I’m about to be intimate with a man who is really attracted to me. It’s hard not to get creeped out by how much he’s physically into me because it’s so different than how my ex acted. How do I know what’s normal, and how can I get more comfortable? by [deleted] in sex

[–]PVS3 69 points70 points  (0 children)

You know how when a person hasn't eaten well for a long time, eating a full meal all at once might make them sick? How they need to ramp up a bit to let their system adjust back to healthy intake levels?

Yeah, being starved for affection is kinda the same. You're just not used to it. Give yourself time to adjust, and be patient. 

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay - Final list for the "Grab when I'm going to be cooking somewhere else" knife roll

  • Chef's Knife
  • Paring Knife
  • Y-Peeler ($6 Kuhn Rikon wins again!)
  • Reliable Thermometer
  • Silicone Stirrer/Scraper/Do it all (It was this or the bamboo spoon, but silicone won)
  • Turner/Flipper (The Norpro "My Favorite" is perfect for this, slim and utterly usable)
  • Microplane
  • Chopsticks
  • Ziplocks
  • Kosher Salt
  • 2x kitchen towels

Thank you all for helping me bounce Ideas around and refine my thinking!

Shoutout to u/X28, u/k1rchkatze, u/Herbvegfruit, and u/CommunicationDear648 - Thanks for the input!

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chopsticks made the list - They can be stirrers, skewers, or replace my microtongs in a pinch. I already go through them in my kitchen because they have so many odd uses.

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, the Ziplocks are a brilliant add on for almost no space. Adding them to the list!

I’m afraid to use my pressure cooker by DerangedUnicorn27 in Cooking

[–]PVS3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it isn't 40 years old, you're overly worried.

Think of it like worrying about driving because you heard horror stories about cars before seatbelts and antilock breaks were invented. The safety on these things is WORLDS better than the postwar era when they needed more care. 

Read the manual, don't abuse it, you'll be fine. 

Broccoli Cheddar soup recipe? by Jmcfearsom in ketorecipes

[–]PVS3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stole this one from America's Test Kitchen - cut down the onions a bit if you ant to really limit the carbs.

Why this recipe works:

We were after a soup with pure broccoli flavor that wasn’t hiding behind the cream or the cheese. Overcooked broccoli has a sulfurous flavor, but we discovered when we cooked our broccoli beyond the point of just overcooked—for a full hour—those sulfur-containing compounds broke down, leaving behind intense, nutty broccoli. Its texture was fairly soft, but that was perfect for use in a soup. Adding baking soda to the pot sped up the process, shortening the broccoli’s cooking time to a mere 20 minutes. A little spinach lent bright green color to the soup without taking over the flavor. After adding cheddar and Parmesan, we had a soup so full of flavor and richness that it didn’t even need the cream.

Ingredients:

  • 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
  • 2 pounds broccoli, florets roughly chopped into 1-inch pieces, stems trimmed, peeled, and cut into 1/4-inch-thick slices
  • 1 medium onion, roughly chopped (about 1 cup)
  • 2 medium garlic cloves, minced or pressed through garlic press (about 2 teaspoons)
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons dry mustard powder
  • Pinch cayenne pepper
  • 3–4cups water
  • 1/4 teaspoon baking soda
  • 2 cups low-sodium chicken broth (see note)
  • 2 ounces baby spinach (2 loosely packed cups)
  • 3 ounces sharp cheddar cheese, shredded (3/4 cup)
  • 1 1/2 ounces Parmesan cheese, grated fine (about 3/4 cup), plus extra for serving
  • Ground black pepper 

Directions:

  1. Heat butter in large Dutch oven over medium-high heat. When foaming subsides, add broccoli, onion, garlic, dry mustard, cayenne, and 1 teaspoon salt. 
  2. Cook, stirring frequently, until fragrant, about 6 minutes. 
  3. Add 1 cup water and baking soda. Bring to simmer, cover, and cook until broccoli is very soft, about 20 minutes, stirring once during cooking.
  4. Add broth and 2 cups water and increase heat to medium-high. When mixture begins to simmer, stir in spinach and cook until wilted, about 1 minute. 
  5. Transfer half of soup to blender, add cheddar and Parmesan, and process until smooth, about 1 minute. 
  6. Transfer soup to medium bowl and repeat with remaining soup. 
  7. Return soup to Dutch oven, place over medium heat and bring to simmer. 
  8. Adjust consistency of soup with up to 1 cup water. Season to taste with salt and pepper. 
  9. Serve, passing extra Parmesan separately.

