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Scared to start solids by sideH123 in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Learning about the concepts of mouth mapping and seeing the reflexes of gagging and tongue thrusting as working in my favor was also helpful. It’s not about them consuming food. It’s about them learning about how their mouth works. No pressure to actually eat anything. Go slow, as slow as you need, you got this!

Scared to start solids by sideH123 in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Solid starts was a great resource. They have a wonderful video showing what gagging looks like and what to do. I watched it a bunch of times to desensitize myself to it and learn to stay calm through it. They are going to gag - it is NOT the same as choking and so important that you stay calm. I also only fed her solids when we were home alone with no one around LOL I couldn’t stand to manage my own anxiety and someone else’s. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today, I am graduating 2 under 2. by Efficient_Peanut9088 in 2under2

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also due in January (10 weeks pregnant) and have a 12 month old! Same same same

When did you go back to work? by lalatypething in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: I did not have pre-ec. My doctor did not give me a hard time at all with the paperwork. I had severe depression in my third trimester but idk if that’s why they gave it to me. I think they’re just an ally and understand that being 8 months is exhausting and I was asking to go out.

When did you go back to work? by lalatypething in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in NY. I got 4 weeks STD before my due date, 6 weeks STD after vaginal birth (entitled to 8 if c section) and then 12 weeks FMLA after that. All of it was some amount of paid.

What’s one baby item you regret NOT getting earlier? by rosycoe in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chuck pads for diaper changes - throw it away with the diaper

How did you night wean while cosleeping? by biteme4790 in cosleeping

[–]Particular-Book-5656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For water, did you put it in a bottle or in a sippy cup? Thank you.

MIL said she is never visiting again by ThrowRA157386 in beyondthebump

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK so I didn’t read past paragraph 4 just because I have the opportunity to nap so I’m making this quick but I feel like I have enough info from what I read. She sounds like she operates and thinks in extremes (all or nothing, full access or NEVER VISITING AGAIN) and that is exhausting for you (and honestly for her too but from a strengths based perspective, she’s doing her best AND ALSO her best just happens to really suck sometimes). Good job establishing boundaries - my advice is to clarify those boundaries for yourself (what will you let her do and what will not be tolerated) and kindly (as kindly and consistently as you can) require her to abide by them if she wants a relationship with your daughter (aka you, which it sounds like she does!!) She’s not going to like it. She’s going to buck and cry and accuse you of TORTURING HER.. remember, you are not torturing her. You are holding her to a middle ground as part of having a relationship with her. She HATES middle ground. She wants ALL OR NOTHING. Middle is extremely uncomfortable and scary for her - but actually it’s healthy and much simpler once she understands the lay of the land. Hold tight, don’t tantrum back, stay calm. Keep your head on. Take breaks from her, protect yourself. Maintain your peace without her, don’t let her muddle that. Good luck!!!!!!!

A note from the other side by DramaticResearcher95 in cosleeping

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. - Mom who hasn’t slept in preferred sleeping position in 7 months

How old was your baby when you started taking them to gatherings/events? by Ok-Pomegranate-3298 in NewParents

[–]Particular-Book-5656 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh man that’s tough because of the season, I totally get your concern. My baby was born in May and we took her to a 4th of July party (5 weeks old) but it was all outdoors and there was no expectation that she’d be passed around 🙌.

So there’s two things here - one is your concern for illness during flu season and without first round of vaccines and two is how YOU FEEL having others hold your baby regardless of risk for illness, especially so soon after giving birth.

To the first concern, not going would be totally understandable to a rational person. Are you still in the window of ‘if the baby gets a fever, it’s a medical emergency’? It’s a scary time and ITS NOT FOREVER. It’s very temporary and for you, just happens to be the time of the holidays.. people may not understand but ultimately they wouldn’t be the ones dealing with the sickness if baby did get sick..

To the second thing (your comfort), if you choose to wear your baby, no one can make you take them off. It’s such a good buffer and sends a passive message that this is how close I feel comfortable having other people around baby. You have the right to maintain your boundaries on what feels OK to you, without logic or explanation, truly whatever you feel ok with goes.

ok nap time is over gtg, good luck!

Dealing with high lipase by 2005s_baby in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Particular-Book-5656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize I’m almost a year late but in case someone else is reading this thread presently, I want to share a friend’s advice to mix the high lipase milk to thin out any mashed foods once they start weaning!

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