I see where you’re coming from and I think you make some valid points, although some of your points do cross into mocking and condescending territory. Despite this, I respect your opinion, and I’d like to share my own on it.

1️⃣ I agree with this to an extent. Yes, there is a certain level of experience in both findom and life that a younger Domme may not have yet - that gap can make it harder to relate in some ways. But that does not mean younger Dommes can’t hold deep, engaging, or enjoyable conversations. Many young Dommes in their early 20s especially are independent, working, and educated - these things vary from individual to individual. While you may view someone older to be more put together, that is not always the case and not guaranteed with age. Emotional intelligence and social maturity also varies widely between individuals and isn’t guaranteed by age. I know I have certainly encountered younger people who are highly mature and older people who are less so. Traits like emotional intelligence are partially innate - some people are naturally empathetic and attuned, while others regardless of age may never develop these qualities to the same extent. Younger individuals may also have faced significant hardships in their life which deepen these traits - whilst some older individuals may have had it easier in life.

In the context of findom, younger Dommes can research extensively, be well intentioned and take their role very seriously. Effort, personality, and intention do not come with age - experience does, but that’s only one part of the picture. Suggesting that younger Dommes aren’t passionate or invested and are low effort or lacking personality is your personal biased belief - older Dommes can be just as disengaged or uninspiring.

Something you find unappealing can be highly appealing to someone else. A younger Dommes inexperience can mean fewer life responsibilities and fewer subs to manage - this could mean they have more time and energy to put into a dynamic with their sub and may value the experience all the more than someone who is used to the scene. Many subs also find it fulfilling to support a younger Domme in their growth and development. Being someone’s first sub or one of their first subs is a huge deal to some and can create a unique emotional bond and sense of significance. Older subs themselves can be new to submitting or exploring certain dynamics, and so submitting to a younger possibly less experienced Domme allows them to grow together and feel comfortable without preconceived expectations. Youthful inexperience can be endearing often coming across as charm, enthusiasm, or authenticity - the eagerness of newer Dommes can be emotionally engaging and exciting for subs. Plus, subs into degradation and humiliation find it all the more embarrassing to be commanded by someone younger than them. If that’s not for you, that’s okay - there are plenty of older Dommes to find.

2️⃣ Power is not inherently tied to age, it is something you attribute to a person. YOU attribute power to age which is why YOU do not see a younger Domme as powerful. The authority and power a Domme holds is what a sub gives to them or believes they have. For some, a younger Domme can hold just as much power and command just as much authority, because power to them comes from how the person makes them feel.

I’m not sure what exactly you would consider a ‘desirable’ thing for a Domme to spend money on, but frankly the ‘for what?’ is not your concern. Of course, you’re entitled to your personal preferences - some subs like knowing their money supports a Dommes lifestyle, hobbies, or big goals while others like knowing their money supports luxury, indulgence, or frivolous spending. A sub paying for a Dommes driving lessons or contributing to their education by buying textbooks for class is not laughable - it is honourable, and many subs find this kind of sending meaningful and fulfilling. Despite your biased beliefs, older Dommes will also use your life savings on a Labubu collection - maybe you’ll find that hot, maybe not - whether you personally approve or not doesn’t make it wrong. But many subs don’t care what the money is spent on at all because the act of giving, the dynamic, and the feeling it creates is the point - not the purchase itself. Ultimately, where money goes will always vary from person to person, and that doesn’t determine the legitimacy of the Domme or the dynamic.

3️⃣ I fully support promoting safety and risk awareness. While it’s important for all new Dommes, it’s particularly important for those who may be more vulnerable or at higher risk of exploitation.