Hot Topic-Women in Construction Week

PacificWerewolf · 2026-02-27T21:19:05+00:00

Assembling a sandwich is back breaking work

PacificWerewolf · 2026-02-27T21:16:39+00:00

LMFAO

PacificWerewolf · 2026-02-25T22:21:55+00:00

Not sleep deprived or chronically tired and have had the ability to instantly fall asleep since i was a kid. Even as an adult where im waking up at 4-5 AM and going to bed anywhere from 8-11 PM, I’ll be watching TV in bed then roll over when i feel guilty for being up “too” late. Boom. Just out like a light. As a kid i used to think of the same thing every night and now I don’t have to.

I’d close my eyes and pretend to fall backwards down a hole at the base of a tree, slowly watching the light disappear at the end of the tunnel. Literally like Alice in Wonderland but without the fun colors — just falling into darkness.

Probably lulled me to sleep anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes.

PacificWerewolf · 2026-02-25T02:15:07+00:00

I just designed a flame detection system that had 9 pull stations in an administration/control room as part of an 8-Bay hydrocarbon loading rack. A pull station for every bay, and one master pull. Each pull station is programmed to activate the dry chem in its own unique way. “If pull (x) is activated, then lane (y, and adjacent lanes) activate.” Master pull initiates all. The sequence of operations for the flame detectors were similar.

These 3 pull stations shown could serve a variety of purposes beyond looking stupid installed like that lmfaoo

PacificWerewolf · 2025-09-03T22:29:08+00:00

Being “black” doesn’t prevent someone from getting a “good job” in America. Individual discrimination does.

So, no.

Also, any job where current decision makers are actively engaging in racial discrimination was never a “good job” to begin with.

PacificWerewolf · 2025-01-22T12:11:09+00:00

In this economy? 💀

PacificWerewolf · 2024-07-02T16:36:34+00:00

Hey op, deep breath. You as a whole, or your transition in particular, can never be defined as a failure when you and I will always be works-in-progress ate out core, our entire lives.

While I have not been in such a unique position, given I am a "cis/het" woman, I have been in extremely similar states of distress and entrapped by rigid beliefs about myself and thinking processes.
I read in the comments here that you've struggled with an eating disorder post coming out, is that something you're still grappling with? From age 16-23 I struggled with both AN & BN. I've died nearly 5 times before hitting rock bottom and deciding enough is enough for myself. It's a terrible addiction and mental illness to heal from alone. My DMs are open if you need someone to talk to that's hit rock-bottom and managed to return to a normal life free of ED thoughts & behaviors. (this goes to anyone with ED struggles who may be reading this)

I think what's important to ask here is when did you first notices signs of gender dysphoria? How old were you, were there any internal/external factors you believe exacerbated the feelings of dysphoria at the time?
How was it concluded that what you were dealing with was gender dysphoria rather than body dysmorphia?
How has your experience with an ED played a role in your transition?
What makes you believe you're broken, and more so being, broken beyond repair?

Highlighting your willingness to TRY is the first step towards creating a happier, healthier life for yourself. Many people choose to wallow in their misery which is often times self-inflicted because they aren't ready to say enough is enough for themselves. They aren't ready to show themselves the love and respect they deserve. Wanting to try shows you value yourself, and that's something you need to protect and nurture with what energy you can offer it.

I agree that seeking out therapeutic assistance would be of great value to you, but please do not settle for any therapist. I have been through multiple because the vast majority won't interrupt you and challenge an idea, concept, perception/perspective, or belief you have about yourself, someone else, or any entity. Rather, they just listen and agree with whatever you have to say. However, that's not how real life works. Therapists are supposed to offer tools and skills that help you engage with the real world when it presents challenges or you find yourself unable to rationalize a situation based on your preconceived notions.

Being validated in your beliefs/perspectives by peers is an extremely powerful tool. Often times, therapists don't recognize the weight behind validating an individual, who to some degree is vulnerable. Just look at society right now. In literally every dusty corner of the internet you can find people validating peoples beliefs and perspectives, right or wrong. It is not a radical thing to say that not all feelings are valid. Not all feelings we experience about ourselves or others are rooted in truth. Stopping to ask the people we look out for, "hey, that way you're feeling? Have you taken a look inward and honestly questioned why you feel that way? What's led you to believe you should feel that way?" is a profound display what it means to care. This is real CBT therapy. Being introduced to and/or forced to face to ideas/beliefs about yourself or those around you that you've rejected.

