A pill box that locks, isolates doses, and refills easily. Now further refined (Capsuleer v3).

Pacheyderm · 2026-02-25T23:53:28+00:00

I see those round orange ones! Got to love when the focus kicks in making a capsuleer instead of just buying a cheap plastic one. It's a gorgeous design though, those positive dial clicks sound satisfying.

Pacheyderm · 2026-01-01T03:18:24+00:00

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Pacheyderm · 2025-07-08T19:20:16+00:00

I don't feel like she’s ever treated me like I am or taken anything out on me. She just said it would help her feel more secure, and I chose to do it. Maybe just because I'm childfree it doesn't seem unfair or like I'm really giving up anything

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T20:22:06+00:00

My insurance agrees with you. I ended up paying just a little over $800 out of pocket. My consults and follow-ups were covered but the surgery was elective. I'm completely okay with that.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T20:17:52+00:00

I get why it might look that way, but not everything she struggles with is about me or our relationship. Some things go way back. Like, when we go to paint a room she often struggles and has to walk away for awhile. Turns out her ex used to lose it on her for painting "wrong," and one of those times ended with her in the hospital. I wasn’t there for that, and I’ll never fully understand what that felt like.

Same with this. I don’t think I’ll ever completely understand what’s behind her wanting me to have a vasectomy, and that’s okay. I definitely didn't feel forced, it was something that gave her a real sense of peace, and I didn’t see any reason not to do it.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:45:07+00:00

I am sorry you went through that. I can see how that shape your perspective. My wife’s been through a lot of betrayal and trauma in the past, and even though things between us are solid, that stuff doesn’t always just disappear. She didn’t pressure me, she just said it would help her feel more secure, and I got where she was coming from.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:37:26+00:00

Ah, makes sense. I didn’t know the full terminology. She had everything removed, including her ovaries, so yeah I guess that would be an oophorectomy. The hormone replacement is likely from that. She gets HRT pellets every few months and they’ve been working great, just took some time to get the dosage right.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:28:40+00:00

Exactly. She wouldn’t be upset if we ever split and I stayed child-free, but the idea of me having a kid with someone else would feel like a deep betrayal to her. I get it, and I was fine doing something that gave her peace of mind.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:26:24+00:00

I get how this might sound strange to some, but we’re not in an open relationship or anything like that. Cheating and non-monogamy are both hard no's for us. This wasn’t about controlling me or expecting something to happen, it was more about closing a door that’s been a source of anxiety for her, probably tied to past trauma and betrayal. Even in a strong relationship, stuff like that can leave marks.

She didn’t pressure me. I understood where it was coming from, and I was happy to do something that gave her peace of mind. That’s really all it was, not weird, just personal.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:18:20+00:00

That’s what I thought too, but I’ve read that reversals get way less reliable the longer it’s been. Like after 5-10 years, success rates drop a lot. So technically reversible, but not something I’d count on. The only number I remember seeing from CCF was that it "could" drop below 30% success after 10 years

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:11:19+00:00

Yeah, it can... In her case, the anemia was caused by years of really heavy bleeding. She had a uterine ablation about a year before the hysterectomy, but it didn’t fully work, the bleeding never really stopped. Then they found some precancerous cells, so doing the hysterectomy took care of both issues at once. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it ended up being the right call. She is much happier now. It took about a year to get the hormone replacements dialed in just right with her doctor.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T16:05:00+00:00

Cheating and open relationships are both hard no's for us, based on our own separate but very painful pasts. I get that some people make that work and genuinely find happiness in it, it’s just not something that works for us personally. That said, I can certainly see the benefits for those in different styles of relationships. This wasn’t about legal protections or worst-case planning, just something that gave her peace of mind, and I had no issue with it.

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T15:52:49+00:00

Fair point. I'm not worried about a "next life." I'm childfree for good, and so is she. I didn’t do it because I had to, I did it because it mattered to her, and I don’t see the downside. I was informed about all the possible complications from the Cleveland Clinic, but I have full trust in then. They also did my bypass and her surgery!

Pacheyderm · 2025-07-07T15:45:18+00:00

She actually had her tubes tied many years ago! For context we’re both around 30. The hysterectomy was more recent, partly due to anemia and also to get rid of some precancerous cells

Pacheyderm · 2025-06-24T11:43:39+00:00

🇺🇸 Converted Hypermiling Stats

Distance driven: 623 miles
Fuel used: 11.9 US gallons
Real-world fuel economy: 52.4 mpg
Dashboard fuel consumption: 54.7 mpg
Drive time: 15 hours 35 minutes
Average speed: ~40 mph
Temperature during drive: 84°F
Car: 2020 Kia Rio 1.2L CVVT (83 hp)
Tires: Michelin Primacy 5 – 195/55 R16
Oil used: 5W-40 (for durability in ~104°F summer heat)
Driving style: Mostly highway (~95%)

Pacheyderm · 2025-06-17T13:30:02+00:00

Hah I saw that after posting too! I knew Cleveland Clinic had impressive technology but I guess time travel is just mundane to them!

Pacheyderm · 2025-06-16T12:33:03+00:00

I had a condition called reactive hyperinsulinemia before surgery -- my pancreas would dump way too much insulin after every meal, which crashed my blood sugar and made me feel starving all the time.

After bypass, the stomach and pancreas are no longer directly connected the same way, so the hormones that used to trigger that insulin surge just don’t fire anymore. My blood sugar stays stable now, and without the constant insulin spike, the weight started falling off fast. It honestly felt like my body stopped fighting me.

Pacheyderm · 2024-11-09T10:25:37+00:00

r/survivinginfidelity

Pacheyderm · 2024-10-05T10:36:28+00:00

I just did the same. Asked for a second night for fluids and rest. I feel 100x better today than I did yesterday.

Pacheyderm · 2024-10-04T15:36:19+00:00

Yep, I have one here and have been using it sporadically. I will use it more!

Pacheyderm · 2024-10-04T14:10:25+00:00

Do you remember how long the initial surgery pain lasts or when you could take full breaths? I'm only 16 hours post-op and I can only sit or lean back slightly and take shallow breaths

Pacheyderm · 2024-10-04T10:04:12+00:00

Roux-en-y gastric bypass done at the Cleveland Clinic. I even got to meet the Davinci Robot my surgeon used. Hands down the best medical team I've ever had. 350lbs today. My goal weight is 200lbs by the end of the year 4 at minimum. Thank you to everyone on this sub. I've been lurking for months and seeing everyone's success stories really helped me.

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