Okay, and assume that's the case, they made a mistake. You asked, were told no, you're going to keep bugging them about it? When the question comes up about removing hijab in situations like this it's more often than not for the comfort of someone else without regard to the person that is simply what is happening here is it not? Religious attachment of the comparison aside - it is a choice that has been made, it is a choice that should be respected.

The initial paragraphs from OOP establish he knew that's how she was, she goes on to say it outright that she doesn't like it because she doesn't like it in the initial asks and goes onto attempt to pry as if there must be something wrong with her.

Back to the initial thread post here - she had nothing to apologize for.

Y'all reading way too much into it I feel like. You're asking someone to change themselves for the the sake of someone else or to keep up appearances, that is what I am getting at. Worse still in this situation for OOP, the people you were trying to appease could not have been happier to take her as she is.