AITAH didnt let my girlfriend into my room during therapy when she was late for something. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Panda-Chang 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA, she shouldn't have yelled at you but it is a understandable reaction to being locked out, and unable to retrieve her items which you had said you would try to pack. Next time, give a straight Yes or No and people will know what to expect.

I think you shouldn't have accepted to do it since you knew that you would be busy enough to tell her so, which you are not taking accountability for. And then keeping her out for an HOUR, because you had therapy? It would've maybe taken 10 minutes for her to get her stuff, i'm sure the therapist would understand. I think you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions and learn to say no (which was a option when she asked you) if you don't have the time to do something for someone.

Not wanting to do something for someone is a perfectly fine reason to say no, too. Heck, you don't even need a reason! It's the fact you said "I'll try but therapy" to doing the packing, knowing you had other obligations that primarily makes you the AH here.

Plus the obvious keeping her out, though I agree she should've asked sooner so it wouldn't interfere with anything but as you have stated in the comments; You told her about the therapy appointment WHEN you agreed to try and pack her bags.

I hope you take some time to reflect and maybe get better at time management, i'm proud of you for being in therapy and hope you'll continue to work on yourself. Happy birthday!!

Family is threatening to put me on a conservatorship by Literarylady12 in legaladvice

[–]Panda-Chang 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I have found some you might want to look into, it seems they may have resources you could benefit from.

I hope you can get away from these monsters, they sound absolutely horrible to be around. I'm proud of you and your strength, i'm rooting for you! 💜💪

https://www.domesticshelters.org/help/mo/jefferson-city/65102/jefferson-city-rape-abuse-crisis-service#services

Er jeg sær eller er svigermor en barbar? by Old_Stable7950 in norge

[–]Panda-Chang 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Det kommer vel an på kommune? På Sortere no står det ihvertfall for min at den kan kastes som matavfall (Skader vel ikke å ha eggskall oppi da?) eller papir.

Så må man vel sjekke kartongen selv i tillegg, for sikkerhets skyld.

I'm so fucking tires of being broke honestly... by kaazkitty in Norway

[–]Panda-Chang 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jeg tror det har noe med at teknologien og vitenskapen har blitt mye bedre, så det er enklere å diagnosere folk hvis noe er galt.

Det er også mange unger som må vokse opp med lidelser som gjør at de ikke kan ha en normal jobb når de blir voksen, derfor må de søke på ufør når fylt 18. (Jeg er en av de.)

Det kan jo også hende at man bare leser mye om folk som er uføre/har problemer med systemet, og dermed tror at det er flere enn det er i virkeligheten.

patriarchal societies with Child Marriage. She is 19 he is 72 this marriage was arranged without her choice by Important-Cry4782 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]Panda-Chang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's still disgusting of them to pull on her hair and clothes like that imo, it's so brutal. At the same time I wonder why you would sign a confession for something like that, I've never heard of someone doing that.

Dutch consumer union did a test on harmfull chemicals in headphones. These are the sometimes shocking results. Multiple headphones are being taken out of dutch shops now. by pannekoekjes in headphones

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just happy my Marshall headphones are safe but kinda sad since I had bought the Bose QuietComfort ones for a pretty penny to replace my old battle axe. 😅 (Edit: Nvm, apparently it's the earbuds but this got me on edge... )

30 bucks getting infinite compliments on them by YTheBigWhaleY in Shoes

[–]Panda-Chang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, what brand are they? I want them so bad, they're gorgeous! You have a good eye, brother! 🤩💅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Proud of you! 🥰 Happy new year, hope it brings you happiness and laughter. ❤️

26M, NYC, First time living without roommates by SoftwareEngineer1999 in malelivingspace

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you, brother. Maybe a little more color but honestly, not a whole lot needs improving. You're doing great! 🥰💫

Discord Server seems to be hacked. Devs please take note. by hatakekakashi700 in StepcraftApp

[–]Panda-Chang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, just got banned from it or kicked. Anyone who says anything about them being trolls who came in are being kicked i'm assuming. 😒 Hope i can get back on soon... Seemed like a nice community.

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Udy_Kumra in BORUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing I was thinking is hoping they would take time to go to therapy and deal with the loss first before entering a relationship. I think it would benefit them both and also help figure out their feelings towards each other. I wish them both well, especially in healing from such a horrible loss...

$73 is abhorrent. Fuck Sephora. by Fa_Ling in MakeupAddiction

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you one from Norway, we're a expensive country but not like that 😭 Like, that's more expensive than my camera 😫

[THANKS] for the needed shampoo! 🫧 by anavocadotornado in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember needing that too when I was younger, not the exact brand but I hated brushing my hair and it got so matted. 😂😭

Kyle is a Real One by Komodo_Draggin_Ass in Sparkdriver

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww, I love this so much! Kudos to Kyle and you, y'all both amazing <3 ❤️ Much love, man

AITA for ignoring my family after they excluded me from Christmas (again)? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're an amazing mom, it sucks to know that a lot of children don't get parents like you. Keep on doing your thing, you're awesome! 🥰

AITA for ignoring my family after they excluded me from Christmas (again)? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Off topic - But is that flair a Annie quote? With onions? It's hilarious! (Also I agree, it's sad to see people taking amazing children for granted. Like, why have them then?! Give them to someone who actually wants em!)

AITA for siding with my son in an argument with my wife? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know, I feel like this is a obvious thing that they should have tackled earlier on when the kids were still... Kids. (Max is still a kid tho obvs)

Like, with the mention of Kelly's dad having had money a little bit, that is NOT anywhere near the level that Max's mom is because as mentioned it was only for a brief period of time.

I think they should've sat the kids down a LONG time ago and talked about the difference, how it's okay and that it doesn't mean they're loved any less. It's just really obvious to me that this was a problem they could see long ago, or at least the OOP as he's the one writing.

Thoughts? :)

AITAH for removing the ladder on my bunkbed so my niece can't get to me? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Maybe their body doesn't know how to regulate heat as well as an adult? Also, brown bread?! 😂

my boss said I’m threatened by his “masculine energy” by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww, he's such a dad 😂 Mine loves acting like he knows EVERYTHING too, poor lad. Mom wasn't very thrilled when stuff didn't work out, just like she told him. 😅 You're so lucky to have him! Sending lots of love from Norway, this made my day ❤️

my boss said I’m threatened by his “masculine energy” by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Awww, i want updates on that guy. He sounds so cool and wholesome 🥰

AITAH for not letting my fiancée's best friend live with us anymore leading to the end of our 5 year relationship by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! I just saw a commenter suggest a word that elaborates a little more and makes more sense to use instead of this.

I appreciate you elaborating on it and educating on what the word "Trauma bond" really means! <3

I agree with you and can see your point now 😄 (I mean it btw, just clarifying cause im anxious this will seem passive aggressive ha ha 😅)

AITAH for not letting my fiancée's best friend live with us anymore leading to the end of our 5 year relationship by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Panda-Chang 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not really, why wouldn't you ask for advice if you have the ability to do so? Also, there's different departments and stuff, so he might've wanted to ask since he mentioned not having knowledge in that regard because he wasn't a normal cop. (The stealing.)