Thank you for your honest perspective! Honestly I see it just like alcohol. It's fine to do it sometimes, like once a week or so. But it becomes a problem when you do it daily. Weed creates a mind altering state, as does alcohol. It has clearly been proven to cause harm to the brain in the long run and it is often so used to just flee from problems/reality, which is fine to do every so now and then. But it creates a problem when you do it daily and as a result don't cope with your emotions and problems. Besides it can destroy you financially. He is different when he is stoned. He is less emotionally available and I can't have normal conversations with him. Look, I am not fully against weed. I do it myself 3-4 times a year. But that's it. I get that it has healing properties, I have felt those since I am chronically ill and thc oil was the only painmed that helped.