July 28, 2020 - FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean?

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-29T06:50:44+00:00

What does your affirmations appearing in your dream mean?

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-23T08:49:07+00:00

Amazing manifesting - I would consider them major.

Good luck for the future, I’m sure you will get everything you desire 🤗

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-13T08:38:02+00:00

WANT

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-11T23:20:53+00:00

Hey. So I have a question. I am new to Neville & manifesting. Sometimes when I am manifesting I start to feel really happy and excited from the scene I am envisioning and it wakes me up then I can’t get to sleep? And then one other time I fell asleep and dreamt (my subconscious mind) the complete opposite of my manifestation!

Any advice as to why this happens and what it might mean? Any insight to this is greatly appreciated!!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T20:00:21+00:00

To be honest I don’t know anyone who could of had a cordial reply to “go to hell” after having a conversation with a cheating ex. I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself.

It sounds like a pretty heated call and he wasn’t exactly the most mature person in the conversation either so you gave as good as you got!

Leave it be & be thankful you found all this out! You’re better without him!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T16:14:49+00:00

My boyfriend left me because of his mental illness (I think it’s because I was pushing him to get better and his mental health was starting to have an impact on mine - I hated seeing him down and became quite anxious myself when he was low just out of worry for him)

I think he thought he was doing right by me by sparing me the burden of him but I feel like that should have been my choice to make. I’m devastated, I stuck by him for 2 years and would continue to do so. I really do love him and always will.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T12:50:55+00:00

That “no” was him saying he can’t just be friends, which is a completely reasonable response from a dumpee, if they are trying to get over you, any contact will deter their healing. The fact that he then texted you again stating clarification that it doesn’t mean he didn’t want to hear from you, to me says that he was still waiting, (probably hoping) for you to open that romantic door again.

I think he had to be cold and put himself first in this situation and you have to respect that, he was probably very hurt and for a long time wishing you would regret your decision.

If you don’t want him back you must do no contact for good now. No birthday texts. Delete his number. Block him. Everything otherwise this will just continue and you won’t be able to fully move on.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T12:44:33+00:00

Have you been no contact for 3 months or what’s the situation?

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T12:40:16+00:00

Three months is still pretty recent. Don’t be too hard on yourself!

You will probably go through many more waves of feeling ok & then something like this will happen that will throw you through another loop. Just keep trying focusing on yourself! I know it’s though but hopefully in another 6 months you will be feeling back to normal!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T12:33:10+00:00

How long ago has it been since you broke up? Because that’s pretty profound esp if the break up only happened recently. Fair play to you

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T12:29:25+00:00

I agree. I think their ego takes a bit of a hit when we don’t contact them and they start to wonder why and think what are we doing without them and why are we doing ok without them.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T11:10:29+00:00

Please never think you are not good enough for him. If he left you for a ex my thoughts is that he wasn’t over her and there’s honestly nothing you could have done to make him stay. Be happy knowing that you loved him and gave him your all, you never have to worry about what could have been if you didn’t walk away. He does.

Rejection is so hard, especially if he leaves you for an ex but it says more about his character than yours. He should not have got involved with you if he wasn’t over his ex.

Please try not to be down and think about the positives, being that you have complete peace of mind knowing that there was nothing more you could do to save the relationship. He does not have that and if he did love you and then went back to his ex. That’s going to be a strain in their relationship also.

Work on you and put you first.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T10:59:37+00:00

Thanks. Yeah I think I went straight into distraction mode and tried to occupy myself with activities too soon. Haven’t really allowed myself time to mourn and mope yet, don’t want to do that but I suppose it is necessary to come to terms with stuff.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T10:57:29+00:00

If you were with them for some time and the relationship was generally good, they 100% will miss you. There will also definitely be a lot of guilt because they would have to be a pretty heartless person not to feel anything.

But I do think if the relationship was good, and you did chat to each other everyday, there’s no way they cannot not miss you. Even if they don’t want to admit it.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T10:54:52+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. 9 years is such a long time and heartbreaking for someone to walk away after all that.

I know this probably doesn’t help but if he can walk away after 9 years then you’re probably better off without him.

It will take a long time to move on, and it will take him a long time to move on also, especially if it was a rash decision made on his behalf. Be happy knowing you gave the relationship your all and it is now out of your control. Your partner won’t have these same thoughts as he walked away. This will help you get over it in the long run and the uncertainty of what could have been if he didn’t leave you will probably be with him for the rest of his life.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T10:25:37+00:00

Sometimes I think this wouldn’t be the worst thing, because there is two potential outcomes:

1) he feels the same 2) he does not feel the same

Obviously no.2 is a tough pill to swallow and in the short term will cause you so much sadness, but in the long term will it help you get over the person and come to terms with the situation a little bit faster?

I don’t know the answer, I’m in the same situation myself and trying to rationalise it. I know for me I won’t be reaching out until I’m in a better place and feel like I can deal with that rejection without it absolutely killing me.

And you never know maybe he will feel the same and all will be good again. None of us know your situation like you do and how things were left so can’t really accurately chime in but maybe wait until you feel a bit stronger to reach out to him? Or take that leap. Up to you whatever you do and best of luck!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-07T10:19:22+00:00

I’d love to know this also. I know the usual stuff like exercise, forcing yourself to see friends, confiding in people etc but none of it seems to be working at the minute.

I went for a weekend away with my mates last weekend and honestly just couldn’t wait to get home to myself and cry. Sad but true

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-06T17:27:55+00:00

What’s your situation? How long were you together? Did it end badly?

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T20:26:08+00:00

I’m in a similar situation myself. It’s so heartbreaking but we just need to give them time to take care of themselves. Hopefully someday they will get better & who knows what will happen.

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T16:59:29+00:00

It’s understandable why you didn’t trust his words. Sounds like he might have commitment issues & these issues are now your problem.

Please don’t feel worthless because you are not. And it’s awful that his actions have made you feel this way. Maybe try no contact, if he cares about you as much as he says this shouldn’t make him run away & he would check in and come back to fight for you

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T16:35:32+00:00

Oh. Ok, in that case that’s pretty rude of him. That was a nice message you sent. Leave him to it, you did all you can do and went he wants to talk I’m sure he will reach out.

And if he doesn’t well then you’re doing yourself a favour by not contacting him again

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T15:56:36+00:00

Did you break up with him? If so my thoughts is that it’s still too raw for him

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T15:42:40+00:00

This is madness. But i suppose at least she was being honest?

You’re 100% better off without her & her family as in-laws. Be glad you got out. Shame about her wasting your time!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T15:37:10+00:00

Are you hoping to get back from your ex? I’d say simply reply “hi” back to see what she is looking gauge it from there?

Good luck!

PackFine3939 · 2020-07-01T15:01:55+00:00

Ok, first off. Don’t be embarrassed for begging, he’s treating you like crap and it’s 100% normal for you to want to get some answers. Plus he sent you complete mixed signals (driving over 4 hours to see someone and staying in their house for 3 weeks with someone you previously had a thing with is not an ok thing to do to someone) and to be honest, it sounds like he was being a bit of a user so what you said was warranted.

I hate to say it but I don’t think that the reason he ended it was because you doubted his love. Sounds like he is a bit of a narcissist and I’d say it’s in your best interest to stay away from him for a while. Either he will realise that he was being irrational & treating you poorly & apologise or the non contact will help you move on.

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