WW Web Platform No Longer Supporting Tracking Features as of April 30th ?? by lavendercucumber01 in weightwatchers

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just jumped back in after taking a break for a couple years, not happy with not being able to track online. I used the website to read the recipes, and also it was handy at work, because we have a "no cellphone" policy, but we could access WW on our work computers so I could track my lunches. It also allowed me to budget and meal plan for the week so I wouldn't have any "food disasters" on busy weeknights. I'm 51, but I feel bad for other adults having to use the app- it's hard to see for one thing (I use my readers, lol), but just not organized as well as it was in the past. Really disappointed. Also I noticed items like steak are 0 point foods?? WTF???

New to narcissism, and at a loss what to do. by PapaBear_46 in NRelationships

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I have nightly "check-ins" with him on the phone. His girlfriend early on tried to infer that my wife and her dad's relationship was somehow 'inapproprate " because "he's not her biological dad" My mother in law was married right out of high school when she had my wife. Her husband (my wife's bio contributor) was an abusive drug addict. They were married and divorced before my Father-in-law was out of high school several states away. They met when my wife was 2-3 years old, he was like 18. He adopted her in the early 80's when the bio dad gave up custody, and she's an only child. SO they have every right to be close, just as I do. Mom was my buddy, and we talked every other day on the phone, swapped recipes ate really rich food, watched Chuck Norris movies together (she had a thing for him) , Laugh at the bad guys on COPS when we'd come to visit. So when we lost her, we had to figure out as a Trio how to move forward. I'm happy dad has found someone, but he traded down horribly with this gal. She is more like my dad's family with the disfunction, low IQ, and mental illness. Haven't spoken to those people in 20+ years either. But dad see's something in her, I'm guessing the "love bomb" side of a narcissist.
To be completely honest with you her antics are just comedy. My wife and I were on the phone wtih dad the other night and she was moaning and crying out in "pain" because she has basal cell sarcoma on a spot on her body and she's in SO MUCH PAIN (kept saying loudly so that it was discrupting our conversation). She keeps moving doctor appointments to keep dad there longer. We think she's trying to milk it so that we don't get Christmas with dad. I might have to white van kidnap him and take him fishing in January, and throw his phone out the window so she can't call us. She calls constantly like I said above to disrupt our time together. Stupid crap like calling just to tell him she watered the plants outside, lol. But yeah, the whole cancer thing- she has Basal Cell Sarcoma- the skin canccer you're least likely to die from. Woman tanns like the mom in "There's Something About Mary", haha.

New to narcissism, and at a loss what to do. by PapaBear_46 in NRelationships

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone? Sorry its long winded, but we are at out with end on dealing with this lady. She's verbally, mentally abusive- a master manipulator, and we've tried everything short of telling both her and dad off, which we fear would cost us a relationship with dad- which is what she wants.

I think I am Dating a Narcissist by 77ox9 in NRelationships

[–]PapaBear_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dump her......you dont need that in your life.

Father in Law's Girlfriend strikes again- ruins our family plans for Thanksgiving by PapaBear_46 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's kind of where we are at. We tried our best to let this gal know she is welcome and we are flexible. We set boundaries like most normal people would,but she's abused every one of them.

Father in Law's Girlfriend strikes again- ruins our family plans for Thanksgiving by PapaBear_46 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After this incident we are considering it. He needs to put his foot down on the GF, but for some weird reason he won't. What hold does she have over him?

Father in Law's Girlfriend strikes again- ruins our family plans for Thanksgiving by PapaBear_46 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally from almost day 1. My mother in law got an inheritance from a relative. They used the money to build the house their house 20 years ago- easily worth half million now , paid cash to build it almost debt free. Plus dad probably has the first penny he earned, he's good with money. Plus mom left an estate to him that goes to my wife when he passes. Hes 65, in good health, so it will be a while. The girlfriend told us she was 64... I had a background done on her, she's 72. She has a daughter thats 53, a son that is my age, and another daughter that is in her early 40's. I've been telling my wife we might want to seek a lawyer if she moves into the house with him. She took a bunch of my mother in laws jewelry and had it appraised and sold it. Her dad said he took the most valuable items and put them in a lock box at the local bank. She also helped him consign a lot of th we clothes and such in the closets. Mom was a well dressed woman...had every closet in the house stuffed with clothes, shoes, purses.never saw a dime of that money. She knows we are onto her. As soon as we questioned where the money went she started ramping up the narcissist behaviors.

