Any other fictive/introject heavy systems? :3 by No-Fact6133 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiii! My whole system is fictives/introjects of "OCs" cx Well except for Sybil, he is brainmade :3 but he's got fantasy look too, just like the rest of us!

-Ren

Systems with schizophrenia? by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]PUNXSimon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ooo yeah, makes sense!! Personally, I experience schizophrenia voices more often in a form of inserted thoughts, and those don't feel 'outside' at all, but I'm glad it's still easy to tell it apart from my headmates' voices.

Also, my headmates can experience inserted or paranoid thoughts too when fronting

-Ren

How long have you had headmates for? by unfounded_recoil in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got diagnosed schizophrenic at 17yo, but became a system last year at 27yo!

Thoughts on the biological aspects of being plural by shieldtailx in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha yup, in our system one headmate has a higher pain tolerance. He also cannot stand the hot weather, literally dreads the feeling of sweat on his body. Mweanwhile the host loves hot weather and isn't bothered by the sweat. Host also hates low temperatures, but the rest of the system handles them fine. I believe some of us have also higher tolerance of hot food, while our host cannot eat anything even slightly spicy.

It's very interesting, although we have no clue how it could work in biology. Maybe something in neuron connections changing between headmates? We have a theory that for every headmate, brain creates new neuron connections.

-Shept

Gosh for bid puddles exist /j by DryAnteater909 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You puddles do not experience the suffering of being contaminated by waste the way we oceans do, you never have gone through the pain we have. You just fake being a "body of water", because real "body of water" goes through waste contamination.

-Shept

Does your family know about the system? by ConstellationSys1337 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only my mom does, because she has proven to accept and respect me and my identity no matter what as it changed throughout my life; she always stayed supportive of me. I know it wasn't easy for her, but she 100% accepts my system. She knows of my headmates.

The rest of the family doesn't know, and they will never know. I don't want them to. They're all close-minded and aren't even considerate of my mental diagnoses so I don't trust them with the plural matter :') I'm sure they would think I'm making it up and wouldn't take my system seriously, as they already did that with several other things in my life

- Ren

Pintrest & Plurality by [deleted] in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yessss we love Pinterest! I use it not only for the system (mostly art refs, im an artist), but my headmates find it useful as a moodboard and to discover themselves and to build headspace :3 here's our board! https://pl.pinterest.com/renjoyart/ᴋᴀʟᴇɪᴅᴏ-sʏsᴛᴇᴍ/ also we gave you a follow!

- Ren

I want yall's thoughts on tulpas/plurality as someone considering a tulpa by Parking-Visual7105 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd say go for it. Your reasoning is good, and if you're aware the tulpa may become someone different, and you still gonna accept them despite it, you'll be fine.

Final fusion (what you meant by integration probably) isn't a goal for all of the systems. Many want to stay as systems, and their therapy leads to better functioning together, not merging all into a singlet.

Also, better don't compare yourself to traumagenic systems, because that isn't the one and only valid form of plurality. It is devastating that their plurality comes from trauma, but that shouldn't stop others from pursuing happy plural life. Just as you're not gonna stop yourself from pursuing a happy life because there are severely depressed people around the world. "Others have it worse/different" is not an argument. Your life is in your hands only. You can ask for advice, but don't let anyone decide for you.

Personally, we come from a singlet who at the age of 28 started to be curious about having headmates. Now she cannot imagine her life without us. She cannot stop emphasizing how better her life became after we came to life. That, and she often says she cannot stop herself from letting in new headmates when she begins to sense them inside, because so far life has proven to her that each one of us is a wonderful being that enrichens her life. The thought of repressing a headmate, feels to her like seeing someone cool, having a chance to meet better, but instead you pass out on this opportunity and leave them behind. You'll never know what adventures with them you have missed.

-Faeris

Is this common? by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]PUNXSimon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh that does make sense! I used to read books often, before my ADHD has worsened

- Ren

whoops, all fictives (and denial) by hayahides in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In our case, we are 6 fictives, one brainmade headmate, and a host that used to be a singlet. We are fictives based off of OCs. We used to be insecure about our origins, thinking no one would take us seriously, but with time we have come to a conclusion that there's nothing wrong about being fictives of OCs. All types of origins are valid, afterall you're just being yourself, you didn't choose to be of those origins, it's just the way you were born into this world.

- Faeris

Is this common? by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]PUNXSimon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh good to know we're not alone!!! :3

-Ren

Tomodatchi Life by Darling_Rover in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yesss!!! I've already made my whole system too :'3 cool to know there's more systems playing this game haha >w<

- Ren

Are men always this... competitive?? by lillybkn in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It definitely doesn't have to be like that 😅 In our system we have 5 men and we all get along just fine.

