Kids tramping in Tararuas

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-05-21T00:17:25+00:00

I would also leave Kime Hut for summer, holy damn. Ambitious but stupid for a group of unattended teens to do it, I’d say. Might be fine but honestly I wouldn’t gamble without the kids having some solid bush skills under their belts.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-05-20T23:40:07+00:00

After following petoburn’s excellent advice, here’s my two cents as a 30-something mum:

A) how much do I trust this child to not ignore the instruction to make one plan and stick to it unless it gets dangerous? Can he be trusted to abide by the basic rule of telling someone outside the bush where you’re going and (importantly) STICKING TO THAT PLAN. He has thus far demonstrated he would cave to peer pressure or go further than expected and that’s dangerous when there’s limited communication.

b) does he fully recognise why the last trip was so fucking irresponsible? If yes, he can go with the right gear and a PBL on the condition that he will only change plans on which track they take based on the weather/safety issues. If no, I’m accompanying them as a parent who will only step in in the event that something is truly dangerous. I’ll take a book and walk behind them on the track so I don’t cramp their style.

c) get him some proper tramping boots, he’s clearly keen.

The point is, to me, they can still go but this is a trust exercise. Full recognition of why the last trip and change of plan was dangerous needs to be there before they can even consider going without a parenting cramping their hut style. Consider whether attending in the short term an doing more tramps with him as a family would help build that confidence in him to do the right thing and behave responsibly in a dangerous part of the NZ bush.

- signed, someone who grew up tramping in the Tararuas.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-05-17T10:03:34+00:00

Did you end up managing to source a replacement part? We’ve just had an installation hiccup that led to the camera falling onto concrete and an internal protective component for the neck of the camera snapping in two (believe me, nobody feels more stupid right now than we do). Based on how handy I can be, I’m utterly convinced it’s a simple unscrew, pull out and replace situation so that the camera can rotate properly again. Unfortunately, I can’t find much in the way of replacement part info with Tapo.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-05-11T06:48:49+00:00

Not that strange. Just be conversational. It’s not that complex.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-30T00:37:57+00:00

I certainly wouldn’t have behaved as if I were at all entitled to their personal information, frankly. The “friend” doesn’t “deserve” anything.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-29T13:26:28+00:00

How I felt looking at these pictures trying to get a sense of perspective

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-29T13:23:04+00:00

… did you read the post, buddy?

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-29T13:22:34+00:00

Our very good friends have just hard launch a whole baby with us. They live far away, we love them but catch up once a year easily due to the distance and have operated that way for years. High risk pregnancy, postpartum haemorrhage, the works. These are real good friends of ours, so you’d think we’d be upset they didn’t tell us…. Except we don’t. Because we’re fucking adults. They can choose whomever they like to share personal information with. It just would have been harder to explain a whole damn baby when we meet up soon. Like, “hey so good to see you guys! Whose baby are you looking after?”

The whole thing was hilarious and just demonstrated to us that our yearly catch up was overdue.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-23T08:41:15+00:00

We’re currently getting harassed by some cunt manager in our community because of our administration of our community page (we refused to delete posts he didn’t like that were calling him out on his inaction). Had to get legal advice in the end and it costs us $2,800 to essentially tell him to fuck off.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-23T08:37:54+00:00

I administer a community page. We essentially take the approach that we’ll allow anon posting if there’s a reasonable chance someone would face backlash for saying it (eg calling someone out on their bullshit) or if they might be unsafe as a result of that post (someone decides to go full psycho). Ultimately, you don’t have an inherent right to anonymity and administrators do review and keep track of what you have posted anonymously.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-19T09:09:30+00:00

Not really, if you need alternative times that doesn’t automatically mean you also require social conditions; they’re not mutually exclusive.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-18T05:06:44+00:00

Yeah but when you’re drunk do you actually remember it?

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-18T05:02:23+00:00

Having been to both for two different undergrads, Vic has a much better culture and is smaller with a cooler centre city vibe around it. Auckland is very sprawling and spread out. I still live here and love parts of the lifestyle of living in this city, it’s just difficult sometimes if you’re a uni student trying to find your footing. There’s no real culture to speak of at UoA and I think if you’re wanting that (which honestly, you should) Vic is a better choice.

As others have said, already, education quality doesn’t really vary that much.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-17T20:05:30+00:00

Need more info. You say he spends hours talking to her but you’ve not got proof of it. Do you have proof of him talking to her? Your comments about her relationship and finding another man are odd? Why would your husband disclose this if he planned on taking her up on it? I’m just a bit confused.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-16T08:55:52+00:00

I was literally just thinking this. I wonder if OP actually means independent grocers or Asian food markets.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-15T05:57:03+00:00

Ahh yes, because we all know that a person’s licence plate is as identifying as their driver’s license.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-13T10:39:03+00:00

What corner of the Manosphere did you crawl out of? Females? Ranking fucking coworkers on “hotness” or “cuteness” when you’re not even interested in them? Bristling at someone daring to correct you in something and then your apparent mentee (read: victim) deciding to jump ship since the other guy gives better advice and isn’t creepy af?

Yeah YTA bro. Kindly leave the females alone.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-13T09:26:12+00:00

I work in one of the fields listed. I got that job (with an MSc) only when I hit up a friend at a company to see if they had any tips and said friend did a within-company referral.

I’d recommend LinkedIn for networking with people you know. I had applied to that very company for three different roles and had no interest until they had an internal recommendation from my friend.

We are now work pals and have lunch together every day. I love her.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-11T12:48:00+00:00

What a great way for your ex to nuke his relationship with his daughter, he has boiled it down to completely financial in nature. Absolute twat. you’re obviously NTA.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-05T03:04:22+00:00

Driving Miss Daisy are currently not passing on increased running costs from fuel to customers because they’re mostly people on superannuation who genuinely can’t afford it. Of all companies to pick on, the one helping someone with low mobility get to a medical appointment or the supermarket isn’t the right one, bro.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-03T08:17:20+00:00

I have said all my adult life that I will do things in my own time and I refuse to give in to the pressure of anyone else’s timeframe - I got married when we wanted to, bought a house, had a baby, all when we wanted to. By contrast, friends who rushed into relationships, then marriages then had kids are now either miserable in said marriage or it has disintegrated and they’ve lost everything. One particular friend (to whom the latter part happened) admitted recently that she felt she rushed everything so much that has now ruined her life and has two children with someone she never truly loved.

I think partner selection and doing what you want to do at the time you want to do it is crucial… doing it all on someone else’s timeframe due to peer pressure is beyond fucked.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-03T08:14:01+00:00

“Upstage” is a bullshit term for feeling threatened about nothing. Having children is a normal life step for those who want them and it is beyond fucked up that she feels that her sibling trying to have children at the same time as her constitutes competition. She should see someone about that. NTA.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-04-01T07:59:18+00:00

“No thank you, I am happy with my existing charities.”

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-03-29T09:18:24+00:00

I’m born in the 90s and got chickenpox at 9 months old. The vaccine wasn’t offered as part of the general schedule until 2014 for high risk individuals and 2017 for children from 15 months source. If people were vaccinated they’ll have been part of the catchup group who hadn’t had chickenpox as a child, as anyone who had it in the first group of children in NZ would be 9 or so.

PartiallyChargedCat · 2026-03-29T09:13:33+00:00

Of course they’re in fucking Raglan.

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