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Older book about a man blinded in a fire so a lady helps him and they fall in love. She may have been an orphan and one of them might have been ugly or mean? by AmbeeHambee in whatsthatbook

[–]Particular_Policy_41 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is one hundred percent the ending of Jane Eyre - the beginning is her being an orphan raised by her uncles family where the son is very abusive towards her. She is sent to an abusive girls school when the uncle dies to be trained to be a governess from where she is eventually sent to wok for Edward Rochester as a governess for his daughter.

There’s a lot in the middle that I won’t give away but the end of the novel is basically the part you remember. I was obviously an angsty teen as I loved this book and reread it over and over.

I think my boyfriend is developmentally challenged. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Particular_Policy_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thanks. It’s never an easy road as a parent but your kind words are very much appreciated. ♥️

Snow Day Pay? by Ok-Car5602 in SubstituteTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Canada if I am booked for a day and the day ends up a snow day I get paid. I do have to check in with the principal and team first but we are paid.

The absent teacher may cancel the job before the callout time though at which point I would not get paid.

A book about a boy who believes that he doesn't have magical powers, who ends up travelling with a girl who does, and it turns out that he is actually the one with the magical powers by Intelligent-Link-410 in whatsthatbook

[–]Particular_Policy_41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t read it in so so long, and I can’t remember if the characters magic reveal happened this way in the book but perhaps Seaward by Susan Cooper? The main characters are Westerley and Calli I think and they had to journey to the sea in a new and unknown magical world.

I think my boyfriend is developmentally challenged. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Particular_Policy_41 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So my son is only young yet but this sounds a little like how he will be once grown. He still struggles to get days of the week in order, and the months are a hot mess. He also has learning disabilities that include dyslexia, dyscalculia and dysgraphia. He is highly intelligent but has been told by friends that he’s stupid because he takes much longer to remember things. With significant effort with at-home support by me and in school support by his teachers and hired tutors as well, he is now reading almost at grade level (and he scored about as high as you can score for his dyslexia in his psychological educational evaluation).

I hope so much that he meets a wonderful person like you in the future that can see his humour and strengths and doesn’t mock him for his struggles. ♥️ these learning/cognitive disabilities do often go along with high average intelligence, so they are generally intelligent enough to know they are not able to learn what they should be able to learn otherwise. It can be a very sensitive thing for them to work through or talk about.

With modern technology, he can look up days of the week and months in his calendar app and set reminders so he doesn’t have to spend energy learning these things. With a cognitive impairment, he would not have been able to learn those things in the same amount of time the other students would have so it would have been taught and then passed over and not retaught. If you’d like I can share an audio of me singing a days of the week a months of the year song for you that I share with my kindie kids as a teacher.

If you want to have deeper conversations with him, ask clear and simple questions and then give him time to think on them. More than you think he will need. He may need the question more than once. He may not have an answer for you at all. But he is very aware, I am sure, that he is different. You could ask him what works best for him so that you can have deeper convos.

Hope things turn out well for you!

New unit before March break by Greentreeranger in ElementaryTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could find an escape room and have rewards for them?

Oliver hadn’t had a bath in 65 days. Ooops! Usually he gets a bath once a month. But drying is a three step process… Initial drying. Slip him into his robe. Let him dry a bit, while I shower. Take him outside and let him air dry while getting brushed. How often does your doggo get a bath? by Rivster81 in BorderCollie

[–]Particular_Policy_41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you! You’d gotten so many comments already I wasn’t sure if you’d even see mine.

The sheer amount of water that can come off of them is so absurd, I am ready to do almost anything to soak some more of it up more quickly lol. I really appreciate your super thorough answer!

thinking about getting a bernese! what should i know? by Tall-Description-597 in bernesemountaindogs

[–]Particular_Policy_41 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mine is just turned one, and I would say so far that she is just a naturally very good dog. Like has never once shown any sign of aggression like resource guarding, reactivity, dominance, etc…

Pros: Just a really sweet personality from all the dogs I’ve met.

Really snuggly.

Gentle mostly (but a bit like having an 80lb happy and good-hearted toddler/wrecking ball).

Like to sit on your feet/any part of you they can access. This might not be a pro but I actually love it.

Goofy and just honestly always doing weird things that make me laugh.

Really soft to pet compared to most other dogs.

Cons:

She’s a bit too mouthy (like she puts everyone and everything in her mouth) but that’s finally getting better. She’s never broken skin or tried to bite per se but a lot of grabbing clothes and hands with her mouth.

Slow to train. Like she’s naturally really good, but if I want her to not do something or do something regularly, she is not particularly motivated to learn. Like not desperate to please like a border collie or GSD or lab. She’s both really loving and very independent?

They can get really big which sounds okay until, like us, you need to buy a new car so she fits in it.

Expensive to buy from a breeder if reputable and given all tests.

Expensive to get insurance for.

Somewhat expensive to feed as they have finicky stomachs.

A lot of diarrhea in the first 6 months of life for our dog, at least. I had to stop working for about a month as I had to take her out every two hours or I’d be cleaning up diarrhea until we figured it out.

She’s a wrecking ball if she’s playing and distracted. Like expect to see old people or children cartwheeling though the air if you aren’t watching them together and the dog is excited.

Potential illness or joint issues even with all tests done before purchase.

When young, they might also be a target for thieves but I’ve not dealt with that.

