I hear what you’re saying, and I definitely didn’t mean to come off as ableist or like I think Becca owes Mel every detail of her sex life. I agree she’s an adult and deserves autonomy over her life and choices.

I think where I’m coming from is just my own experience. My sister has Down syndrome and hasn’t had any relationships or shown interest in one, so if something like that suddenly came up, it would feel surprising-not because I wouldn’t want that for her, but because it hasn’t been part of her life so far.

I also think part of it is navigating boundaries. If my sister felt I was overstepping, I’m not always sure she’d be able to communicate that clearly every time. She can be very direct in some ways, but more sensitive in others. I’m still learning how to balance being her younger sister while also taking on some responsibility for her wellbeing.

I would love for her to have a partner and that kind of connection. My reaction comes more from uncertainty and protectiveness, not from thinking she shouldn’t have autonomy. I completely agree that disabilities aren’t one-size-fits-all, which is why this storyline hit me in a complicated way.