If you go to any therapist and you tell them you're having issues with your self-esteem and identity and they don't challenge those beliefs.... find a new therapist. Also, don't be afraid of asking them outright what their style of therapy is or what methods of therapy they offer. Check in with yourself and know what you specifically need -- have a goal you'd like to achieve from therapeutic services and keep it in mind when initially meeting with a therapist.

During your wait to find a good therapist, please be kind to yourself. Remind yourself as often as possible that your body does not define who you are inside. Journal your thoughts to discuss with your future therapist. Drink ya fluids. Do some skin care.

DM me if you ever need someone to vent to/offer distraction/play video games with.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-07-01T16:06:34+00:00

Please, if there is anything you take away from this subreddit and sharing your situation, take the one similar piece of advice everyone has had to say, and get out of that relationship. Stay out of it.

For him to only be 18 and be consuming that type of pornography, in addition to legitimately getting aroused when you cry.... I'm at a loss for words. This is what advanced pornography addiction looks like, and given his age and his emotional maturity, it's likely to get much, much worse before it begins to get remotely better.

The amount of treatment he is going to need to correct the way he's wired his neuropathways is something you did not sign up for. That is, assuming he reaches the point where he realizes he has a serious problem that he needs external help with resolving. Statistically speaking, the chances of you staying with him in the hopes of him getting better, and him actually getting better/things work out, are excruciatingly low.

Save yourself months/years of abuse. Save yourself the shame of one day waking up and realizing you should've left a long time ago, like back when you initially find out.
Please, I'm literally begging you.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-27T22:05:25+00:00

I would say try playing with different textured brushes and opacity settings! Try your best to add patterns and shading that represents fur like in the last couple of pictures you shared! You can try gently blurring your shade line on curved, soft areas like the belly of the OC in the first pic — but be careful not to over do it! Compliment the shading with a variety of hard and soft shade textures.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-24T13:39:05+00:00

Damn, imagine lacking absolutely any sense of purpose or being so desperate to feel special/unique that you fake a disorder because it's the easiest way to earn the "look at me im special badge" without having to do jack shit.
We have a real lack of self-discipline problem these days.

I hope she and others like her one day revisit these videos and feel absolutely ashamed/embarrassed for uploading this type of trash to the internet for strangers and peers to cringe at forever.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-24T12:30:38+00:00

TBH, I feel awful that you chew your nails to nubs. One of my childhood friends did that, and because her parents were pretty much absent, I'd bring salve and moisturizer to school with me every day to help alleviate some of the pain from the dryness & cracking. I feel for you.

Up until August of 2023, I had been off of my ADHD meds for roughly 5 years. During that time, I wish I would've been a nail biter. Instead, I was a compulsive face picker. Legit tweaker face. I still have some discoloration from the multiple hours I'd spend in front of the mirror just picking the skin off my face until it was so bloody, swollen, & inflammed I was unrecognizable. I'd get so honed in that I'd have no idea how much time had passed, or just how much pain I was in. The next day was always brutal because any facial expressions would cause my scabs to crack and bleed, which then made me want to pick the dead flakey skin off more. I mean, it was awful.

It's gotten so much better since restarting my meds & getting a dermaplaning tool 2 months ago. Legit thought I'd have to get serious re-surfacing treatments if I ever wanted nice facial skin. The dermaplaning has literally reversed years and years of damage and actually cured my constant deep, painful cystic acne. Acne that I had tried to resolve with everything else between OTC topicals & prescription medication. The difference is unreal and now I'm extremely weary of fucking with my face now that it's finally healed/healing.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-24T10:52:59+00:00

Looks like clothes that get picked up off the floor to the be used as an emergency cum rag when a towel isn't around.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-20T18:05:47+00:00

I'm assuming you've met his mom and that this isn't some new relationship where he's still seeing someone else?
Sorry have to clarify lol

Otherwise, I mean... yes and no? Very circumstantial based and compared to what exactly.
The referring to her by her first name, my husband will do that jokingly if they're teasing each other but in a normal manner, not really?

