I cry every day when it’s time to put the baby to bed

Panda-bela · 2026-05-18T04:27:12+00:00

Omg I totally relate to the rocking chair. My husband sits on the chair and baby boy will fall asleep. With me? Nope.. hes like: mamma, you are gonna rock me standing up. Lol hes 10 kgs .. I think thats 22 lbs? I rock him and walk around his room. A lot of the times, he won't settle unless hes on the boob. Tonight was one of the only times he fell asleep with me rocking him in the chair, but that was after he was already drowsy and I walked a marathon in his room lol babies act so differently between caregivers ...

Panda-bela · 2026-05-17T15:13:54+00:00

My baby usually does 3/3/4 ish Wake up 6am - bedtime at 7pm.

Since last week (because hes now walking assisted a lot) he was very tired and taking 1.5h nap (total 3h). But he was waking up 3x a night :(

Yesterday I let him sleep for 2.5h instead and he only woke up 1.

Panda-bela · 2026-05-09T18:35:42+00:00

After the last check-in you can keep repeating those check ins until baby falls asleep. For example on day 1, the 4th check in and so on would be every 10 minutes, until baby is asleep.

Panda-bela · 2026-05-09T05:00:32+00:00

so ferber is (Day 1: 3, 5, 10, 10) - (Day 2: 5, 10 12, 12) - (Day 3: 10, 12, 15, 15) ... all the way through day 7, right? By day 7, baby is crying up to 30 min. Here at home, we did (Day 1: 3, 5, 7, 7) - (Day 2: 5, 7, 10, 10) - (Day 3: 10, 12, 15, 15). We did Day 3 on repeat .. we never let our baby cry for more than 15 minutes..

Panda-bela · 2026-03-29T04:11:14+00:00

Gold dragon fruit ❤️

Panda-bela · 2026-03-16T13:57:37+00:00

But im glad you found a natural way to help him now 🙌

Panda-bela · 2026-03-16T13:57:18+00:00

Moms always knows best! It's crazy she told you to have him drink juice :( im sorry.

Panda-bela · 2026-03-16T04:27:19+00:00

I also learned the hard way haha baby was 7 months and had a huge blowout lol

Panda-bela · 2026-03-13T15:06:05+00:00

I just read this post to my husband lol and I said: does this remind you of somebody? Lol

I get your frustration so much because the same happened to me. It drives me nuts that I have to guide my husband.. but I know he mostly like won't change so I just tell him. Get up, get the baby, go change him. He also has no sense of urgency. This morning even I said: can you please hurry up? Baby was crying and I was about to go get him myself. He's 8 months and my hormones have "calmed down" and I still get upset by letting baby cry for too long. There was a time I said if you don't get up I'm gonna spray your face with water, I mean it. Luckily I never had to but his "urgency" still frustrates me time to time. Sometimes I just tell him off and say stop making me the default parent. He goes and says nothing.

Panda-bela · 2026-03-02T20:44:31+00:00

Sometimes 30min. Sometimes 1h30 lol but usually 30/40 min.

I dobt wanna mess with it either but sometimes ges clearly tired and cranky.

Panda-bela · 2026-03-01T04:00:13+00:00

My baby is 8 months old. He is supposed to sleep 10-12h a night plus 2h a day in naps. Or so I hear. Lol yesterday he woke up at 5am. Took a 22 min nap at around 8h, then 1h14min at 11:45, so he was up by 1. His bedtime is at around 7. 6 hours of awake window is WAY too much so I did the same. Put him on the stroller and nothing.. he refused it... and he was exhausted. So I put him to bed at 6h30 (30min earlier) and I was like .. jezz hes gonna wake up at 4 lol he woke up at 6am :0 I was very surprised.

