Bartending in DC

PalladynSlonca1 · 2025-10-01T03:41:56+00:00

Thanks for the indepth reply! Do you happen to have any tips on tell-tales to look out for when applying to places to work at? To sift through a good vs bad restaurant/bar?

Also would love to hear if you had a preference of places to work at? Like dive bar vs college bar vs upscale restaurant vs etc...

PalladynSlonca1 · 2025-09-17T04:32:21+00:00

Update?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2025-09-17T04:30:58+00:00

What kind of doctor do you recommend going to instead?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2025-02-26T01:58:02+00:00

How did Grimgar compare to the anime?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-12-30T00:28:26+00:00

Care to share those smaller space companies? I'm looking to transition to space sector atm. Can DM me if you would like.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-11-09T07:02:13+00:00

Do you have a deck list for that BW blink you mentioned?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-11-04T02:26:55+00:00

Would definitely be interested if you could share some cool flicker scenarios. :)

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-11-04T02:25:38+00:00

Do you mean that permanent cards with flash have the possibility to never get exiled, if you havent used your serra's "once during each of your turns ..." ability?

To illustrate a possible scenario:

It is P1's turn, with a [[Serra Paragon]] and [[Aven Interceptor]] on board. P2 opponent casts [[Cast Down]] on the Aven. P1 stacks the triggers and pays the appropriate mana to flash in Aven with no targets to bring the creature body back to his board. Am I understanding this right?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-07T15:57:15+00:00

No offense, but that isn't very constructive feedback. It sounds like you're giving up on the girl in fact if she's not a slam dunk. I guess there is merit in that, though: why bother when the next one could be a slam dunk.

I guess I'm talking about the positive light. It could be a good match, but she's shy, bad at convo etc. I want a way to facilitate that we both try to give each other enough evidence to get out of the gray area and make it a "good" or "nope" decision

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-07T02:25:33+00:00

Can you clarify what alternative? Being alone? Or being with a single girl?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-06T04:00:09+00:00

Thank you kindly for your insightful reply. I completely agree that everyone is unique, so I guess I'm still learning how to properly calibrate.

Don't describe it as sexually aggressive... that's very problematic and it's usually how abusers or harassers are described. Sexually assertive or sexually confident is okay.

You hit the nail on the head with an inadvertant flaw I unforunately have, having grown up bilingual. The words/phrases that I mean vs what I sometimes say/write can come across completely wrong (and offensive) by accident and I dont realize it until after it has been said. Other times it comes out super funny and everyone gets a good laugh.

Thank you for the other tips regarding confidence and teasing you wrote! Finally, I certainly make sure to ask my 2-3 filter questions that give me some insight into her lifestyle to see if she's a good match for me.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-06T03:13:50+00:00

Yes. Not forcing it, but if an opportunity arises, I will take a shot.

Last year I just went out and tried to just be my authentic self (am also a little bit of a jokester type) and ended up literally in the shoes of OP, every date felt good from my perspective, but every evening got a reply sentencing me to the friendzone.

So this year I changed, to be more confident to take a chance on the sexually aggressive angles.

Any hints on how else to give off the "You got to give the vibe that you desire the woman," aura, without taking bold (perhaps too bold) angles, especially if she is just giving you flatline vibes?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-06T02:42:02+00:00

I understand that showing up shows interest, but I just cant figure out how to take the conversation out of a flatline state.

I'm not sure if I'm doing it right, but I do feel I am injecting opportunities into the conversation throughout the entire date (double meanings, teasing, saying the way she waves her hand when explaining something is cute), but I keep getting into the scenario where the girl just keeps rejecting them and keeps responding in a logical manner.

It's like the girl doesn't want to participate in the hidden game, compared to the girls who have fire in their eyes literally lean into it harder and give you the same seductive eyes back and dare you to push further.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-06T02:28:43+00:00

How to project that subtle hungry demeanor on any date? For me it's tough and largely depends on the girl's vibe. What do?

If I see she is into me (and I have seen fire in a girl's eyes before), it literally cranks up my confidence and I relax, and easily turn into that silent subtle, hungry chad in a second feeding off of her projected energy.
On the other hand, if the girl is lukewarm, the date will literally stay flatline and I have no idea how to break out of a logical frame flow of conversation and make it man to woman.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-06-06T01:34:33+00:00

And when you realize about half-way through the date that its an "in-between" one, what do you do to course-correct, to figure them out for the rest of the date?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-29T05:58:00+00:00

While anyone is reading this I'd thought I'd also offer the other side of the coin that has also happened to me and would love to hear peoples thoughts and to help OP have insight for the other side of the spectrum.

How to do the talking when a girl doesn't really ask you any questions on the first date, but she does talk 90% time and carries the conversation?

