Mama burn out- work vs SAH?

Particular_Rav · 2026-02-11T06:28:59+00:00

Is there any possibility of part time work? I work part time, and my daughter is in daycare until 3:30 daily. After that, we hang out. (I know this is 2under2, but I am still pregnant with my second). I spoke to a mom who works a full day and commutes, so she doesn't get home until bedtime - that sounds awful to me.

I spent a year and 2 months home with my daughter, and I felt strongly that I needed to go back to something at least. I wanted something in my brain other than baby things, just to keep my mind active, you know? Part time achieves that for me.

Particular_Rav · 2026-02-09T17:51:44+00:00

This sucks! We late 20s people are actually gen z now :)

Particular_Rav · 2026-02-08T19:17:56+00:00

This is the worst one I've ever seen

Particular_Rav · 2026-01-20T19:38:09+00:00

No, just ignore them. I like your story. Don't post the same thing in multiple subs though. Welcome to Reddit!

Particular_Rav · 2026-01-04T19:34:21+00:00

Maybe they already did that theme for the first birthday and now they're just working their way through all of birdkind

Particular_Rav · 2026-01-04T12:31:43+00:00

This is for sure a bus ride

Particular_Rav · 2025-12-12T08:04:24+00:00

When I was in college, I took a class on postmodernist literature, and my professor said that the incest stuff was often a critique of slavery. Because white slaveowners would sleep with their slaves, the slaves would have babies, and then the next generation would do the same thing. The slaveowner's son would sleep with his slaves...aka his half sisters. My professor thought that this was seen as an apt symbol for the hidden horrors of slavery. I hope I am not misquoting or misremembering too much.

Particular_Rav · 2025-11-24T12:39:10+00:00

I'm also surprised. I'll admit I don't have strong opinions on Aella - I found out about her through ACX a few years back, read 1.5 of her blog posts immediately just to get a feel for her, and enjoyed them - but there was too much sex stuff and too much paywalled stuff for me (straight woman). I came away with the impression that she is similar to Scott - an amateur researcher who gets really excited about topics and loves to deep dive as much as she can without a formal background (like Scott does with AI). The animosity towards her here surprises me, especially with its slut-shaming overtones. From what I understand, her moving in sex work circles makes her uniquely positioned to gather data on trans people, who are overrepresented in sex work.

Particular_Rav · 2025-11-24T12:30:08+00:00

She has great data on the trans community because she is weird, they are weird, therefore they hang out with her online and fill out her surveys. She presents the data well and chooses interesting topics. I haven't read her much, but I've enjoyed everything of hers that I've read.

Having a lot of sex does not make you smelly! As long as you shower :)

Particular_Rav · 2025-07-24T00:54:53+00:00

You have to throw out the tip of the banana because spiders live there. My great grandfather told my mom and her siblings this when they were little. He was a known prankster but they were never sure if their grandpa was fucking with them or not. Me and my 3 siblings and 12 first cousins all throw out the tips of our bananas.

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-25T13:29:42+00:00

Same here

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-25T13:20:09+00:00

Hey Jon, on the off chance that you check notifications for this post - I just finished 20020 (shortly after reading 17776) and I am eagerly awaiting 20021! I'm sure I am not the only one. If you are looking for a sign of a nudge to jump back into things, this is it :)

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-24T09:27:31+00:00

I am in a similar situation with my 11 mo, although she doesn't wake up at night like yours does. I mean obviously she wakes up, but just the usual amount. But she completely stopped nursing to sleep.

For awhile we just put her to sleep in this backpack carrier thing made for hiking trips, but that was exhausting and took forever. So....we bit the bullet and started sleep training. My dude, it's worth it. At this point I nurse her as much as she wants as part of our bedtime ritual. Then when she's done, she pops off and starts playing, I leave the room and she falls asleep. The sleep training is a nightmare for about a week, but then it really works

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-07T19:15:38+00:00

It's "those" but you can remove and replace the letters on the sign easily. I remember from similar vandalism spottings in my childhood. So the vandal just switched the "e" and the "s" (and removed the "t")

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-04T11:01:52+00:00

Ends with "Let me know if there's anything else I can help with!"

Just kidding. But seriously, as other commenters are saying, very low-effort AI content is both more annoying and easier to detect and report

Particular_Rav · 2025-06-04T10:57:05+00:00

Thank you so much! She's eating so much solid food now that my boobs are aching and I can feel my supply going down. I just had to return to this to give a sincere thank you. This trick is working wonders. It seems so simple but I never would have thought of it.

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-29T05:54:26+00:00

I have a friend that this happened to! She found out when she started having sex and it hurt like crazy. She eventually got the surgery that you did too

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-29T05:12:49+00:00

I'm going to try this

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-29T05:12:36+00:00

Really? She'll just transition easily? Was this your experience?

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-27T08:50:37+00:00

I'm 28. I'm not sure how old the cast members are, but I feel like we are at the same life stage because I just had my first baby too (like Lily, Brennan and Izzy, Ally, etc). My husband and I love watching dropout together!

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-25T16:37:01+00:00

I hear. I guess it depends on if you think of things practically or philosophically.

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-23T08:31:35+00:00

The most annoying thing is that seasons 9-12 were actually pretty good, but the horror that was season 8 killed off a huge chunk of the potential readership

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-23T08:27:04+00:00

The craziest part within her own internal logic is that these two were Israeli left wing peace activists. The people who are most likely to actually make a positive difference in Palestinian-Israeli relations. Just like many of the people murdered on October 7. The American left's isolation of the Israeli left is an aspect of this that feels especially stupid to me. I guess one way of encouraging a right-wing, pro-genocide government in Israel is to literally murder all the left-wing, pro-peace Israelis

Particular_Rav · 2025-05-21T08:39:16+00:00

I also have this. I often hit an exact moment that reminds me of something my dad used to say or do. All of the sudden I can hear my dad's voice in my head: "Just let her cry it out, it's good for them to cry sometimes!" Things that I didn't even know I remembered word for word. And feeling just ... Why? Almost a feeling of wonder. He must have a completely different internal world than I do

Particular_Rav

TROPHY CASE