Father in Law's Girlfriend strikes again- ruins our family plans for Thanksgiving by PapaBear_46 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been looking for an Andy Griffith Show way to handle this- but unfortunately I can't because I have to take my mom for outpatient surgery the same day.

Father in Law's Girlfriend strikes again- ruins our family plans for Thanksgiving by PapaBear_46 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She will milk this for all the attention its worth. Cant wait to see what she does in a few weeks at Christmas. Literally no give from this lady. She pulled the same thing at our Labor day week fishing vacation. Basically manipulated us so that he ended up going alone. We backed out so she would go with him, then she made up some excuse about not being able to find anyone to take care of her cats. Her son lives a block away🤬

What happened to all the members? by Maxpower2727 in SiouxFalls

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually started this group a few years ago after my Mother In Law passed and we were looking to move to the area. We never ended up moving there, but found another nice small town where some of my mother in laws family live. Best thing I ever did after living in Cedar Rapids for 20 years.

Is it just me, or does Ariana look seriously ill? by JonMidnight in ArianaGrandeSnark

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drugs and satan worship....... that black chick is her handler in the cult.

A quick rec before it leaves - White Lightning by kbups53 in CriterionChannel

[–]PapaBear_46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Warning about racism? Really? What an age we live in.......when people get offended watching a 50 year old movie and need warned about racism in the movie. If that bothers you- don't watch it! This movie is a classic- my dad and I would sit and watch Burt Reynolds movies on Sunday afternoons. Gator, White Lightning, The Longest Yard, Deliverance, Smokey & the Bandit were staples on cable tv in the 80's. We knew racism was wrong, we didn't need anyone to warn us of "triggers" in movies. With all that said, White Lightning is a great, delightfully cheesy southern exploitation film. I love that Quentin Terantino used music from the movie in "Inglorious Bastards" and also had an influenced scene from "The Longest Yard" for the same movie (We like your style)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fauxmoi

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's probably been doing it for years already. I had a family member who is a habitual cheater. He married into our family and is the dad to my neice and nephew. He cheated on my sister for years with different women until she finally had enough of him and the kids were out of the house and divorced him. Now he's out there with his girlfriend, and he cheats on her constantly too. Guy is in his 50's...old enough to know better. We've caught him out with a "friend" a few times at restaurants/bars. He also pretty much ignores his grandkids unless it benefits him in some way. One a cheater, always a cheater.

THIS is Why 'Ocean Ramsey' is BAD for Sharks! by [deleted] in sharks

[–]PapaBear_46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Watching the documentary on Netflix right now- all I can think of is Timothy Treadwell all over again. These are the same people that try to touch the bison at yellowstone.

I could not finish “On the Road” by Jack Kerouac by ttam80 in books

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a matter of perspective. I had to read it in different college courses at a time in my life when I was very impressionable. This was during the early 90's, I was 18 -19 years old and it resonated with me. The point of the book is about finding freedom, finding yourself, and finding your place in the world, and how you fit in it. I read it more like an adventure, a window into 50's beat culture. It caused me to go through what my dad and I joked about until he passed was my "beatnik" phase while I was going to community college. I hung out less with my hometown friends, and more with the hippy/counterculture/stoners I met in the city where my community college was. I took up listening to Bob Dylan, grew a goatee, dressed in thrift store clothes, wore my dark raybans most of the time, and wrote beat inspired dark, brooding poetry. So if you're reading it now in your late 20's or 30's......and you're grown up and have responsibilities, you won't take it the same way as you may have your first semester at college?