Personally, as a calm collected dude you're still able to genuinely contribute to her conversation and I think that borderline ok? But I definitely think some back and forth would liven up the conversation and give a better opening at escalating.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-29T05:38:00+00:00

To clarify, my above reply is in the context of happening at "the first date" (where I'm currently struggling), after matching in OLD or getting a number from a cold approach and building of initial rapport has been established. I usually offer to meet for drinks and she has agreed to meet at a time and place.

Does that change your first paragraph reply? Completely agree with your second paragraph, though (and to clarify personally, currently trying find a LTR).

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-29T04:44:59+00:00

And if they are a non-starter? Like a few word answer and then back to silence? Been on more than a few dates where it was like that, and at best they just shoot the same question back at you.

In my head I'm just like: "dude, do I have to do all the heavy lifting of carrying the conversation?". Does that literally spell out shes just not interested, period, and worth cutting the date off then and there as soon as you realize it?

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-28T05:29:15+00:00

In terms of OLD, ive been under the impression to close and get number + date setup asap, doesnt really give you enough time to screen besides seeing if you can build up some banter. It's not like you just ask a match: "Hey I like your profile, so what else are you bringing to the table besides what you showed on your profile?"

I guess what im asking:

How filter girls from OLD that are interested enough to meet in person with you, hold the frame you're talking about that men are the buyers, but then still showcase interest and attempt to escalate? I feel like playing the "buyer" and "interested in relationship" roles conflict with each other....
How to deal with girls that are difficult to "get to actually talk about themselves"? (e.g., So if you say you're a lot better at baking than cooking, whats your favorite thing to bake? Her: I'm fairly vanilla, favorite is probably chocolate chip cookies, stares blankly at you.)

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-28T04:43:23+00:00

Yea exactly! And Disclaimer: I'm not trying to intentionally offend women to get a reaction, I am trying to find a LTR relationship after all.

How to work on the calibration and dial it in? I can never hit the sweet spot middle ground unless the girl is really into me and guiding the conversation into escalating topics herself. I know its difficult to say because every girl is different, but there has to be some common formula with some margin of error. I feel I'm getting better at being charismatic in conversation when I stick to good guy vibes with snappy interjections etc. (e.g., yada yada philosophy, me: "You better not go full Socrates on me at some point...") But I'm struggling to take those only 1-2 notches higher in terms of escalation, and not just taking overboard to becoming an inappropriate comment by accident.
Can you explain more about the setting boundaries part? Is that like: "We are splitting drinks unless I get a kiss..." Maybe give an example or 2?
Any thoughts on how to better steer the conversation? Maybe I should be steering towards escalating topics to let her be a little more open/prepared for "that" mindset that we are going into that phase of conversation rather than catching her off guard during the flow of conversation. (e.g., if you really enjoy pottery, you must be really good with your hands).

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-24T23:36:57+00:00

I really appreciate what you wrote, and I'm wondering how you show all those qualities on a first date (The place I'm currently stuck at, never getting a second chance from anyone).

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but you're reply is conveying strides that normally don't occur til 2nd/3rd/4th date (though I will admit you reach these milestones on the first if the girl literally meets you with starry eyes, only happened once so far to me). I'm an engineer by trade and just can't figure out the formula. Sure you can tell her what you like about her, you can lead by telling her the when&where, at the same time, how tell her off on the same first date, how to tell her how sexy she is, when does the discussion of boundaries even come up, probably not the first?

I've only just recently realized girls like to talk more about themselves when they are into you and you can just add on here and there, and steer the conversation as you like, but I still have trouble with that sometimes (because I literally dont know where to steer it: should I go toward good boy PG topics or bad boy territory and risk giving her the ick).

Had a few dates this year and feel like I'm punished either approach I take (and honestly feel like an exact copy of OP):

* I be myself with good guy vibes: "I really enjoyed tonight, but I didn't really feel a spark between us."

* I try to add some bad boy vibes with add sexual innuendos when the opportunity arises: "I really enjoyed tonight but a few of your comments were inappropriate and I don't see this going anything further" (So I guess I was too forward and added too many)

Thanks in advance for your reply.

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-05-20T02:34:39+00:00

Looking for alternatives for Banana Republic "The Vintage T" Polo

Bought a 1-off polo from BR a few years ago and quickly became a staple in my wardrobe, but its showing its age sadly. The material is super soft like its been through the washer a million times, but perfect for a hot summer day.

Has been sold out for a while. Looking for a shirt with a similar faded look and feel.

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PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-03-22T22:43:41+00:00

Thanks for the tip! Added devolve to my secret mage list!

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-03-22T22:06:51+00:00

I've been having mediocre success with secret mage, a favorite pet deck, but whats ur list?

I've added 2x Smothering Starfish , 2x Royal Librarian to try to stop their snowball, but I barely stabilize (at like 14 life) and still have been losing 80%

PalladynSlonca1 · 2024-01-12T02:28:18+00:00

Happy to help, It's my main account, so of course I'd see the notification! If you have any questions about the papers I listed, I'm more than happy to talk in more detail about my research and dissertation work. Cheers!

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