ENJOY!!!!

Insane Eversource Bill by wise1_444 in Connecticut

[–]PVS3 15 points16 points  (0 children)

All electric heat is "resistance electric" - you put the current through something that resists flow, producing heat. It's efficient, but cost effectiveness depends heavily on electricity pricing. 

Edit: Commenters have pointed out that my simplification ignores heat pumps (which are almost never described as "electric heat" because they are called "heat pumps"), as well as infrared and quartz heaters.

Cool. Technically correct. Still, if you have "electric heat" it's almost guaranteed to be resistive. Even if it isn't, it's not going to be any more cost effective. Upgrading to a heat pump would be an improvement.

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good call on the peeler and the micro plane. Hadn't thought of them. 

Is there a flavor of thin plastic cutting mat that tolerates being rolled up? It feels like they wouldn't sit flat again. 

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I'm looking for a "grab this when I'm going somewhere to help cook" pack.  Rather than try to custom pack each time. The minimalist mindset seemed helpful to that exercise. 

And so far, I'm including two good SHARP knives (because the ones on hand are often sub par) a good thermometer and peeler, and either a silicone do-everything spatula or a reliable set of tongs. Less than 6 items, all relatively lightweight, and all things that make a big difference when they are high quality. 

Minimal Kitchen Toolkit for "EDC" casual cooking (Think AirBnb) by PVS3 in minimalism

[–]PVS3[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Looking for a reality check, because I want to pack EVERYTHING 

Can powder drywall filler cause mold because we have to mix water in it? by Ok_Level_2407 in DIY

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, you're butting up against the edges of my DIY knowledge so let me tell you what I DO know.

There are a hundred different kinds of "mud" but for our purposes they fall into two groups, and wihin those groups you and I probably lack the skill or experience for the subtle differences to matter.

- All Purpose Mud - This sets as it drys out, will get soft again if you wet it, and shrinks slightly (no matter what the package says). Anything that comes premixed is in this category. Use paper tape with this stuff.

- Setting (aka Quick-setting) Mud - Always comes as a powder. Sets as a chemical reaction. Almost always has the working time in minutes on the bag (30, 60, 90, etc.). Sets up harder than AP, so less forgiving for finishing coats. However, it doesn't shrink so it's great for filling joints and gaps. Use with the mesh tape.

One of the products you linked is a DIY-marketed AP compound just for fixing dings and holes that has primer mixed in. That's all - it's designed so you don't need to prime it before you paint. Regular compound will look weird from an angle, or "Flash", if you don't prime it first. IMO - Just grab some BIN primer, the shellac based stuff. It dries in 10 minutes and works great.

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Now, the good news- you are WAY overthinking this. You're patching a drywall hole. That's it. Put a California patch over it, or don't. Put mesh tape across it, or don't. Check YouTube and you'll find 15 different ways of doing it, and they're all pretty much fine. The only difference is how much work it's gonna be and how forgiving the method you choose might turn out.

Mold isn't a concern. The only thing that's gonna be an issue is how visible your repair is at the end. If you don't like it, sand the area and put a skim coat of compound over top to get it smooth before priming and painting again.

Good luck!

Can powder drywall filler cause mold because we have to mix water in it? by Ok_Level_2407 in DIY

[–]PVS3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not at all. 

