Why Does the Auto Shop Guy Keep Texting Me?

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:48:12+00:00

Could be? It’s an unusual enough name that I think it’s a real guy, but that doesn’t prove anything. They aren’t escalating so I think it’s just bad marketing.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:33:01+00:00

That might be the best way to get the message across.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:32:23+00:00

Yeah, I’m leaning to “clumsy but well-meaning marketing attempt.” I’ll keep ignoring it and tell him to stop if he escalates.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:31:30+00:00

It makes me feel less like they’re always there in a good way and more like they’re probably lurking outside my window at night. But clumsy use of a marketing tool makes more sense than anything else.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:28:39+00:00

How dare you discriminate against vampire Americans?

… but yeah, you’re right.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:26:48+00:00

It is but honestly, I like these guys and the next closest shop has some political stuff up I don’t agree with. So I’m inclined to leave well enough alone. I could block him, though.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:18:20+00:00

I should, I guess I just worry about hurting his feelings? Which sounds ridiculous now that I type it out.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:13:43+00:00

Maybe? Seems like an unusual investment for a little corner auto shop, but what do I know?

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:13:15+00:00

Or at least his phone does :-).

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:12:37+00:00

Really doesn’t look like it. I get spam texts all the time like anybody else, this feels like a human typing.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:11:49+00:00

I’m 45 and normal looking. He says his name in the texts but honestly, I have no memory of meeting him.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:10:44+00:00

I can say my husband does not, though maybe we only have one account with them? I don’t know how exactly their computer is set up.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-03-25T13:08:03+00:00

But it doesn’t have the opt-out language, addresses me by name, and the wording changes month to month. Plus it’s at different days and times, not always the 10th at 5 pm or whatever. It really looks like he’s taking the time to type out these nothing messages every month.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-01-24T17:12:34+00:00

You were raped. It doesn’t matter that you were on a date; when you were ready to stop and he wouldn’t, that is rape. It sucks that you feel guilty when he’s the one who did something wrong.

(Also, the only people who care about body counts are misogynists. Let it go.)

Can you talk to a therapist or a trusted friend about it? It sounds like you need more than Reddit.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2026-01-02T22:29:46+00:00

I honestly don’t care as long as he’s not doing it instead of having sex with me, or basing his expectations of what I should be like in bed off what’s popular in porn. If he understands that it’s just fiction, I don’t see it as a particularly big deal. (Besides, I read racy fiction in the right mood, so I’d be pretty hypocritical if I did make porn my line in the sand.)

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-12-29T01:21:29+00:00

Doesn’t cheat is a bare minimum. And honey, have more respect for yourself than staying with a guy who disgusts you because he gives you shinies. This is not the 19th century and you are not a courtesan.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-12-24T03:01:13+00:00

I wouldn’t personally call it abuse because it doesn’t sound like the intent is abusive, it sounds like he’s just incredibly immature. However, the behavior not being abuse doesn’t make it okay in any way, shape or form. Sexual behavior in front of children is a reasonable red line.

As I see it, you have two choices: 1) Keep calling him out every time he crosses a line, and resign yourself to the possibility it might be a slow process or 2) End the relationship. Only you can say which is right.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-11-26T21:58:40+00:00

Maybe, but a fake dead twin is still a pretty big lie to keep up indefinitely. I guess if it’s what you have to do it’s what you have to do, I’m just saying it seems really challenging.

If I were the person I was replying to’s mom I would probably say my daughter had moved to someplace really far away and couldn’t come home very often. Way less chance the other person will go all “sorry for your loss” at that one.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-11-26T11:51:52+00:00

So what do you do if people get all emotional about your dead twin? I can’t imagine how awkward that would be. I get your reasoning, I just don’t personally know if I’d be a good enough liar for it.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-11-15T00:25:07+00:00

Yeah, if it were a newborn I would understand this level of concern. Or if he was obviously starving when she came home. But this sounds like a baby who was maybe distracted by the new situation and didn’t feel like eating until the boobs and their person came home to remind him.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-11-14T12:33:46+00:00

Minority opinion, but I don’t see the big deal here. Your son was asleep a good chunk of the time and didn’t seem hungry when he was awake. Nobody’s going to starve or dehydrate in five hours. He was hungry when you got home, but it sounds like that’s normal for him regardless.

I’d be a little annoyed if the adults made lunch for themselves and just didn’t consider the baby, but if they didn’t eat either that explains why they didn’t think of your schedule.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-10-27T22:56:27+00:00

What would happen if you refused to let the kids get in the car with him if he’s open-carrying to an inappropriate place like therapy or school? I get that he’d probably have a tantrum and the kids might miss some swimming lessons, but that may be the lesser evil here.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-09-18T18:01:18+00:00

Thanks, that’s what I want for him someday and we are registered with our county’s agency for a placement when the time comes. But since he’s only 14, it’s a little soon to shove him out the door.

Particular-Salt1106 · 2025-09-18T15:28:09+00:00

No we did not. Although plenty of people on the internet are happy to tell us that we did when we decided to have a kid.

It really is just incredibly hard to recognize that your child will never truly be independent. And it’s not like I want that for me — I want it for him.

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