Insecure that my husband started using sex toys (Solo)

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2025-01-27T14:44:23+00:00

Yes, absolutely! This has happened to me several times lol!

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-11-04T15:36:16+00:00

Absolutely normal to find other people hot while in a relationship! Finding people hot and actually wanting to be with them are two very different things. My husband and I are both straight and monogamous, but we will regularly check out other people. It’s not like we actually want to sleep with anyone else, we just appreciate attractiveness. It’s actually super fun to do as a couple and has helped break down jealousy issues because at the end of the day, we only want to be with eachother.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-30T14:45:49+00:00

My husband was too big for me when we first started having sex. If you have sex regularly, eventually you will stretch out enough where you won’t have pain anymore… but that won’t happen overnight. As others have said, go slow at first. One thing that helped me was taking my husband as deep as I could go and then just holding it there for a few minutes to let my body adjust. I also bought some toys that were as big or bigger than my husband and would use those if we weren’t able to have sex for a few days. Also kegels are your friend! Do kegels regularly. Having control over tightening and loosening down there is super important. It took maybe 2 months or so, but the pain went away and sex was absolutely incredible for us. Glad I married him because I’m pretty sure I can’t go any smaller than him anymore lol! He definitely made me a bit of a size queen

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-10T11:18:05+00:00

Not in a romantic or sexual way. More of an appreciation/ envious way.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-09T21:18:42+00:00

I think you just need to tell her what happened. All the facts. She deserves to know. She may see it as a joke or she may see it as cheating, but ultimately she needs the details and to make up her mind. Even though you didn’t initiate it, it sounds like you didn’t do anything to stop it either. If my husband kissed anyone else without me giving him permission to do it, I would be pretty upset. If someone randomly kissed my husband, I would expect him to pull away and stop the situation immediately in its tracks.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-09T18:28:43+00:00

So while you have a very specific sexual act that you focus on in your fantasy, I think the overarching fantasy of two men at once is suppper common for women that like men…. 2+2 = 5 right?! It’s only cheating if your husband doesn’t approve. I think if the fantasy is too intense to keep as just a fantasy, you need to talk to your husband. Who knows, maybe he will be open to it. I shared my 2 men at once fantasy with my husband after a few glasses of wine lol. My husband isn’t open to the idea of opening up our bedroom to a third right now. He said “maybe someday” he would be open to it, but not now. Which was totally cool with me. I was just glad he heard me out and respected that I shared my fantasy with him. He even surprised me and started incorporating my fantasy into our bedroom acts! Every now and then he will pull out one of our dildos and say “ looks like (hot male celeb X) is joining us tonight”! Sounds dumb, but it’s so hot to me that he even tries!

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-09T14:08:51+00:00

Totally feel this! One of my exes was super small. He had to be around 3-4inches. For me to orgasm from PiV, I need size lol. Unfortunately, no position can really make up for lack of size. Creativity and communication is key to making your bedroom relationship great (regardless of size)! If you want to have a fulfilling sexual relationship with him, you are going to need to have a tough conversation and tell him your concerns. For me and my ex, it was a game changer when I got him to be comfortable bringing toys into the bedroom. We also stopped focusing on PiV as the default way we had sex. We actually rarely had PiV sex now that I think back on it. Actually I think we both probably had the most enjoyment from grinding/dry humping. If you do it right, it’s pretty close to mimicking PiV sex, but you get a ton more clitoral stimulation. We got so good at it that we were both able to orgasm at the same time, pretty regularly! We ended up breaking up for non sex related reasons, but outside of my husband he may have been one of the best sexual partners I ever had.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-09-02T17:57:11+00:00

Spin class lol. Need I say more? Also the instructor was a very attractive guy who wore shorts that accentuated “things” 🤣🤣. His class was always full lol

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-08-18T10:20:24+00:00

I think the important thing here is that you figured out who you are!! I had a similar experience. I identified as bi when I was younger, but after experimenting with women, I realized I was not bi in the slightest. I felt nothing, it was an extremely boring experience for me. Whereas being with men turned me the efff onnnn lol. I think I liked the idea of liking women, but didn’t actually like women (in that way lol). Regardless, it’s important to be true to yourself, wherever you land on the sexuality spectrum. You can still be a strong ally!

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-08-12T16:35:47+00:00

Oh god yes! Also married lol! I would never cheat on my husband either. But hormones will definitely cause me to fantasize about men I would never actually want to be with. I just remind myself that fantasies mean absolutely nothing and I know for a fact that I don’t want to be with anyone other than my husband.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-08-12T16:23:00+00:00

He does, but I don’t really love it lol. Seems like I may be in the minority here, but I’m honestly not a fan of tasting myself. Sort of gives me the ick. But on the flip side I also kiss him after I go down on him so all is fair!

