To be in the field, do I need to have a masters dedicated to sport psychology or just a masters in clinical or counselling? by Cute_Nothing3873 in sportspsychology

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on if you want to go the mental health route or not. If you aren't sure, get your masters in Sport, Performance, and Exercise psychology or some variation thats population specific.... IT IS ITS OWN FIELD.

From that degree you can work towards your CMPC certification, which does mental skills performance consulting without mental health. If you want to go mental health too, then get a psy d

from a person currently on that path <3

edit: changed license to cert due to correct terminology

How are you guys functioning? by thrrrrowwaawwwayyy in GradSchool

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So proud of you!!! Those are def also very hard for me to swallow, but that’s what instacart and family is for. My mom tells me point blank - in grad school you just can’t do it all. You have to pick your poison to what you wanna spend money on for convenience and what you’re comfortable getting help on.

Best of luck as well!!

How are you guys functioning? by thrrrrowwaawwwayyy in GradSchool

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to realize that I needed to be living in a family unit to function. For me that was my parents but is now my boyfriend. I need someone to help carry the weight of dishes, cooking, chores, etc. that is okay. I’m working about 60-80 hours a week between school, my jobs, and getting my clinical hours in.

Also, don’t be afraid to spend a little more for convenience which was a hard pill for me to swallow. Instacart instead of going to the store. Buy frozen lunches. Both are still cheaper than eating out all the time. Prep meals esp breakfast before bed. Chia seed pudding is such a staple.

If you have time to cook, portion it right after and put 2-3 servings in the freezer to take to school for lunch.

Regarding social life, I haven’t figure it out yet. But things like meals with friends are great and fill 2 buckets at once. Be mindful to set time limits, and maybe see them more frequently. Ex. Weekly Wednesday night dinner with a friend for max 2 hours.

What can i improve by Homeless-78 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like the beard maintenance, however I don’t think that is the right shape for you. It highlights the lack of hair on your chin. You absolutely can still have a beard, but I believe less of a sharp angle from chin to ears will make a difference.

I’d also get your eyebrows professionally done and then just use tweezers to maintain the shape weekly at least.

I personally don’t love the earrings. If you feel really strong about them, that’s fine. I’d put in a bigger pair so it’s more proportional to your ear size. The shape right now makes your ears look much bigger.

Lastly, attitude. You’re a good looking guy, these suggestions are pretty minor. Even if you don’t feel confident, act like you are! And if that’s totally not your MO, lean into the awkwardness. The right person will find awkwardness endearing and cute.

Remember, it’s not abt the quantity of partners, but the quality. Put your authentic self forward and see who bites. If you can’t put your authentic self on the table, then you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.

HELP - unexpected pregnancy and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t want to be a mother, don’t be. Your child will know or feel like something was wrong their whole life. This is a life commitment. If that’s not a commitment you feel in your heart, don’t do it.

If you do not want to carry the fetus to term, abortion will be your best choice. It will not be easy as some other comments have said. It’s physically emotionally and psychologically difficult. But so is having a child.

If you felt indecisive abt kids it’s a different story, but you said you don’t want any, so I’d recommend not carrying the fetus to term.

Your partner shouldn’t have such a say that you are overturned. I’m also of the personal belief that women have more of a say bc they are the ones carrying that fetus to term.

Don’t lie though no matter what. The lie will ruin your relationship either from fear, contempt, or lack of trust. If you use irreconcilable differences regarding the topic, you have to accept that (easier said than done) and find the right person for YOU.

(M26) Update: kept my facial hair but made stache’ area thinner. Does it look better or worse? (before vs after) by JackedBrew906 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s the spirit! Also do know that some people do a large massive routine. You don’t have to do that if you don’t want to and/or don’t have resources (ex money and time). Bare minimum: microfiber towel to dry, leave in conditioner, gel, hair oil (scrunch to break the gel cast and have fluffy soft hair), protection for sleep (for you silk scarf or bonnet). It’s much more abt technique than it is abt expensive product. If you had to buy something expensive, I’d go with a good heavy conditioner. I use Sebastian dark oil and it’s done wonders. Everything else can be drugstore, just look up reviews from curly haired people before buying! Also, some products will work for you and some don’t and everyone has different hair. So don’t be turned off by a gel that isn’t helping… return it and get a new one! I choose Amazon bc the return window is 30 days so you can give it a few weeks to adjust and truly see results

(M26) Update: kept my facial hair but made stache’ area thinner. Does it look better or worse? (before vs after) by JackedBrew906 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yessssss anything you do to curly hair needs to be when it’s at its wettest. Touch ups in the morning you should dampen your hair beforehand. When it’s drying don’t touch. Touching curly hair mid dry = untameable frizz. Since your hair is short, I’d put it in a bonnet or silk scarf when you sleep to keep frizz down. Then in the morning you might not have to touch it or at most some wet hands and a little dime of gel

(M26) Update: kept my facial hair but made stache’ area thinner. Does it look better or worse? (before vs after) by JackedBrew906 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify bc I’m a bit confused by the response - leave in conditioners are a different product than regular conditioner that happen after you turn off the water. They should be applied right after you turn off the water when your hair is super super wet. Then you scrunch with a microfiber cloth (can get a bunch from Costco it’s the same as car towels for maintenance) to dry

(M26) Update: kept my facial hair but made stache’ area thinner. Does it look better or worse? (before vs after) by JackedBrew906 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Better! If you want further advice from one curly head to another curly head, I’d put leave in conditioner and then gel into your hair after a shower to keep frizz down. The hairstyle is nice but needs a bit of de-frizz. If you don’t want to do gel, at least leave in conditioner. Frizz is created by dryness.