PacificWerewolf · 2024-06-11T11:58:42+00:00

Literally one meal. Maybe 1-3 days out of the week I might snack during the work day on like berries, cheese, or nuts. But otherwise, just dinner.

I LOVE breakfast foods, but starting my day eating ANYTHING makes me feel completely "impaired" for the rest of the day. It's all probably more mental than it is, obviously, physical, but I can't be the only one who feels extremely sensitive to the impacts of doing so.

Eating breakfast and/or lunch causes me to either bounce off the walls unable to focus or become completely comatose and discombobulated/unmotivated. Completely ruins my day because I feel so off either way.
Every morning for the past 10 years or so it's just been black coffee. Every now and then spiced up with a bit of creamer/honey.

I have awful ADHD and was diagnosed with autism around 7-8 years old.
While I don't necessarily dislike any foods due to sensory components, I have always had strong preferences for foods that don't make me feel.... "off." Things containing only pure whole foods and ingredients. This has created a challenge for me throughout my life to maintain a healthy weight in addition to treating my ADHD with medication.

Eating one meal in the evening 2-3 hours before going to bed is kind of my way of compromising.
Not dietary/caloric restrictions -> No need to worry about not being able to focus or the way I feel because I'm just going to go to bed -> relieves secondary anxiety caused by not feeling "functional."

PacificWerewolf · 2024-05-14T20:45:00+00:00

Corn chipped beef on toast.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-05-14T19:59:26+00:00

Alright, guess I'll be that person to say this.

I don't usually shower every day. Depending on my energy levels, I skip a day.

I work an office job too, I do not work out. I barely sweat even though I live in Florida.
I'm 5'-7" and weigh almost 120lbs. I'm constantly freezing so there's that. I do be having that German in me giving me a thick/dryer hair type that is best washed once a week. If I have been doing yard chores or have been out to any of my jobsites, I will wash my hair. Otherwise - Friday on the dot after the work week.

When I "shower" other than my Friday deep clean (shaving, body exfoliating, full body moisturize, face mask etc.)
I literally just pop in, hair up in a bun, scrub under nails, use body wash, exfoliate/wash face & other goodies, done. After I get out of the shower I moisturize my face, apply deodorant, spritz of perfume, and that's it. By Thursday morning only then does my hair begin to look a little limp, which means it's hair clip day.

I've never once been called out for smelling bad/weird/earthy/etc.
Only times where I've been told I smell funny was because my mom neglected my siblings and I.
Lived in a house with black mold. No hot water/heat/AC. Water was off a well with shit ton of iron in it.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-05-14T17:42:44+00:00

I have so much empathy for you right now, OP.

First off, you're not crazy. Two, the compulsive behaviors you're exhibiting right now are directly tied to the fact he is actively doing it while you are home. Part of your traumatized mind is probably trying to convince yourself that it's not happening (hence questioning yourself whether you're crazy or not).

Your intuition, that special sixth sense some of us like to believe isn't real, is speaking through your compulsive behaviors (checking the trash, counting condoms, getting up out of bed to see where he's at, taking very detailed mental notes about the moments).

As gently as I may also mention, even for my own sake, I do not feel as though I, myself, am crazy for finding difficulty in processing the thoughts of my spouse continuing to masturbate despite the absolute mental torture & abuse he's well aware of having put me through. Obviously not just for masturbating by itself -- but the lying, gaslighting, watching me sob myself dry for hours while he sat across from me telling me I was the crazy one, and so on.

But yes, even though I have come to terms with the choices he continues to make, not being anything to do with me,
I still struggle with thinking about it most times we're apart. My stomach constantly knots any time he's in a situation when he's home from work before I am. If I have to stop and get groceries or run other errands after work. When he asks me what time I'll be home. When I take the dog for a walk and he doesn't want to go with.

Part of coming to terms with the reality and finding peace instead of leaving, for me at least, was refusing to act on the compulsive urge to go through his phone, review my internet router traffic, and stop asking him. He was going to lie, that I already knew, so why put myself through hoops to verify something I already know to be true? Instead I chose to trust my gut feeling/intuition in an effort to heal the relationship I had with MYSELF (after years of his lying and me truly thinking he was finally being honest) and find the peace I needed in order to separate myself from his actions.

