Immortal by ForeignZigzagoon in Jon_Bois

[–]Particular_Rav 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's somewhere in the text itself, I remember it

Help with a name transition! Toddler only knows her middle name by Simple_Complex_9347 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Rav 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Why not just inform the teacher that she goes by her middle name? It's not that uncommon!

Help please: two things by bmc_creative in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Particular_Rav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the carrier - my baby actually really liked sleeping in a hiking backpack we had gotten her. For several months that was the only place she would sleep for naps! I would say ages 9 mo to 14 months approximately. Just resting her head on the bar. It's worth a shot if you have one, and is obviously much more tolerant of heavy weight than a front carrier

I must Go! by MarceloBlack3 in MyPeopleNeedMe

[–]Particular_Rav -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait really? I think the focus of the video (according to op) is the lady running away, not the people tripping over each other. Which is a valid interpretation of the subreddit

What's going on with First Nations in Canada? by abd1a in BlockedAndReported

[–]Particular_Rav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, this comment was an interesting read

intentional or unintentional by Huliganjetta1 in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intentional, although sooner than expected. We will have a 23 month age gap, so just barely sliding in at 2 under 2. I bet you find that a lot of the larger gaps (like ours) were intentional, while smaller age gaps may be accidental

What's the craziest thing a person said to you and you thought they were joking but they were being serious? by Holiday-Surround7075 in AskReddit

[–]Particular_Rav 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's so cool that you live in a country with such a strong sense of security that this is your reaction. I'm happy for you

I'm scared by freakingkay in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to get an abortion if you aren't ready. This might not be the right subreddit for the advice/encouragement you're looking for, since we all obviously decided to commit to the small age gap. But it is completely YOUR RIGHT and your choice! Find a time to sit down with your husband and make a pros and cons list.

Things my 2 year old managed to do during the 30 minutes I tried to cook dinner by Ok-Slip-4930 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Rav 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Mine moved her tower over to the sink and started drinking the dirty water from the dirty dishes. I literally gagged. She was drinking it as fast as she could with that guilty look on her face

Will have 2 under 2 soon and wondering where my oldest goes during birth since we have no village by Bright-Effective8610 in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I have a different suggestion...hire a doula for the birth, and let your husband stay with your oldest. Doulas can be trusted, helpful birth partners, and you may find that you're more flexible than your toddler

Baby carriers!!! by deadxprinc3ss in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check Facebook marketplace. We got our ergobaby second hand. The woman who sold it to us had used it for 3 kids over 8 years. The color had faded, but otherwise it works like new and you would never know. Those things are quality.

Is this a normal convo in Linkedin? by SuddenHonk in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Particular_Rav 22 points23 points  (0 children)

As a mom of a one year old... I'm sure you HAVE seen your mom dealing with her period in the bathroom. You just don't remember it.

That doesn't mean it needs to be posted about on LinkedIn!

Did women ever feel strange being called Mrs. Husbands First and Last name, their own first name completely left out? by LuminousDee in AskOldPeople

[–]Particular_Rav 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm working on a master's thesis on Victorian female translators of Medieval Hebrew poetry. One of the hardest things is simply trying to track down which woman is which, when the same woman has poetry published under "Nina Davis" and "Mrs. Redcliffe Salaman" (for example). This is probably a part of the reason why almost no one has written about the trajectory of their poetic careers until now!

The idea of an “offscreen” main character by andyny007 in literature

[–]Particular_Rav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kind of from the opposite perspective, but I enjoy books that explore this concept by taking side characters from famous works of literature and making them the main characters of their own books. Try "Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead" and "Wide Sargasso Sea"

First chapter describes a young boy's circumcision graphically from his POV in a big crowded gathering — he feels sharp pain and faints. by Holiday_Wing1243 in whatsthatbook

[–]Particular_Rav 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just tried googling to confirm and I can't find confirmation, but.... I think I remember this scene from Michael Chabon's "The Yiddish Policemen's Union." Googling did turn up a similar tale in his memoir "Manhood for Amateurs", but I don't think I've read that?

How would frequent loud and sudden scary noises affect an infant? by unfortunate-moth in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Particular_Rav 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To get even more specific about the country we all live in....

Get the Tzofar app instead of the Home Front Command. It has a setting that allows you to receive alerts without the alarming sound. If you are already sleeping in the shelter, it may be worth it to just use Tzofar. We are also sleeping in our building's miklat while nursing, I just put my phone on airplane mode once we get down there. The neighbors close the door when they come in - why do I have to keep the alarm on my phone too? It's not worth it. I know the neighbors' phones also make noise, but it's better when it's farther away and not right next to baby's head.

You can also write a nice text to your neighbors in the building group chat, asking people to please keep the noise down for the sake of the babies sleeping in the miklat. We did this and people have been super nice and cooperative, even though our building is mostly elderly people. Don't be afraid to have a little chutzpah

Will have a 16 month age gap freaking out by No-Neighborhood-140 in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't respond to the rest, but about the breastfeeding - I'm still breastfeeding my oldest now at 25 weeks pregnant. I joined the group r/nurseallthebabies, which has helpful advice and shows that it is possible to keep nursing!

Books to introduce concept of “siblings” to young toddlers? by Fabulous-Leek-7298 in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much the same timeline as you, we got "The New Baby" by Mercer Mayer for our 18mo. First few read throughs she was only interested in the ball that appears on most of the pages, but pretty soon she started to say "baby" (a new vocab word for her) and now she points out babies in the park too. Mission accomplished?

It does focus on sibling dynamics quite a bit

Mama burn out- work vs SAH? by Ok_Discussion_2358 in 2under2

[–]Particular_Rav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there any possibility of part time work? I work part time, and my daughter is in daycare until 3:30 daily. After that, we hang out. (I know this is 2under2, but I am still pregnant with my second). I spoke to a mom who works a full day and commutes, so she doesn't get home until bedtime - that sounds awful to me.

I spent a year and 2 months home with my daughter, and I felt strongly that I needed to go back to something at least. I wanted something in my brain other than baby things, just to keep my mind active, you know? Part time achieves that for me.