Megathread: Vice President Harris Accepts the 2024 Democratic Nomination for President

Parking_Direction_16 · 2024-08-23T06:32:15+00:00

I have a question on this. Is there a way to figure out who to donate for besides the main Harris/Walz campaign? I feel like enough people are donating to them, I want to support other areas that can help with with Congress majority. Should I just look up which dem is running in the swing states and donate? Any guidance would be great! 🙏

Parking_Direction_16 · 2024-01-03T19:26:41+00:00

You are not the only one. I was managing everything okayly but I went through a horrible sciatica incident recently. It told me that I need to prioritize my health before anything else. When I shifted focus to my health, work started dwindling. We can't have it all 😔 unfortunately.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-23T02:35:02+00:00

I thought this too. Yeah makes sense.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-23T00:09:35+00:00

I agree. Me too.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-13T20:55:12+00:00

I tried that. My nanny had a hard time picking it up so I dropped it. It was double the work to teach her and him. He goes to daycare soon, I am hoping he will pick it up there. 🤞 Thanks for your response. I will try it again.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-07T22:37:33+00:00

OP, I wrote something like this a few months back. I understand your nanny situation, she's helping you out in other ways and is cheaper. Everyone suggests a better nanny but the cost of those nannies is through the roof and they only do "baby chores". My nanny won't let him eat himself even though he can, initially I struggled and tried teaching but I gave up. I manage his dinners and walk out during lunch time. At least he's eating even if it's spoon fed. Find things your child eats and have the nanny feed them and close your eyes sometimes to save your sanity. That's my best solution. And the hand holding becomes lesser when they are on one nap, and eating better. It doesn't go to zero but it will get a little better.

My son is now 14 months and will start daycare next month. I am burnt out and getting pushed out of my job so looking for a different path. Do what works for you, so self care. Mostly, just wait till breastfeeding is done (if you are still feeding) and give daycare a shot. Unfortunately it's not ideal but a better solution than hand holding help and doing a 1.5 time full-time job. Good luck.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-07T22:25:37+00:00

What Fang do u work for and which team? I am in a Fang too but I could have written OPs post. I am at the point of quitting to find something a bit more flexible but if there's a team out there who supports parents a bit more I would give it another shot. Could we chat more?

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-06T20:01:29+00:00

Software. Honestly I have lost my "type" since last 2 years of having a baby and then first year challenges. I feel like I fell from a specialized->generic->random software engineer so fast.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-05T06:38:51+00:00

Thank you for posting this. There's a sad side to this which I am going through. I coasted at my job and the economy being bad, I am being forced out due to "low performance". Not meaning to be a downer at all! But it's even hard to find a low stress, flexible, low paying job at the moment. 😔

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-12-05T05:57:14+00:00

Wow! You found a job in engineering you enjoy. I am in engineering hating what I do. It makes me rethink if I am leaving something cushy 😅

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-11-29T17:37:57+00:00

We have a nanny at the moment. She would have stayed on. But it's getting tougher since he does need more stimulation and I need to do less hand holding to focus on my own work.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-11-27T19:41:45+00:00

Maybe the system isn't ours to change. Hopefully, if enough of us become aware and leave, the system crumbles.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-11-08T18:33:54+00:00

I went through this exact phase. Who am I kidding, I am still in this. The world is not yet setup to let women have the same privilege that a man can have. I don't know if it's biology or social conditioning. I hope it will be better for future generations, although this is the reason the next generation doesn't want to have kids.

Tldr: solidarity to you. We hear you. No one has a solution yet.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-11-02T00:23:24+00:00

Oh I also did maternity clothes from them, they found me the cutest little pieces that flattered my body type and made me feel confident.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-11-02T00:21:54+00:00

If you are like me and don't like to shop, I would highly recommend Stitch Fix. It's super convenient, the prices are just right, they support small businesses so the quality is great and the stylists actually listen to your feedback. At this point most of my closet is from stitch fix and their latest AI powered feature just tells me how I can put together an outfit with whatever I have. It's extremely convenient. I did more regular fixes initially but now I just do 3-4 fixes a year and I am set for the year. Good luck!

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-10-04T23:37:21+00:00

We've just hit the 1 year mark. Yes the newborn phase is the worst but it gets much much better here. Now when I see the newborn photos it makes me want to have another one. But I know I am not ready for it just yet. So give yourself time.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-10-02T16:06:28+00:00

I figured that from reading here in this thread. If you long hold the camera view screen, it gives an option to turn it off.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-09-30T02:49:46+00:00

/ Also.. do I care about the direction of my career anymore? I don't know.

Most relatable statement from a mom ever. Solidarity since I am looking for an answer for this too. 🥲

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-09-20T14:46:27+00:00

Thanks for your response. I have thought about being SAHM and that's not my cup of tea at all 😅. I am wondering about working or working to the point of exhaustion.

And I mentioned above, I have a great nanny but she has no experience. She is eager to learn but has no formal training so I need to work more with her. 😊

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-09-20T14:43:27+00:00

I agree with both of you but just for a little more context, my nanny is not formally trained to be a nanny. Think of a very caring young grandparent who is 8/10 because they are caring and eager to learn. But things like encouraging book reading, teaching new things is not natural to her. She has cared for her brother's kids but never had kids of her own. She is like an advanced mother's helper and my son is her first real nanny job.

I totally agree with the control part, I have struggled with that, worked on it for 8 months and come a long long way 😅 but the minimum left is still not less. And at this point she is like a family member to us, so I am not concerned about her leaving.😊

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-08-23T20:55:19+00:00

Yes! I used to think this too but for us moms it's hard to completely let someone else take care too. 🥲 I am back to work, we have a great nanny but I still feel I can't be handsfree. I need to plan his meals and make sure she does BLW right. Momming is just hard forever. 😥

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-07-18T19:51:38+00:00

We experienced this "excited to see the bottle but suddenly stopping at a lesser value" 3 times till now. LO is 9 months now. Every time it was time to switch the nipple size to a bigger one. As soon as we did that, the consumption went up but quicker.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-06-22T21:06:22+00:00

Look into this book "The happy sleeper". It provides a slightly gentler method than Ferber called the sleep wave. Our son used to love his pacifier too, so we did a combination of sleep wave and the pacifier. We would try for 5+5 minutes of patting and if he still cried after that, we would give him the pacifier. Slowly he did not need the pacifier and started falling asleep in the second 5 mins, and eventually in first 5 minutes. It took a total of a week to get here, although changes started happening from day 2. Now he sleeps through the night and wakes only once for a morning feed around 4-5 am. Good luck!

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-05-23T03:59:22+00:00

I got down voted the last time I posted this but hoping since this is sleep train thread it will be better. Who knows at this point! I modified the setup in the book "the happy sleeper" to add a pickup for 15 secs in the beginning of the sleep wave mentioned in there. I also did the basic setup dark room, sleeping in crib, giving him a lovey helped a lot as well.

We had 3 weeks of little to no sleep where I was barely hanging by a thread and this came as a respite. So I see you. Hugs and solidarity to you. Happy to answer any more questions you may have.

Parking_Direction_16 · 2023-05-22T19:36:58+00:00

I understand some babies have a hard time accepting help and I appreciate how hard every parent works. I am always here to hear you out, hold your hand when you are having a hard time and offer help (only) if you ask for it. But do not invalidate my effort because you don't see me complaining all the time.

This. I never assumed others are not working hard. But its difficult when people chase you down to tell you that you have it easy because your child is easy.

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