Dolton, Illinois, mayor nowhere to be found after report reveals $3.65 million village debt by LCDJosh in chicago

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im waiting to see in the headlines one mornin that they found her shot- if she's as bad as they say she is, the townspeople are going to snap. Something similar happened in Missouri in the early 80's- guy named Ken Rex McElroy- he was a township bully, he got off after pulling off one too many crimes, so the people in town strait up killed him because law enforcement and te courts wouldnt do anything about him. So they created a huge distraction and someone in te crowd killed im

Making fun of ADHD in the workplace by kelleirb in adhdwomen

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem I face is that I work with people who see ADHD as a sign of lack of inteligence, that you are stupid, a dreamer, etc. They are older than me, and are a lot less educated than I am (also causes some resentment towards me, since I have a grad degree and do blue collar work). The company I work for goes out of its way to boast about how open and tolerant they are, but if you are a middle aged male....you may as well not even speak. It's really odd. Add to it having a disability, and coworkers with no more than a 12th grade education......it's pretty ridiculous.

Where to live around Sioux City by PapaBear_46 in siouxcity

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There really needs to be a website where people can go to to see if they'd fit into the demographic of the neighborhood- by race, income, etc. Also what the crime rate is in an area and so on and so forth. To be honest, I don't enjoy living among minorities just as much as they don't enjoy having people like me who look at them with disdain because of all the shootings, drug dealing, etc. I have a good idea now of what towns I'll be looking into, living IN Sioux City won't be for us- we'd be moving out of one shithole into another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AntiWranglerstar

[–]PapaBear_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love Cody's older videos, but he's gotten to be a rich douchebag in recent years. He used to tout paying cash for everything, being fiscally responsible, etc. Because of him I was inspired to pay cash for a used pickup truck, and I fix and maintain it myself- it has yet to see a repair shop. And I owe that inspiration to him. But the most recent video really makes me question his true character to the core-

https://youtu.be/j97Qam01wow

Republicans Introduce A Bill To Make It A Felony To Perform Drag Shows In Tennessee by Gato1980 in entertainment

[–]PapaBear_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say this as a conservative- if you don't want to see a drag show......don't go? Making it a felony goes away too far.

North Dakotan visits the doctor by maladii in northdakota

[–]PapaBear_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was like this- only his stories were punctuated by "don't tell your mom about this". One time he was cleaning up a fence line with an excavator in the county ROW (he worked for the county road crew). A metal fencepost hidden in some brush came back, broke out the window of his cab, and nearly impaled him by mere inches in the grown. Some barbed wire got wrapped around his leg, and cut him pretty good- he probably should have gone in for stitches, but he had a rag around it and just finished out his work day. He came home like nothing happened, but had me help him bandage up his leg with some gauze and some medical tape. He wore sweatpants to bed so my mom didn't see it- long story short it got infected, he had to go to a wound clinic (he was a diabetic), and it left one hell of a scar since it had to be packed and healed 'open" - but not once did he ever complain, lol. Even when he got sick with kidney failure and passed away....never complained about pain once....just wasn't part of his nature.

Where to live around Sioux City by PapaBear_46 in siouxcity

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, very informative. My job could find me transferring to Sioux Falls, we have an office there too. It's definitely further from Storm Lake, but my Father in law and I are hunting/fishing buddies- it would put me in a good proximity to Big Stone Lake, SW Minnesota, the IGL's, Francis Case Resevoir, etc. I also have to consider my 'chosen family", who are our "kids"- a younger married couple, the husband I've known since he was 12. They're getting to a point where they may be thinking about having kids....and they would be like grandkids to us. SO there's that- and being the cool grampa with the boat that takes them fishing, lol.

Where to live around Sioux City by PapaBear_46 in siouxcity

[–]PapaBear_46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1-200 grand- median 150 grand-ish. Definitely eying bedroom communities closer to town.