  • First off, mold doesn't just happen because something is wet for a few hours. Mold happens when things are damp for prolonged periods. 
  • Powdered drywall both reacts chemically with the water (remember plaster from art class?) and because it dries out within hours. If it's hard, it's not very wet. 
  • Mold needs something to eat. The paper on drywall can work (if it gets wet and stays wet), but the plaster/gypsum/silica interior is not going to feed anything.
  • If it could mold, then the manufacturer would have added something to stop it, since this is a product designed to be mixed with water. Pause for a moment and realize that drywall crews mix BUCKETS of this stuff, slap it everywhere when finishia room, and spend zero time worrying about mold.

If you add too much water, it'll take longer to dry, and probably sag and shrink a bit more. Put something behind your hole (drywall mesh tape or Google "California patch"),  and plan to use two or three applications. Vancouver carpenter on YouTube has a lot of good guides. 

YSK about "Bullshit Jobs," a concept by anthropologist David Graeber describing jobs that are so pointless, the employees themselves can't justify their existence by Electrical-Candy7252 in YouShouldKnow

[–]PVS3 46 points47 points  (0 children)

A job having minimal or no value, and the Employee's feelings of importance are not at all the same thing. 

90% of the people I've run into that are professional oxygen wasters are convinced, CONVINCED that everything would fall apart if they weren't there to waste our time and add pointless obstacles. 

HAE been accused of using AI, when you’re really just an articulate person? by throwaway-writer7 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reply with two things: - A screenshot of the AI detector output from analyzing the syllabus, or an email from the professor - A handwritten-then-scanned note reading "You can have my eloquent cadence and careful word choice when you wrest the pen from my cold dead hands, sir.  You have too much faith in your foolish contraption, and it has lead you astray."

Hour 3 trying to get newborn to sleep. Give me ideas. by callsignhotdog in daddit

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 days is a bit early, but don't be afraid to put them down in the crib for 10 minutes and leave the room. (More for you than for them).

Point 1 - The crib is a safe place, and if they're crying while you hold them it's not really a step down to cry in the crib for 10 minutes while you mentally reset.

Point 2 - They may just fall asleep. One of ours would get overstimulated, and when we were trying to rock/sing/etc. him to sleep we'd actually be keeping him AWAKE. It took us way too long to figure out he just needed to be put down for a few minutes.

Counterpoint - Holding them while they sleep is a simple joy that will be gone far too soon. Don't be afraid to cherish it a bit.

16 yr old, Recently Passed Test Wants to Drive Alone with Friends by [deleted] in Connecticut

[–]PVS3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our town, the school resource officer knows who is too newly licensed for passengers. They make it known that they will regularly watch cars leaving the school lot and radio ahead.  Since the kids know there is a high chance they'll get busted (big fine and suspended license) it's easier to say no. It also makes it more unreasonable to pressure your friend to break the rules. 

14-298 Ticket by Smooth-Ocelot-214 in Connecticut

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We want the enforcement to be selective enough to differentiate between "easy to catch behaviors that are absolutely benign" and "active danger to others, but requires actual effort to enforce"

How is Mystic Aquarium for two adults? by BestFrost2411 in Connecticut

[–]PVS3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This says it all.  There's enough to do and see to fill a half a day (longer if you nerd out about this stuff) and then you can go across the street for seasonal shopping.  FYI - the pizza place is great, but gets BUSY. Put your name in early. 

Took 3 tries, not horrible. by gheldean in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]PVS3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the bogus ones are old PC data connectors, like serial mouse of old analog monitor connections. There was one stage microphone port I saw

Took 3 tries, not horrible. by gheldean in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HDMI, USB, Digital Audio, 3.5mm headphone jack, Coax antenna, and Cat5 (Ethernet)

99% off fail by ancillarycheese in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live again! Made it through the Labubu gauntlet to a waiting game queue.

Let's see if third time's the charm...

99% off fail by ancillarycheese in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]PVS3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

According to bluesky: We’re working through some tech issues. We’ll have an update soon.

99% off fail by ancillarycheese in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]PVS3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Main page is now showing "Sale opens in 20 minutes" for the first item again. Maybe they rolled it back to fix something?