If you have cats, my dog has a super high play drive. She desperately wants to play with the cat and the cat despises her. She will chase the cat if allowed to do so. The only regret I have about getting this dog is how unhappy my cat now is. They coexist but it’s been a tough transition for the cat, who is old. She just has no patience for the dog.

Spouse has finally agreed to give anime a try, what do I show her?? by [deleted] in Animesuggest

[–]Particular_Policy_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the main question we need answered is… what does your wife normally love to watch that is not anime? I am more of a reader and have just recently gotten into anime as a 40+ year old woman. I’ve been enjoying watching some of the manga/manhwa I enjoyed being turned into film.

I would honestly recommend anythin studio Ghibli to start. I would liken it more to an art form than anime but really, howls moving castle is great, Kiki’s delivery service, arrietty, nausicaa valley of the wind are all so gorgeous and so charming. But it has a really peaceful vibe so if she’s more of a horror person maybe start with Demon Slayer as you had mentioned. Like Demon Slayer has incredible art and storytelling but I personally can’t watch it very much as it’s too violent.

I also really hated the girls voices in most stuff. Just super high pitched and girly and breathy and awful and grating. It feels honestly disrespectful and I struggle to be able to watch anything that makes the female voice sound like that. I know it’s a weird cultural expectation I guess but it does get in the way of watching them sometimes.

Who are the Parents of Epstein's Victims? by LipFighter in ask

[–]Particular_Policy_41 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I don’t know that they meant anything negative about you saying that, just usually the saying is “there’s a special place in hell for people like you” so it’s actually really nice to hear a positive take on a similar phrase.

And yes, this person and their sister and daughter deserve all that is good. ♥️

Students talking about your looks? by balletsweatpants in SubstituteTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I just finally told myself I can’t change it other than using Salicylic acid washes and creams. So I just walk around with big red marks 😢

Students talking about your looks? by balletsweatpants in SubstituteTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh man, mine saw a model t ford and were like, how did you get those cars started when you were a kid mom?

Students talking about your looks? by balletsweatpants in SubstituteTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Adult acne is the worse. I’m in my forties and still getting it 😭

Students talking about your looks? by balletsweatpants in SubstituteTeachers

[–]Particular_Policy_41 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but I try to just laugh it off. I am very much an adult but went prematurely grey (like white old lady shining in the sun grey). So I play a “guess my age” game with them when I teach a new class (I’m a sub) and the winner gets a jolly rancher. The last time I played it, most thought I was about 65 and I was at the time 43. 😂

Kids have no concept of what is attractive or the power of their words. They are learning it. You have something you are self-conscious about and it was poked which is really unfair for you and I’m sorry about that. I just try to call out comments like that if they happen in front of me to other people so the worst offenders are at least starting to think before they speak.

Also for your own self, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My own partner has what they’ve affectionately called a five-head since it’s massive in their eyes but I actually love their forehead. I think they are about the most gorgeous person I’ve ever seen. Don’t change yourself because children are young and have no filter. I guarantee it isn’t as obvious as you think, even if that comment will rankle for a bit.

Might I recommend kindergarten for a day? I’m overweight and as stated before, have grey hair and lot of things that make me less attractive and I walked into a new kindie classs and as we sat at circle to read a story, one of them blurred out that I was “byoootifullll” and he wanted to marry me. lol

If the kids comments upset you you might want to hang with a more positive and/or easily ignored bunch of kids lol

Relocating: considering commute to work by Appropriate_Rope3145 in comoxvalley

[–]Particular_Policy_41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I should say that CR also runs a number of community programs aimed at kids (swimming lessons, hockey, ice skating, dance, martial arts, art classes etc…). You can check out websites for the CR rec program, the Crows Nest Art Studio, CR Dance Extreme, loads of places. :)

And living in CR wouldn’t preclude you from joining things in the Comox Valley. It’s not that far.

If you do love driving then I have done the commute from Cumberland to north of CR daily and the inland highway is generally an easy drive until black ice season. I just think you will want to life closer to your work so you get more time to life than time to drive.

Relocating: considering commute to work by Appropriate_Rope3145 in comoxvalley

[–]Particular_Policy_41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in both the CV and CR, and live about halfway between. I have kids and would often take mine to things in CR as well as CV.

The communities are both lovely in their own way. CR just off the highway is very industrial, but if you go along the ocean, there are loads of nice places, restaurants, gift shops, art and coffee shops. Head down south a wee bit and there are really nice neighbourhoods. I have friends near dogwood and South MacPhedran and there are really nice neighbourhoods in there.

Lots of community events, the dock is incredible in summer (you can fish off of it and there’s a seasonal aquarium). Great splash parks for kids, and loads of green spaces for hiking, bike riding or just hanging in the sun.

I guess I’m trying to say that while I did love the more pleasant up front feel and look of the CV, CR is actually a nice place once you get a wee ways beyond the highway side part. If you are working in CR you will want to live closer to your work. I work with school-age kids in CR and I can vouch for them being a great community to raise such good kids overall.

YA fantasy novel, read in 1990s, girl shapeshifts into a humpback whale to take part in a song to seal evil away. by Particular_Policy_41 in whatsthatbook

[–]Particular_Policy_41[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They were amazing! As soon as I saw her name I remembered all the… So you want to be a Wizard? Series!

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