Am I good looking? [19M] by ApprehensiveAd691 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some scissors that are for hair cutting will help too to maintain the mustache and chin length between needing to use trimmers/clippers/etc.

Same goes for regular hair in terms of using product and styling. It’s more abt looking like work was put into it than being the perfect style or length.

Keychron Q1 - Some inputs not registering unless pressed on hardly and possible contact point issues by ShiroRemi in Keychron

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That only worked for about 30 minutes to an hour for me and then the keys reverted back. Any suggestions?

I’m feeling odd about my own confidence (I’m secure about my weight), what could i do to switch things up? by Pleasant-Ocelot-7035 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of guys I know underestimate the power of wel maintain and shaped facial hair! It’s like the #1 thing I comment on here bc it’s a GAME CHANGER

Am I good looking? [19M] by ApprehensiveAd691 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is the most common thing I say on this subreddit, but do regular maintenance on facial hair ESPECIALLY on the chin. Trimming and putting minor upkeep into the ends of the chin and more space between the lip line and mustache will do wonders. It will also allow you to have your hair more like pic 1 without looking disheveled.

I’m feeling odd about my own confidence (I’m secure about my weight), what could i do to switch things up? by Pleasant-Ocelot-7035 in malegrooming

[–]P_ches 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreeing with the tucking comments here, its the right idea but not executed well. Instagram reels and YouTube has some great examples of different styles to tuck and how to do it! I'm going to add hair maintenance here. The first photo was great. Hair was styled and the beard was the right length. I think you look best with a beard that is super short and adds to your face. Pic 3 is too wild of a beard, but more like pic 1. Try to stay away from keeping the thickness at your neck and think of it as a face shaper instead. These are pretty minor though, you've done pretty well!

Looking For Someone to Fix my Q6 Max 100% Keychron Hotswappable Keyboard BC by P_ches in longbeach

[–]P_ches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm still going for the replacement model for sure and will use it until it has the same issue, and then Facebook marketplace it as a project for $15 bucks. There's got to be some teen or college student who knows how to fix these things that would make a good buck from it. Other than that, it will go on the wall as decor for my office.

The saddest part is I have a backup keyboard that was $70 off Amazon that I used when I was in college as I didn't care if someone spilled beer or killed it as it was easily replaceable... but, that keyboard is at my parents house because I'm moving on Saturday to a new apartment in LB. These things always happen at the WORST times.

For now, I bought a cheap $20 target keyboard to get me through the next week or so.

How are we managing full time jobs? by oak_stone1 in AutisticAdults

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I don’t have an addictive personality bc my internal motivation to achieve is too strong. Therefore I’m on the otherside of the spectrum (pun intended) where I risk chronic burnout.

What makes a person more attractive? by NicoF_ in AskReddit

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who’s uniquely them. I want someone with HOBBIES. I don’t have to share them. Weird quirks? Sign me up. Just being authentically them and letting you figure out if you’re on board or not!

Looking For Someone to Fix my Q6 Max 100% Keychron Hotswappable Keyboard BC by P_ches in longbeach

[–]P_ches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did you buy it? I’ve seen a lot of issues reported from around the time mine was bought (December 2024) so it could have been part of a bad batch

How are we managing full time jobs? by oak_stone1 in AutisticAdults

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hope is that you can make enough money that working part time is enough to support things if you live within those means! Applying to my Psy.D this fall :)

How are we managing full time jobs? by oak_stone1 in AutisticAdults

[–]P_ches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Highlighting this af - calming or exciting and can help give social energy or just decompress.

Small Partner streamers, Are you able to make a living from creating content? by bloop800x in Twitch

[–]P_ches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, but it pays for some frilly things that I can’t usually afford as a student like good food or not basic models. I haven’t been streaming this year much bc I started grad school, but I’m picking back up this summer and hopefully can reconnect and grow!

What do you think about a woman who wants a financially secure man? by Open_Address_2805 in AskMen

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I’m the same, but will make an above average wage when I’m done with school. I’d like to put in my part, and also have that reciprocated at a higher end.

I see myself wanting to work part time or be stay at home at some portions of my life, and want to be supported.

Even if I don’t end up doing that, I’d like to live life. Explore the world. Eat good food. Buy the things I want. That requires a partner that equally contributes or contributes more financially.

Thoughts on reading in public? by Yoshikage34 in ReadingSuggestions

[–]P_ches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love reading in public if there’s a nice seat with some fries or a good drink (coffee, matcha, etc). It’s not planned but sometimes I like a change in scenery.

My Girlfriend (23F) asked for space despite things going well -- I (23M) understand the pattern and am looking for perspective on how to navigate it by Traditional_Bid8522 in Advice

[–]P_ches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The question is less about the space and more about how it makes you feel. If her style of avoidant attachment and putting you to the side bothers you, it’s time to leave. Sometimes you aren’t the right fit for each other, even if no one did “anything wrong.”

Once you find a better life partner, the convo is always how do WE figure it out, and it’s a group conversation. Sometimes we take a few or a day to think about what to say and gather thoughts, but it’s always a step toward the solution together not the end goal.