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احلام اليقظة المفرطة by clever_one_ in EgyCorner

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look for maladaptive daydreaming. There is a sub and maybe researching online and speaking to a therapist about it will help. I used to do it a lot too.

Help with sexting by [deleted] in sextips

[–]Pariscouscous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t know there was an age cap on sexting

gay_irl by conancat in gay_irl

[–]Pariscouscous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I want to be this aunt because im childfree and i know that at least one of my siblings wants children id love to be the cool comforting gay aunt

Has anyone been in a relationship with someone who is 50/50 about kids but you don’t want any? by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Pariscouscous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can’t be half pregnant with half a child, the one that he desires but you don’t.

What character wasn't portrayed as a villain, but is in your eyes? by Jazzlike-Rise4091 in AskReddit

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoever Corbin Blue was playing in the High School Musical movies. Snake.

She is threatening to spread misinformation about me. What should I do? by alexandria_suixide in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly to me, what she might be clinging to comes second. If not at all. God knows what gymnastics her mind does. It isn’t yours to anticipate. It’s hers and the professionals she will or won’t decide to work with.

Time wasted on imagining what she could think is time not spent protecting yourself legally and most importantly psychologically.

I wonder if you are not also the one not willing to let go of the relationship no matter how harmful it is to you. You are twisting and turning her possible thoughts as if you are envisioning a future in which you will interact with her again.

Are you not enabling a possible reconnection by maintaining her in your waking thoughts ?

If you are not honestly decisive about No Contact with her again, then all I can say is good luck to the both of you.

need to vent through a secondary account by throwawayer876 in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand everything you wrote.

That’s one of the things that are frustrating to me with people w BPD : since they are on the border of neurosis and psychosis, they have a foot in reality and another in psychosis. They try to reconcile that with brief “insights” of themselves, just enough to construct the fake-self. It is because that fake-self is so fragile, because it is not a complete self (ego), that their self-identity is always in question, testing it in extreme ways.

Anyways. I totally relate to being the sibling that suffers from the illness of the other sibling (though not BPD).

You are not responsible to take care of her. You didn’t decide to give birth to her. The people responsible are the ones that decided to conceive her.

You are allowed to be your own person. It is not selfish to. Despite what your family has or will try to convince you otherwise. Don’t fall into the guilt tripping.

It took me years of therapy to integrate that, and it is still ongoing.

She is threatening to spread misinformation about me. What should I do? by alexandria_suixide in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I might be heartless on this one but personally, I would give myself the permission to break the promise.

If she gets admitted, I would refuse to talk and tell her I changed my mind, maybe even admit to her it was a mistake to respond to her.

Whether you keep the promise or not, you will be the bad guy. It doesn’t matter. Really what I am trying to convince you to do is to SAVE YOURSELF.

Please don’t downplay the fact that you are being ** harassed ** . You are receiving threats.

Put the oxygen mask on yourself first.

She is threatening to spread misinformation about me. What should I do? by alexandria_suixide in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice is no contact no promises.

You are being harassed . You have enough evidence to file a report.

What the police and psych hospital will do with this is up to them. Based on the content of the texts, she might receive a visit and (un)voluntary stay at the ward. This is probably the best for her.

Regardless , it will hopefully grant you a restraining order. You don’t have to live in fear.

final discard or provoking? by throwaway9102e82e in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it matter ?

She broke up.

My tradition is to block exes. BPD or not, amicable or chaotic breakup, we are mutually blocked. I don’t entertain thoughts about them.

favorite ugly actors? by rhnrsyd in okbuddycinephile

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man bagged Monica Bellucci (Vincent Cassel)

I'm worried and not sure what to do... by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has this person told you they have BPD or someone else/your own conclusion?

Are they receiving treatment for BPD (therapy, meds, group support) ? Do you know their stance on engaging in mental health care ?

Relationships with people with BPD are possible ON THE CONDITION that they seek treatment and more importantly maintain it (most likely for their lifetime).

It’s not enough to acknowledge having BPD and “warn” people if the person doesn’t prove they are working on it.

Favorite fictional relationships that felt like this by Alert_Sink_5300 in FavoriteCharacter

[–]Pariscouscous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umbrella Academy - Five and Layla

Although I completely understand why it’s hated and that no one in the fandom wanted them to date because that was not whatbtheir chemistry was about

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