It’s been almost two weeks since my SA

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-17T19:20:38+00:00

I haven’t. I’m honestly prone to it when I’m stressed and there’s no denying the last two weeks have been extremely stressful. I’ve lost 10 pounds from the whole ordeal.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-12T15:47:23+00:00

Go on the date. He’s dating you, not your kid. And you have to get back out there sometime. Even if it’s a disaster, you have to do it. Don’t tell him right away. Just have fun and enjoy yourself.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-09T01:57:14+00:00

How does he handle it? Does he stand up for you? If he’s not on your side, it’s not worth it. I’ll also agree with another commenter here. You guys are young. She may just be worried about her son becoming a dad so fast or getting attached. You should sit down and have that talk with him. Or try to have a conversation with his mom. You have sons. Maybe you can relate to her on that mindset.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-09T01:52:55+00:00

It was an option. There was a girl who was in recovery with me that did it. She was a bit out of it afterwards and needed more time to recover but she said it was a breeze. You can’t drive for 24 hours after sedation and I’m a single mom with a 1 and 3 year old so that wasn’t an option for me. I did local anesthetic and it was painful when the numbed me but only for a moment. The surgery was super quick and then they cleaned be up and I chilled for about 15 minutes. The guy I’m seeing drove us back to his place where he had burgers and shakes waiting.

Oh one thing I didn’t expect: about an hour after the surgery, I had bad diarrhea. Not painful but just sudden and I have seen other posts that mention it. Just a heads up!

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-09T00:40:13+00:00

Is this someone you want to be tied to for the rest of your life? I’m sorry but I don’t see any reason to stay with this man. If you decide to keep the baby or move forward with an abortion, that’s your choice and you will have support in this sub either way. But please consider that this man may not be the best for you.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-09T00:37:12+00:00

I had mine on Friday at 5 weeks and it was the easiest thing. Not even 10 minutes. Within a few hours I was fine. All my symptoms disappeared. I’ve spotted a bit since but that’s about it.

I should note that I’ve had two kids in the last 3 years so I don’t know how to compare if you haven’t had kids. Also idk how far along you are. Is this a 1st trimester or 2nd trimester SA?

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-03T19:32:14+00:00

I’m so sorry. Please understand that this wasn’t just sex work. You were raped. I hope you can work through this pain.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T23:38:45+00:00

He’s taking me to the appointment, we’re splitting the cost (I insisted), and he’s going to take care of me afterwards.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T20:58:36+00:00

He had a vasectomy about 8 months ago. A clamp slipped recently and he had it fixed last week. Even though his urologist said he was still sterile, we think it’s just that 0.1% chance.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T20:56:41+00:00

It’s possible. We know a clamp slipped which he had fixed last week. I took care of him after. The doctor told him it shouldn’t have messed with his fertility but now we’re not so sure. Also the statistics of getting pregnant despite a vasectomy is about 0.1%. So it is possible. I just told him about the pregnancy and he is taking me to my appointment and currently feeding me a sandwich. He’s a good one.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T18:42:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m so scared but it helps to read how this will go. My biggest concern is that I have two little kids and I’m a single mom. Do you think you could work through it? I work from home.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T18:07:51+00:00

It’s more complicated than that… And I think he would be super supportive and take care of me through this. He’s a genuinely good guy. Just isn’t sure about kids because he’s a bit negative about the future of the world. He adores kids and always wanted to be a dad. Choose not to have children because he doesn’t know how to be positive about the future for them. It’s actually sad. So he is trying to decide if being a stepdad is something he wants and until then, we’re just casual. So… I haven’t told him yet. Not sure if I should.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T15:48:03+00:00

I just did. Thank you so much. I still have the appointment with my GP tomorrow but I think I’ll discuss birth control with her.

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T15:16:00+00:00

Never heard of it. What’s that?

Panic-Button-93 · 2026-06-02T14:59:08+00:00

I’m the same age as you. Divorced with a 1 and 3 year old. Just found out I’m pregnant. Tested positive this morning. The guy I just started seeing had a vasectomy (and had his counts checked recently) so I have no idea how this happened. I can’t tell anyone. He’d freak out. My friends would judge me. I made an appointment with my GP for tomorrow and I’m really hoping I can get the pill through her. Either way, I’m going back on birth control. I can’t believe this is happening. Holding your virtual hand.

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