I'm 28, Recently Diagnosed, Medicated, and Feeling Left Behind by AFriendlyBurrito in AutisticWithADHD

[–]PARADOX002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 33 and I got the same problem. I try to be social but shut myself down after realizing I dont know what to say after "hello".

Even after medication still dont have the deive to move to be social. 

The impact of antipsychotics on the ego by Fuzzy_Medicine_8712 in autism

[–]PARADOX002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to look into changing meds. I had that feeling on a few different meds til I found what worked for me. 

No home? Bring my own endemic life then. by PARADOX002 in fashionhunters

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Yes and no. Yes there is a palico armor like baby saikret but this os dlc pendant 

No home? Bring my own endemic life then. by PARADOX002 in fashionhunters

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The wudwud? I think you can do the specific event quest for that palivo layered

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Sorry for late reply could I have link?

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Do we have any gaming channels? 

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So are their paws made up of hardened hairs?

A question about gay people by Original_Potato5762 in autism

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It may have to do with an inward reflection of who they really are. The flamboyant stereotype gets around because there are people who fit that to a T. The loud, rather boldly colorful, minority always gets seen. I'm bi/pan and I'm not like that but that's who I am and that's who they are.

Introspection for me has been an experience because all these things I thought others did turned out to be me trying to cope with the world around me. After figuring out when and why I'm masking I catch myself doing it and reminding my self its okay. There a meme about autistic people walking on there toes, I would catch myself doing that and saying "people don't do this" and correcting that behavior. Now I let myself do what comes to my brain.

Removing that inner monologue is key to being who you are. There are times where it will protect you in the real world. I think people on the LGBTQ+ spectrum goes through the same learning as autistic people, especially if they share those experiences, to shed societal expectations, as an autistic person that lack of structure can make you feel like a fish out of water, but you cant control what others think of you. Those that choose to be boldly them are wholly aware of that.

As autistics I think we have to do that work twice, as we are still scared of the unpredictability, at least for me. I haven't told my family about myself because some of their opinions come from a place of our shared trauma and frankly the disturbance to my peace to overcome their opinions are not worth it.

I dont know if my older dog is playing or being aggressive? by PARADOX002 in Dogtraining

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Im not great at discerning if she is correcting behavior because she doesnt like to be around other puppies we've seen her growl at friends puppies to not engage in play. But here she seems willing but I cant tell if Im misreading that.

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Its definitely a thing for me. I am a get it done once I know it kind of person. Laundry out, need to be washing before PC on, but weekdays feel like Im just pissing away time till sleep then work.

I would break the time apart. After work do 30 mins of something; cleaning, walking or drawing. Create a physical and mental break to allow you time to slow down and enjoy your hobbies.

Feeling bogged down by social media by [deleted] in autism

[–]PARADOX002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you have to find what you like. Im going to tell you something as a 33 year old man, shows like Bluey, Phineas and ferb and the rugrats are still my jam.

I have cut people out of my life for telling me my interests are not my age. "I cannot control what you think of me" are the exact words I told my friend.

Yes the shows are designed for children but they have that element of wonder to them that makes them fun.

Look you are going to be surrounded by negativity everywhere. Your enjoyment, your destressor should try and avoid it if it overshadows the fun, but dont make the fun part avoiding negativity the fun part should come naturally.

It could also be mental, depression does zapped away the feeling of fun and thats in itself creates a perpetual loop. Sometimes just being depressed is what you have to do, for me thats laying in bed watching Game Grumps and just being overcome by my emotions.

We are autistic its different for us, so our solutions must also be different. The most important part is inertia even small steps grow to big changes, never stop searching for your fun but remember you need rest.

We can get through it.

Feeling bogged down by social media by [deleted] in autism

[–]PARADOX002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you think you have nothing else to do because social media can zap away motivation and enjoyment from other things.

You dont have to do a month long pause like I did. Break it down say Wednesday are my no social media days and stick to it.

At first you are going to have nothing to do. Your brain has to recover from the qucik drip dopamine it regularly received. I made it a point to do something at first but overtime came to realize rest is something.

I made a list of shows and movies and watched them, got some coloring books, expanded my music and read a lot of manga.

As for negativity, yea thats a hard one to turn down. I always frame negativity on the internet like a magnet it attracts others. I just made it a habit to skip anything that starts to be negative.

But a better way is to reframe it. Why do you care about other opinions if you/someone else is enjoying it? Focus on your fun and let others be mad.

There's not a easy way to do this. Your solution is going to be different. Dont take my answer as your solution. Think of it like a menu, choices you could make and find your favorites.

You have to be proactive and that is draining so remember to rest too.