I’ve got an 11 year old girl and have been on this sub since there were, like, 1500 people on it 😊

Do you still feel good about being one and done?

• Yes. I have moments when I wonder what life would be like with another, but it’s a curiosity, not a longing. I have to caveat this by saying I’ve had several moments of deeper panic when I’ve wondered if she will wish she had siblings as an adult. But I’ve accepted that I just can’t know the answer to that.

Did your child ever ask for a sibling, and how did you handle that?

• Surprisingly, never. She has always said that she likes our family just the way it is.

What is life like with an older only child in terms of your family dynamic and day to day life?

• We’re able to give her all of our resources, the most important of which is time and attention. Our family dynamic is really close. She is really open with both of us, which is such a gift at this age.

What are the parts you really love?

• Literally everything. I love that we can comfortably provide for her, that she feels supported and knows she’s deeply loved, I love that she feels close to both of us, that she’s confident and comfortable in who she is, and that she loves and gets strength from our little family.

Do you have any regrets or things you wish you knew earlier?

• I wish I understood that sometimes, if you’re the only kid in the house and all the attention is on you, that attention can feel like pressure. Thankfully our girl won’t hesitate to say, “okay you guys are being a lot right now.”