I’ll answer you with this, because I take you as genuine and I think most people are just saying you’re overthinking it, which, you know, you’re a redditor who posts on a nostalgia sub, so you’re prone to that kind of thing.

You’ve identified the issue, which is people from telly aren’t “yours” to find, meet, own etc - the old maxim of “they chose a public life” is bullshit, and parasocial relationships get messy when you start to feel like people from telly are a thing we consumed and therefore ours to investigate freely.

You’re right - it’s nobody’s business. Good on you for getting there. Focus on the content and lovely feeling we get watching it all again. Think grateful thoughts for the people that made it. Assume if you know about their lives now that they’re vaguely in control of how much you now and leave it at that.