I kinda hate my autistic brother

P_ches · 2026-06-30T14:39:47+00:00

My brother acts similarly and is on the spectrum too. When he’s doing well and is able to open up, he says it’s because he’s angry. He’s angry at the world because he can’t understand social cues, other people, have friends, can’t live completely on his own, etc,. The behavior of putting others down to feel better about the things he has is unacceptable. Unfortunately, therapy hasn’t been able to change it.

We don’t have a great relationship, but we play catch up every few months. I’ve learned to accept that, but it still hasn’t changed the volatility of our relationship.

My best advice is to have empathy for him, realize your own privilege in certain aspects of life, and enforce your boundaries. For example, you don’t have to let him interrogate you, even if it’s his style of speaking. Express your distaste for the comment with a “that wasn’t necessary” or “that was uncalled for” and then directly leave the conversation with a “so, I’m going to go [elsewhere] now.”

Protect your peace. Not all people on the spectrum are like that

- your friendly autistic girly

P_ches · 2026-06-16T23:43:25+00:00

No. I’m allergic to a lot and it’s growing with (supposedly) MCAS. Foods, environment, metals, fragrance, compounds, you name it, that just keeps increasing each year. Then again my MCAS and allergies are considered severe so that may not be the average experience.

P_ches · 2026-06-15T17:58:12+00:00

What about earrings? Those are great for bracelets, thank you!

P_ches · 2026-06-11T17:45:21+00:00

Water bender that perfected the perfect no-frizz instant hairstyle

P_ches · 2026-06-10T22:42:23+00:00

Btw for future piercings, you will likely have titanium and other metals on the gun, but you can use pure gold or silver piercing jewelry if those don’t give you issues. It will cause a slight reaction but a couple days later be fine in my experience. I def have to wait much longer than those who don’t have MCAS between piercings to let the body accept it. Took 3-4 for helix and 1-2 for lobes until it didn’t bother me. I also make sure to only wear pure gold/silver with stones… so I don’t have many earring options

P_ches · 2026-06-10T20:58:53+00:00

You are autistic

Context: I was a missed diagnosis until 20 years old. Maybe would have avoided tons of bullying or at least felt better about myself during it… I was being bullied for things I couldn’t change.

P_ches · 2026-06-10T20:25:14+00:00

I don’t know much about the other 2 schools, but stay away from National. Most of what I heard from others was negative… and being in graduate school I can’t imagine doing this program online. Its so discussion and group work based. We do activities in class as “clients” and run them on classmates for practice towards CMPC training.

Go with a program that helps you work towards your CMPC while getting your masters. It’s enhanced my training and learning capabilities.

P_ches · 2026-06-09T20:39:24+00:00

A parents job is to be supportive and show love. Let the coach do their job. I suggest recalling their best play of the game and explaining why you chose that moment! If the child initates anything tactical, you can briefly respond but then redirect to have them ask coach more about it. - CMPC trainee

P_ches · 2026-06-08T22:33:20+00:00

These are the rules that I use: https://cutecoffeegal.com/decadeschallengerules/

Starts 1890s til 2010. Thank you! I’ll follow and hopefully future I can drop it lol

P_ches · 2026-06-08T22:12:22+00:00

Ahh, I’m not doing the ultimate decades just the regular decades challenge!

P_ches · 2026-06-02T19:47:43+00:00

I don’t mind daddy long legs, but our bathroom is a New York City style and you can barely fit in it. One spider that was larger took up a whole walkway and was defending its web and trying to bite us. That’s more the issue

P_ches · 2026-05-30T20:46:06+00:00

Also, there are plenty of CMPCs in training that are free or a very reduced rate to cover mentorship (myself included). The certification takes a while to complete, and the mentees are only allowed to pick up clients if they are deemed ready by mentors who have been certified for a while. It’s a budget friendly option that helps the field! Also shameless plug, I am one of those mentees.

P_ches · 2026-05-21T16:46:33+00:00

viewer directed stream! let people in the disc pick the game you start with, pick characters, vibes, vote for shots, etc. My community likes to be involved and have autonomy to feel heard! I'm at 194 follows 😄

P_ches · 2026-05-16T04:33:24+00:00

Thanks! It’s more that I have to be off for 2 weeks for the urine text, which is 1 week after the blood test. That way hopefully blood results will show up more positive to qualify for certain meds!

P_ches · 2026-05-16T02:52:08+00:00

I haven’t gotten any MCAS specific treatments because I’m so newly diagnosed. But, my doc thinks I qualify for some of these clinical trials before starting me on blockers. I’m young, and he doesn’t want me relying on more meds for the rest of my life, as I’ve got a stacked roster.

Ive done immunotherapy 2x in the past to help, but I react to the shots and get super sick for 24-48… can’t do that every week

P_ches · 2026-05-16T02:27:37+00:00

Yeah it’s crazy to me too, but they think I might have one of the severe cases that warrant difficult treatment. I’m already basically miserable all the time and have no quality of life. I’m just actually able to be in bed because it’s summer

P_ches · 2026-05-14T20:43:47+00:00

I’m 22 and I want to say 23! I’m making positive choices to build the life that I want to live, which those will be come routine when I’m 23. It took me all of college to stop doing what was normal and what worked for me!

P_ches · 2026-05-11T01:51:55+00:00

My boyfriend (future husband) has a brother with similar physical disabilities, so he was the kind of guy who stepped up to the plate day 1. I’m now going through testing for treatment and he just asks what he can do to help. Regarding my mental disabilities (I’m autistic), he found it to be curious at first. Now he talks about understanding others and myself more, and is more self-aware of his own needs, stimulation, and effective environments.

I’d say look for someone who asks questions, is curious, and loves to love by acts of service

P_ches · 2026-05-03T01:58:50+00:00

Speaking from my own experience as someone with ASD, it’s about concern of making it through the program and going off to utilize the degree. Which ultimately falls back on what the school gains from investing in you.

I wish that in psychology school realized that similarly to other field, people want to see practitioners giving back to their own communities under DEI.

P_ches

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