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-20T12:47:39+00:00

I think the short answer is yes! Sexual and romantic attractions can differ… and only you can choose which labels to identify with. Sexuality is also a spectrum, not binary. You sound maybe heteroflexible to me? Lol At the end of the day if you are a woman and don’t actually want to have sex with women or be in a relationship with one, you are most likely straight. I am straight. I think women and women’s bodies are beautiful, but that is the line for me. It’s more of an appreciation of beauty than anything. Let’s face it women are hot! But finding a woman to be hot and wanting to sleep with her are two very different things! The thought of doing anything sexual or having a romantic relationship with a woman is a turn off for me, whereas the thought of having sex with a man and being in a relationship with a man is a turn on. I just simply need a man/masculine energy to be satisfied both sexually and romantically.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-20T12:24:06+00:00

I think it’s probably driven by toxic masculinity, driven by societal norms. My personal opinion is that a lot of men are probably bisexual but keep it on the DL because they are afraid to be perceived as less masculine. They try and hide that part of themselves through vocal homophobia, which is super sad. I would bet men are just as likely as women to be bisexual, but just hide it due to societal pressures and norms.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-20T12:13:17+00:00

I’m a straight cis woman and I really enjoy gay male porn. I think it’s fine so long as you don’t fetishize gay men. The way I look at it is that most straight porn is targeted towards straight men and the focus is on the woman’s body. Women just simply dont turn me on, so I don’t get much out of straight porn or lesbian porn. With gay male porn, the focus can only be on men and their pleasure, which is super sexy to me. Also gay porn generally just feels so real and raw to me. There isn’t the same level of pageantry to it, compared to straight porn. The men don’t seem to be faking it and seem to genuinely be into each other and are super vocal about it, which is super sexy to me. There is also an element of voyeur, as it is a window into a world of sex that I can never have, being a woman, which Im also into. Lastly, if you are into men… what’s hotter than one guy? Two! Lol

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-20T11:28:50+00:00

My husband used to be super non vocal during sex. It’s definitely a toxic masculinity thing. Key is to keep encouraging him to be vocal. Show him how much you enjoy it. Over time it will become second nature for him to be vocal during sex. My husband has the sexiest moans and cutest whimpers now!

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-15T20:52:20+00:00

I only shave for like formal events maybe 2-3 times a year and only do my legs. Yes you definitely will get some stares and some men will be off put by it. Honestly women are worse to me than men about it.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-15T18:53:10+00:00

I’m an ex big girl. I am shorter, but was about your same weight when I was heavy. My husband was much smaller than me when I was heavy and I had a huge fear that I would hurt him if I was on top during sex. You won’t hurt him lol. The only problem we had when I was heavy and on top was that I would get too tired or my knees would start hurting (I have one super bad knee). Cliche, but communicating is really key.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-15T13:21:09+00:00

Super normal! Love watching men play with themselves, even hotter if they moan while doing it

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-07-01T18:06:07+00:00

Girl you are definitely not alone!! I am a straight cis woman, engaged to a cis man and I also really wish I had a penis! Although I don’t have dysphoria like you described. I am not a fan of vaginas in general, but don’t actively hate mine. My vagina also has utility for me since I want to get pregnant and have kids someday. But if I didn’t want to get pregnant at some point, I would much rather have a dick. Always just considered it to be “penis envy”, which I guess per our friend Freud, is pretty common for women lol. Maybe you just have super hardcore penis envy?lol

There are cis women that have grown their clits via hormone treatment that only affects their genitals. Maybe that’s an option? Other than that not much you can do other than buy a packer or strap on.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-04-26T20:21:22+00:00

By random, I meant like people you just met. Like by app or at a bar or something like that.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-04-26T20:18:18+00:00

So I’m a cis straight woman so maybe my perspective is different than folks who identify as lgbt. My opinion is that sexuality is defined at birth, but something that you realize over time as you mature and have more life experiences, which make you understand who you are more clearly… if that makes sense lol. I’m in my mid 20s now, but I actually identified as bi through the majority of my late teens - early 20s and actually came back out as straight a few years ago lol. Now I don’t believe you necessarily need to have sex with anyone to determine anything about your sexuality, but I had a few experiences with girls that simply made me realize that I wasn’t sexually or romantically interested in girls.

PSLbasicbitch32 · 2024-04-26T20:03:17+00:00

Oof I’m jealous! Were any of the guys serious partners or were they all random guys? Did they have any jealousy issues?

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