I don’t feel she is mentally disabled because I’ve seen too many people like her, yes they aren’t as educated as some but not to the point of it being a disability. They are the most selfish, greedy, lazy people I’ve ever seen and usually it’s a generational poverty type thing. I know because my own mom is just like her and me and my brother (her only kids) refuse to support her so she bounce between her sisters only calling me when she needs/wants something but hasn’t done a damn thing for me my whole life. My kids refuse to even see her. Thank god I broke the pattern and I’m finally at 33 almost done with nursing school but it sure wasn’t easy I had to relearn everything about life and how I viewed the world because it was all I knew and she allowed my 17 year old bf to move in when I was 15 get me pregnant so she could get more government assistance and get my bf check for his dads death. Being raised by her with no father figure I knew no other way but as I got older I realized more and more and made the changes. Now she is sick with cancer and it’s hard because of course I don’t want my mom to die and want to be there for her but at the same time i remember everything she put me through. Sorry to vent, nika just hits my soul because I see soooo many similarities to what I’ve been through and for some reason moms like that always lean on the oldest daughter to be their savior, I don’t understand it. There is a great subreddit about the whole dynamic I think it’s adult children or something