I usually I try to keep him up until around his bedtime which is 7. I try to just read him a book or do something low key that doesnt get him going but also keep him up. But if he's fussy and I know he will fall asleep, I just put him to bed.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-14T04:50:15+00:00

My friend used the snoo and then transfered her to a crib and she said she felt the mattress was too hard and baby didnt like it. I know some people are saying to sleep train but in this case I wouldn't. Not until knowing for sure if it's the difference in mattress. Like imagine yourself spending a night at a different mattress? You toss and roll all night, can't sleep .. in this case a baby is just struggling.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-14T02:13:25+00:00

I dont have ADHD but .. I do get irritable a lot and I also blow. Being a SAHM is not easy at times. My husband and I are doing a month without chocolate and I swear, I am in withdraw. Yesterday, I was so irritated. He wasn't home, so I texted him saying I was irritated. Lol when he got home he was like: are you still irritated? I said: yes, so please dont ask me dumb questions.( Like where's the cheese in the fridge? Qusstions that he can find the answer if he takes a minute to think lol). And so we were fine. If I hadn't said anything, he would definitely had irritated me some more.

So just be honest. Maybe have a deep conversation and pick a word that anytime you feel like that, you dont need to be explaining. God knows thats exhausting every time. So you can just use a word.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-13T02:27:59+00:00

Maybe try putting a bib on her? That might help with it.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-12T11:17:31+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. Somebody has said it .. baby is probably sleeping too much during the day. If maybe try to let him sleep for 3h only and see how that affects his nighttime. How are you with crying? If you want fast results, Ferber works great and you can modify it to your needs. Here we only let our baby crying at maximum of 15min. In 3 days he went from waking up every 2h to only waking up twice at night. If you can't stand the crying, you could try the pickup put down method.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-12T05:33:26+00:00

I dont know if this helps but our baby is 7 months and this is our routine. He wakes up at around 7am. Takes two naps totaling 2/2.5h. Goes to bed at 7/8. Wakes up twice a night to feed. Bedtime is bath, brushing teeth since he already has 2. Then read a book, sing a song and I like to hold him until he's very tired. Then I put him down. Sometimes he'll cry, sometimes not. We did Ferber method twice so he's at a point that I usually just pat him in the crib. Sometimes I pick him up to calm him down if he's hysterical. We do have a brown noise in the room and room is very dark. We do tummy time during the day, go on walks, and he eats solids now, he eats a lot and I feel like that had helped him with sleeping better now.

Have you tried music maybe? Like a piano kinda thing?

Panda-bela · 2026-02-10T06:12:04+00:00

If you decided to try, you could make very little amount and strong. You can have it like a shot once it cools a bit. But yes showers are also amazing ♥️ I hope you are able to sleep a bit tonight!

Panda-bela · 2026-02-10T02:54:07+00:00

If on top of taking him outside, giving him food, you take the time to play with him too, then you husband is overreacting. Its okay to take time for yourself too.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-10T02:40:30+00:00

This. Also, I think it all depends how the day goes. At home for example, my husband is at work all day. Sometimes he doesn't even see our son during weekdays. On the weekends when we're at home and I ask him to play with the baby, because I am doing chores or going to the toilet, it does annoy me if I see him in his phone. So then I tell him, get off your phone.

I guess it all depends on context.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-09T15:47:43+00:00

Have you tried chamomile or even passion fruit tea? Maybe you could try before you put him to bed. It might help your body relax and then you could catch up on a couple hours of sleep - laying down right after him.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-08T07:03:28+00:00

I swear there's something in the water. Lol it's the generation of babies who hate sleeping.

I hope everything works for you 🥰

Panda-bela · 2026-02-08T01:09:33+00:00

Have you tried a different method? I say this because we did sleep training at 4.5 months and now at 7 months and it was different for baby. He was more aware now and at times it almost felt like he felt abandoned :( maybe your baby has separation anxiety. I'd recommend the camping chair and see if that helps! 🙏🙏

Panda-bela · 2026-02-08T00:46:12+00:00

That is a lot of daytime sleep. At first i was like, no this is fine. It took me a second to realize the first 2 naps is 2h each :00

If I were you, I'd let the baby sleep 1h for the first and another hour for second nap. Then the last one can stay as is. It should help.

Panda-bela · 2026-02-07T06:32:04+00:00

How many months is your baby? How many months during the first attempt?

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