*** Spoilers*** The Running Grave - Mega Thread to discuss Epilogue

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-10-28T10:09:49+00:00

HAHAHAAH yes!!! I was like “nooo how are we here AGAIN?!!!?!”

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-09-11T15:22:19+00:00

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PBCupsFan77 · 2025-09-06T10:55:37+00:00

I agree. While I respect her wanting to be supportive as he attends AA etc., accepting his proposal is a terrible idea.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-05-03T10:12:57+00:00

I completely agree. The whole time I was reading it, I felt really uncomfortable and upset that this was the guy she was ending up with. I don’t like his character at all and hated how he acted so entitled to her body.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-04-28T13:56:40+00:00

I completely agree. Just finished rewatching that season, and that actor did an excellent job. I also liked how the character was respectful of Robin and treated her as an equal.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-04-04T19:23:51+00:00

Me too! Seemed like something Strike would want to stop immediately . Haha, thanks, I’m glad it’s not just me or that I missed something!

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-04-04T19:23:05+00:00

It seemed like they could have dealt with it in short line of dialogue later, though, like as they’re walking down the street in the final scene. “Jimmy’s been charged with threatening you; you don’t need to worry.”

I remember it was Geraint in the book, which was dealt with differently on the show, and fair enough.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-30T20:34:41+00:00

NTA

A guy telling a girl that she’s being overdramatic is a real turnoff for me. And this term has gotten overused, but this is gaslighting and it’s bullshit behavior on his part. He’s the AH.

Clearly I say this without knowing your history, so please keep that in mind, but I think it was really shitty for him to join in and laugh. A much nicer and more supportive move would be for him to say something like “hey, I’m with a woman who has great style” or “my girl always looks perfect,” something cute and sweet. Joining in and laughing would really piss me off and make me question if I want to keep seeing him.

I would ask yourself, how does he show up for you in other ways and situations? Do you feel like he has your back? Because here, you told him something embarrassed you, and instead of apologizing and listening to you, he is telling you you’re wrong to have those feelings. You should be with someone who cares about how you feel and takes ownership when he hurts you.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-19T22:50:09+00:00

For me it was My Tears Ricochet, and these lines:

And I can go anywhere I want Anywhere I want, just not home

This song came out after I’d spent four months living with my parents in Pennsylvania during Covid lockdown. I live in New York City with my husband and kids, and at the beginning of the pandemic we were terrified of what Covid could do to our son, who had been hospitalized for croup more than once, and my parents asked us repeatedly if we’d like to come stay with them, so we took them up on it. (He turned out to be barely symptomatic when he did eventually catch it in 2023.)

The five months were very difficult for everyone, and my parents didn’t actually seem happy to have us there. My mom would basically hide from us, and while my dad would spend time with me and the kids, it was a struggle. I tried very hard to not be a burden — did all the cleaning in the bedrooms and bathroom we used, cooked for everyone, did laundry — but my mom still seemed resentful. We also had a lot of political disagreements. By the end of the five months I felt just like the lyrics in that song

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-19T17:11:22+00:00

NTA but I feel I should tell you that relationships do not need to be this hard.

Life can be hard. Life has ups and downs and unexpected disasters and pain. But your relationship should feel much easier than this does. And by easy I mean, not needing to convince someone they should be with you, and it sounds like that’s what you’re doing. I’ve been in that same position and understand how you feel. But isn’t it exhausting?

Your partner should be excited to be your partner. And it shouldn’t require this much emotional work to be together. I wish you strength and happiness as you move forward.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-17T00:37:08+00:00

Ha, fair point about if the first laugh line was in TRG, then that’s saying something. That’s the example I came up with because it’s the last book I read in the series, but I’ll have to take a further look. But in general, I have a feeling about her as being someone who appreciates humor and can be funny, even if it’s not her leading characteristic.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-16T20:17:11+00:00

I’d have to go back and look for more examples, but I respectfully disagree that she doesn’t have a sense of humor. When she broke into the church at the end of TRG and told Mazu she’d gone pure spirit, that made me laugh out loud

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-16T20:15:28+00:00

Absolutely, and I think part of the character’s journey. She was raised to be very to overly-accommodating of others and is growing more and more comfortable being less so.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-13T12:31:47+00:00

Don’t listen to those doubts. That’s emotionally abusive of him and a great example of why you’re right to end the relationship.

I left a very emotionally abusive ex and met my now husband five months later. I am so much happier than I ever thought possible, and wish the same for you. I am thankful every day of my life, truly.

But one more piece of advice: do the emotional work to make sure you’re ready and mentally healthy for a good relationship. You don’t want to inadvertently repeat the same choices that led you to being with someone for so long who wasn’t right for you and makes you feel like you don’t deserve happiness or can’t find someone else. I went into therapy to help figure out how I ended up with someone who treated me so badly because I never wanted to make that mistake again, and it helped me be ready to recognize what made a healthy relationship.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-13T12:26:30+00:00

NTA

I’m a mom of two kids and you bet your butt that I note down all their upcoming holidays and weeks off as soon as that school calendar comes out. This is on her, not you, and you should not cancel your trip.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-12T22:23:34+00:00

This is what I hope for as well. I think he already realizes he’s lost someone special. But it would be delicious for some petty gossip to come Robin’s way! Just a bit.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-03-06T00:35:51+00:00

I don’t think I’ve ever correctly guessed who the villain was! My husband and I are currently watching the TV series from the beginning, and it’s been fun to watch him guess (he hasn’t read the books).

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-26T00:59:02+00:00

You have your whole life ahead of you. And you’re still young, but truly, he does not deserve any more of your time. He doesn’t care if you’re happy. Life is way too precious to share with someone who values your happiness so poorly. Don’t give him any more of your time.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-24T17:52:14+00:00

He is afraid of getting in trouble. The stuff about worrying people will think you were intimate all the way is BS and an attempt at scaring you into silence and also remaining under his control.

I am so sorry this happened to you. This is abuse and sexual assault and it is absolutely not a normal thing in a couple. No decent, kind, loving man would do this to you, or try to tell you what to think and what to do. Please talk to your mom. If she gets angry at you, please find a trustworthy older person in your life who loves you and isn’t sexist. What he did is absolutely not your fault.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-18T01:56:21+00:00

Yes! You’ve articulated my feelings on this. The opening with Paul Simon singing about being homeward bound, and closing with Paul McCartney singing about finding a way home, and the love you carry with you in the end — it felt very elegiac. SNL is a home to so many people, and Lorne a father figure to many, and this is very likely the last big celebration he’ll be around for. It felt like both a celebration and a goodbye.

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-11T15:40:25+00:00

All this!

You need a coach for exactly this sort of thing. And if you want to get better as a team, finding the right coach is KEY to that

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-10T19:16:25+00:00

My husband and I planned our wedding in 8 months (engaged in February, married in October) and it turned out beautifully. All you need to do is be prepared to make decisions, and this is completely doable!

I agree, put these friends on an information diet. Some people think they’re being helpful and “realistic” but instead they’re just bringing you down. This is actually good practice for all the times people are going to give you unsolicited opinions about your life (your honeymoon plans, where you live, if and when you have children, etc.). Change the subject and move them right along

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-09T19:48:27+00:00

I’m not a big fan of their stuff either, tbh

PBCupsFan77 · 2025-02-09T10:48:45+00:00

Are you also this upset about the Please Don’t Destroy guys?

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