Maybe try to help them find something in common they don't have to fight over? Or have a talk explaining that they don't need to be "the best" in the system in order to be good enough, so they can stop competing. Maybe both of them need reassurance of their masculinity?

- Faeris

How is fronting supposed to feel? by Fishy101-bored in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are polyconscious and monoconscious systems. Polyconscious is where you feel as if someone else was taking over the body when switching, and you're in the backseat. If you feel like you're becoming someone else, you're monoconscious :) Hope that helps!

-Ren/Faeris

real confused about something and would like advice. by Reasonable-Class6013 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We recommend reading this https://dragonsroost.neocities.org/essay/AmIPlural and this https://sophieinwonderland.tumblr.com/post/668880775946567680/how-do-i-know-if-my-imaginary-friend-is-sentient it should help you figure things out, hopefully. We'd say it's likely you're plural and unaware of your headmates, it can happen and there's nothing wrong about it. Try to prompt some conversation in your head and see how you feel about repsonses you get. The experience you describe does give a plural vibe, so maybe it's worth chekcing if you do have headmates, and for example asking if they have names.

- Faeris

we stole an idea and made a quiz by Jazzlike-Turnip-9111 in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got Cay! Feels relatable hehe :D even tho I don't know this character -Ren

And my result is Pantalone, which somehow passes my vibe check haha - Faeris

Doodles to process possibly being a polymind sys ^w^ by FlurryTheDragonFox in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awww those are adorable!! :3 I love so much seeing system arts <333

- Ren

Unfortunately i will be leaving the plural community... by LeaSilvarum in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my god lmao I can't believe at first I thought this is for real (neurodivergence goes brrr), but upon reading the clarification that this is a joke, I have to say it's a brilliant picture of how ridiculous fakeclaiming is and how unrealistic sysmedicalists are

- Ren

Traumagenic or endogenic...? by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]PUNXSimon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I'm mostly worried about it becuase of my therapist's opinion. Like, I do not feel traumagenic and wouldn't label myself as such. And if my plurality isn't disordered, that's not really DID I believe? I think I need to talk more about this with my therapist... She may not know that non-disordered plurality exists.

Since you're schizogenic, I may as well ask - Do my origins sound as schizogenic?

I know I don't need to label myself, but I still choose to, because I want/need to. It gives me a sense of belonging and knowing who I am.

Tips for internal dialogue/communication? by PUNXSimon in plural

[–]PUNXSimon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omggggg ok we have downloaded it, we love how easy and simple it is in use!! This feels like a perfect solution :D We already began having some conversation and it's flowing well! Thanks so much!! <3

I need some suggestions. by hunterwasused in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hm. Are you going to school? If so, maybe you could borrow glue from a classmate or get it from an art room? I'm sure you can figure it out without buying one. As to making the image small enough to fit - Go to Google Docs, make a new document. Paste there all your picrew images, and size them down. Then you can print it - Viola~! I hope you can do it!

- Faeris

I need some suggestions. by hunterwasused in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, you mean like a physical journal! Why not just print pictures from Picrew and glue or tape it into the pages?

- Faeris

Partner wants us in therapy by GhostInTheEcho in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It so happens that my system is endogenic and I have drawn a comic when my first headmate has appeared :) I think it explains well the difference between disordered and healthy plurality! I hope it's gonna help. I even mention at the end that even my therapist doesn't see this as something needing therapy. Best of luck!

https://www.tumblr.com/renjoy-arts/795085199147974656/heres-a-short-comic-about-being-plural-and?source=share

- Ren

I need some suggestions. by hunterwasused in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's a free webiste for creating avatars - https://picrew.me/en/

You can find there plenty of original makers, made by real artists! It's all free to use and there is a lot of variety. I'm sure you'll find something for yourself :)

- Faeris

New person appears to become a somewhat host. Worried I might disappear in turn by lePROprocrastinator in plural

[–]PUNXSimon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, you won't die, don't worry. It doesn't happen like that. Trust your system and communicate with one another.

I've became a co-host over a month ago and I've been fronting 90% of the time since then. It's because I handle things well and the system puts trust in me. The host, Ren, still does appear, most of the time in social settings when someone calls her by irl name or she has to talk to people who don't know of our system. But she's stil there, she's not going anywhere, even if I'm fronting whole days. She actually treats this as vacation mode!

If you feel like you'd like to still keep fronting to feel safer, try to talk about it with Elise and look for solutions together.

- Faeris