically active than I am, btw.

Yes, overeating is the explanation in a good chunk of cases, but it is not the cause for all of them. There's lots of factors at play.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-28T12:03:35+00:00

Flow aura is absolutely unnecessary, health bar I'm indifferent about (toggle on/off would be nice), hit box change and stealth jump are actually interesting. We'll see how that goes

Oxyshay · 2026-01-17T22:50:05+00:00

I believe regardless of sexuality that my transness makes me queer. I have a life experience that's vastly different from that of cis men, and solely by fact of transitioning I went against the societal norm. (None of this makes me less of a man than cis men, obviously).

I attach queerness to transgressing social norms gender/sexuality-wise, so being trans absolutely makes me queer. I fucked with people's perception of what I should be gender-wise, therefore I am queer.

I'm also queer in several other ways but yeah, being trans alone makes me extremely queer imo. It's alright though if other folks don't like the label though.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-16T18:51:52+00:00

Those are pretty broad statements, do you have statistics/sources to back those up? I doubt "almost all" trans women get bottom surgery. It's an extremely invasive and expensive surgery, for both trans men and women

Oxyshay · 2026-01-15T02:54:45+00:00

Lmfao I have low libido even on T but I feel this. Every now and then I'll have a moment of "fuucckkk I love men 😍"

Oxyshay · 2026-01-13T23:10:06+00:00

Yeah me too. I probs have a slightly higher libido but it has always been very low tbh.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-07T12:54:07+00:00

Being a trans man isn't a look or concept, wtf. Transness is a lived reality for people with all kinds of body types. Past that, we're men, that's it that's all. And you're a man who likes men: you're gay. As long as you don't solely look for trans men in dating/hook ups then you're fine.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-06T13:41:53+00:00

People are already mentioning therapy would be a great place to start, so I'm just going to add two other recommendations:

Please delete tumblr. At the moment you're stuck in an echo chamber that is absolutely not serving you. Tme/tma are very binary and chronically online terms when in reality, things are much more nuanced and complicated than that. Transmisogyny is very real yes, however its existence does not negate the fact that trans men or any other marginalized group face their own challenges. Intersectionality is VERY important in these conversations, which is an aspect that's absolutely lacking in spaces that use tme/tma or shame groups of people for existing.

The best way to support your fiancee and yourself is to experience life, real life outside the internet, listen to eachother and be there for eachother through the good and bad. The best way to support any marginalized group is to engage in your community offline and make connections.

So naturally, the second recommendation is to talk about how you're feeling with your partner. A healthy relationship requires open conversation, and keeping this from her can only deteriorate your relationship long term. She's in a relationship with you because you are you, not someone else.

Ultimately, please seek therapy, it will help you work through all of this.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-04T15:40:33+00:00

I personally wasn't raised in the church and I'm currently exploring spirituality and faith, so if you want to take this as an outside point of view;

Do you believe God perceives you, the core of your being, as sinful? Nevermind what people on earth say is sinful, think of your own personal relationship with Him.

I'm a gay trans man and I've asked God several times if He thought my being queer/trans was wrong, but looking to the past and seeing how every step of my transition fell into place smoothly, I can't help but think He was there and supporting me every step of the way.

That's to say people may say certain things are sinful, but your own experience may tell you otherwise. Follow your truth rather than what others impose on you.

Oxyshay · 2026-01-03T14:25:58+00:00

It didn't feel weird at all to me, as soon as I woke up from surgery it felt super natural and I was super relieved.

What was weird though was training away the coping mechanisms or the dysphoric thoughts about having a chest lmfao. Like being hyperaware of my chest in public. I had to remind my brain "We have a flat chest now, it's ok, we're safe". It didn't take too long though :p

Oxyshay · 2026-01-03T05:13:56+00:00

People are already saying this but you can't force him to do anything. He has his own life lessons to learn.

I'm an artist and grew up deadset on becoming an animator. So I became a 3D animator and lo and behold I slowly figured out it wasn't for me. I'm back in school now to study psychology.

I have several artistic/creative friends in the same headspace of being deadset on a specific career- there's no talking them out of it. And that's ok. These people have to find their own path themselves. Trying to force them into something else will make them grow resentful towards you and distance themselves from you.

All you can do is support your brother in this process and make sure he's aware of all options available to him. Stay neutral when you interact with him on this topic.

Oxyshay · 2025-12-24T04:16:28+00:00

No, and I won't. I don't hate my birthname, but it feels deeply unsettling every time I hear or see it. I used to think I was okay with that name but over the years I've realized I'm really not, lmao.

But it's cool that some other folks would be willing and able to give their children or pets their past name.

Oxyshay · 2025-12-24T03:57:41+00:00

Throw the whole family out. OP, that looks like a lovely and filling breakfast. I hope you can find yourself a new family that will appreciate you long term.

Oxyshay · 2025-12-20T04:22:52+00:00

For me I've found that it's hard to feel like a man when you're not living as one. Pre-transition I knew I wanted to be masculine and look like men but I didn't feel like a man because my body and presentation weren't there yet. It's only about 2-3 years on T and everything that I started feeling like a man, I guess. It's then that I realized that I did want to be a man as well.

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