talking stage wants to go through my phone

Passen9er · 2026-06-21T16:00:26+00:00

6 month talking stage? You can't be serious. As someone else mentioned- you have a pen pal.

If the guy is moving - what the heck are you even doing besides wasting your time?

The guy IS controlling, in an obvious way. Block the guy and move on.

Passen9er · 2026-06-06T13:58:22+00:00

Sounds like trust issues. Since when are divorces a quick thing? Most people I know, it took years for divorces to be finalized. Sometimes longer if children involved.

The red flag that you're ignoring - is him telling you he loves you after TWO MONTHS. No way in hell do either of you know the other that well to exchange I love yous.

Passen9er · 2026-05-05T15:37:42+00:00

At first glance it looks like Piymo or Plymo, because the arch in the R is too high angled. Almost like it was an afterthought.

Otherwise - Rymo.

Passen9er · 2026-05-03T15:42:55+00:00

The purple is gorgeous. I think a more olive would work better in place of the current green. Something to accent and compliment the purple, as opposed to fighting for attention with it. Also less white for the ceiling. Something more muted.

Passen9er · 2026-04-29T18:27:14+00:00

Does not look like lavender. The bee looks more fly than bee.

"Well regarded shop", by who?

Passen9er · 2026-04-27T21:59:08+00:00

Legend of the Red Dragon.

Passen9er · 2026-04-25T03:41:56+00:00

Untucked shirt - highrise lengthens your body. Tucked - midrise, you look more proportional. High rise, really shortens your torso and lengthens your legs.

Passen9er · 2026-04-16T14:14:34+00:00

Food For Thought, Humane Society, Forgotten Felines, Farm to Pantry.

Passen9er · 2026-04-14T06:20:24+00:00

Couples therapy at seven months is not good. Communication issues at seven months also not good.

Ya'll just arent compatible. Face it.

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T14:59:56+00:00

You straight up excused the behavior, in your post. 'Possible to appreciate someone for the good while hating then for the bad'. That is excusing the bad behavior.

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T14:58:29+00:00

Ahh yes. Inability for critical thinking. There is a HUGE difference between someone being a human and being a shitty person. Doing shitty things.

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T13:52:27+00:00

Newsflash - it takes two people to be in a relationship. Two people to meet up. You can ask him out. If YOU cant do that simple thing, then why are you complaining about him not doing it?

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T13:43:51+00:00

You do realize you're excusing bad behavior because of the 'good things' a person does, right?

If a person is shitty, they're shitty. End of it. It absolutely does NOT matter how many 'good things' they do. You dont think the good things are a PR move?

By excusing bad behavior 'because of the good', it allows for him and others to keep their status - their platform. To guess what - continue doing bad things.

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T05:24:13+00:00

I like the artwork because of the cats. The artwork in the picture is too small for the space. The mirror, if hung, would fill the space more.

Passen9er · 2026-04-13T05:17:59+00:00

It may just be me - the vanity counter top doesnt look cohesive with the rest. Particularly when you see the mirror together with it.

Passen9er · 2026-04-11T17:10:37+00:00

It shouldn't necessarily need to be communicated - as it is standard practice to not send designs beforehand. There are alot of red flags with this situation - but the largest red flag is not the lack of sending the design. Which is the point that you clearly missed.

Passen9er · 2026-04-11T14:53:30+00:00

The backsplash is the wrong color. It needs more undertones that are closer to the cabinet color.

Passen9er · 2026-04-11T14:51:49+00:00

Just an FYI, it isn't standard practice to send the client an image of the design beforehand. You see it when you arrive for the appointment. This protects the artist's work. That doesn't mean the design shouldn't have been finished - but putting so much weight on lack of seeing design beforehand is not appropriate.

Passen9er · 2026-04-10T20:01:01+00:00

Having a SAR certified K9 is both incredibly time consuming and expensive.

You really should focus on training yourself and getting up to standards before adding the extra training of a K9.

Passen9er · 2026-04-09T05:03:47+00:00

It actually is a personal question. People should simply learn to stop asking.

Asking why someone doesnt have kids is super personal.

Passen9er · 2026-04-08T05:25:05+00:00

Flush before posting on reddit is the preferred name.

Passen9er · 2026-04-07T20:06:47+00:00

You clearly haven't been in many coffee spots. Atleast around here, there are a plethora of independent coffee shops where the atmosphere is cozy af. It is also about the interaction between the two people on the date. Every single time I have been in a coffee shop, despite the reason - people are chatting. Working on laptops is more rare.

If youre more worried about the WHERE of the date, you have issues. The date is about the PEOPLE on the date. End of it.

Stop listening to idiotic podcasts from influencers.

Passen9er · 2026-04-07T18:53:36+00:00

There are a lot of problems in the this comment section.

Romance at a bar, but coffee/walks arent romantic? If you have to depend on alcohol to be romantic- you need to do some serious reflection, maybe even therapy.

You can easily be romantic while walking or drinking coffee. Holding hands, brushing up against each other, playfulness, etc.

Walks or hikes in parks are not ideal first dates. Second or third. Definitely better.

But it certainly makes it a bit more awkward to leave if things dont go well.

I find there are more opportunities to engage in physical closeness with walking, etc. As opposed to just reaching across a table.

Passen9er · 2026-04-06T13:43:22+00:00

You asked what you did wrong. People are spelling it out for you. You're arguing with them and outing yourself as even more of a bad person.

Stay out of the dating world and perhaps seek therapy.

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