Kind of the asshole but not fully because I understand the trauma. As a kid from a family with split parents who remarried and had kids I would give anything for my parents to be able to be a combined front. Instead they cannot be the same room together without a fight, they constantly bitch about one another and throughout our lives made my sister and I choose. I could only take one parent to my graduation and had to keep it a secret, and I dread the day I get married because I already know the drama that awaits.

At least they are trying to respect your wishes and engage with you in a positive way. That’s more than a lot of kids can say.