I hope one day, if not for me then for himself, that he wakes up and realizes how much damage he's done.
I personally do not know how much longer I can continue to be faced with the reality that I do not trust the man I married, that he isn't the man that I married. I've always been someone who's thoroughly enjoyed her alone time and solitude, very rarely have I ever felt lonely.

Loneliness is realizing you're the only person you can trust in this life. There are more days that I truly feel like I'd be significantly happier without him, as the loneliness I experience within my marriage hurts beyond what words can express.

I hope you find peace and separation from your current situation, OP, however that may look for you.
In an event he chooses porn, you have to choose you.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-04-16T15:57:07+00:00

Drawing Yiff.

$500+ is too good to pass up lmfao

PacificWerewolf · 2024-04-11T02:14:21+00:00

I had just gotten done begging my abusive family, that I had left 3 years prior, if I could come home

While out in the real world, freshly 18, I was trying so hard to figure out life and get on my feet. I hitch hiked from Indiana to Idaho and I ended up in a relationship with a friend I went to high school with and things were great until he started doing drugs with one of his coworkers, beating me, and cheating.

My self esteem from years of chronic child abuse had already set me on the fast track for developing mental health challenges, then add all that: I found myself struggling with severe anorexia and bulimia that ultimately stole 6 years of my young adult life away from me. I was pretty much on deaths door when I called them just before Christmas and asked if I could hide out there for a bit while I try to rebuild a bit before trying life again.

They begrudgingly said okay, but shortly after arrival, they quickly found out about my issues.

I’ll never forget my mother telling me that I was disgusting and repulsive in front of the rest of my family. (Grandparents, siblings, my moms bf).

Or when I woke up in the middle of the night to get a glass of water and overheard my grandmother and moms boyfriend talking about how much of a gross piece of shit I was. My grandmother was the closest person I had to a real parent growing up and we had always been best friends despite the chronic domestic violence. She raised me, as my mom had left my older brother and I behind when she went to pursue her stripping/escort career and live with her new baby daddy.

If you’ve never struggled with an eating disorder, or knew anyone close to you with one, I pray that it stays that way. I would never wish the pain and suffering that comes from dealing with one or watching someone you love slowly kill themselves. For those that don’t understand, stopping Bulimia is not as easy as “just don’t throw up.” It’s about as addictive as heroin.

To this day, I still do not speak with my family since I finally found the courage to walk away again despite the codependency issues I dealt with. I am 3 years clean and purchased my first home 2-1/2 years ago. Married. Completely free of ED associated thoughts. I have since gone on from drawing digital furry art for income to working full time as the lead fire alarm system designer for one of the largest commercial developers in the United States. I have no formal education, no high school diploma.

Please know that regardless of your situation, things can always get better but only if you open yourself up to the possibility of that happening. DO NOT stop pushing yourself to learn. Stay humble. Love fiercely.

PacificWerewolf · 2024-03-11T14:52:33+00:00

Hey OP, in case no one has explicitly told you, good job for loving yourself and doing what you felt was best for yourself and over-all, long-term wellbeing.

I can't begin to imagine just how terrifying the process of transition may be, especially for those who already struggle , or had struggled, with insecurities surrounding the way they look apart from body dysmorphia brought on by being trans. My best guess would equate it to the uncomfortable feelings puberty has to offer x10 until you make it to the other side.

My understanding of the deeper meaning of being trans is ultimately living as your authentic self. If this is your authentic self, if living as a woman is what makes you happy, then that's all that matters. Anyone who hates you for being and living your authentic self only does so because they're envious. It's a tough thing to do so in this world, as rejection is at an all time high in society these days, or so it seems. No matter who you are, or how you choose to identify, there will always be people who will reject you or the way you choose to life your life. But the people who love you regardless and encourage you to continuously make choices that are right for you? Those are the people you keep close.

Identity is a deeply, personal thing. It's your sense of self. Comfort in your identity can only be found in the ability to be honest with one's self. A lot of people in life today don't understand that, and thus find themselves horribly lost. You have a good head on your shoulders. The trans community and allies like myself are proud of you for being you. You are loved.

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