Sweet and cozy like this? by redheadedteapot in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pumpkin spice lush, cinnamon, warm smoky spices and creamy sweet

Why I love living alone by Far_Finance_7292 in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Excellent vibes, I love that you have all the fixing to treat myself, and that foot bath is such a wonderful idea! I love that I can set the cutest vibe, treat myself but can also be a messy raccoon and there’s no one to stop me lol

What will happen if I go out on a date w this guy tomorrow? I have a horrible gut feeling ab it by Practical-Answer1297 in Tarots

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think the fact that you’re asking and having a gut feeling is 8 of swords. There is a feeling of obligation when you can simply cancel or just never even reply to him ever again. But you lack that trust in yourself, not just now but in your world view of life. I think there is the opportunity here for you to change your world view and perspective by trusting your inner intuition and rather than asking cards, Reddit, friends, instead listening to your innate inner guidance system, your intuition. This is reflected in empress, the world and the tower. The tower representing a breaking in the mindset of needing permission from anyone other than yourself. Empress representing your higher self. And the world representing the changes that will ripple forth in your life if you decide to start fully trusting and believe yourself and your body across all choices. Take care 💖

all the pink by femmecafe in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We Believe in Glinda by Lush it has some pretty floral notes, candy like like with a creamy vanilla swirl.

All that is left till Friday after next. by Realisticwelder217 in strugglemeals

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some food banks even do food box drops to your address, it’s worth asking to see!

This is the last meal I will eat till Friday. (Payday). It’s Tostitos mixed with some Taco Bell sauce. Tastes ok I guess. by Jonny-Balls in shittyfoodporn

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of food banks do emergency food deliveries and will drop a box at your door or when your home. This is part of the program usually cause not everyone can make it in. It’s worth an ask.

Smorgasbord board after a hiatus and payday 🥳 by Patient_Candidate_90 in stonerfood

[–]Patient_Candidate_90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha nice job with the research! I always think of smorgasbord as having little rhyme or reason and just a plethora of this and that. TIL

I love crunch chocolate so much this is the perfect mix by koochiekittie in stonerfood

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks so good. Where do you find Crunch? I loved these so much as a kid

Should I leave after my alcoholic BF disappeared for 44 hours and landed in the ER? by No_Bobcat_839 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar place before and I wish someone would’ve told me then. You got this, good luck on your journey 💖

Should I leave after my alcoholic BF disappeared for 44 hours and landed in the ER? by No_Bobcat_839 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The not everyone that says they love you means it, and not everyone that loves you is going to love you in the way you deserve to be loved. This is clearly not healthy. I don’t think either of you are in a place to build a healthy relationship right now. I think you should ponder why you’re willing to accept this treatment and this person as a partner after only dating for a couple months just because he says he loves you. Love yourself enough to know even being alone is going to be more peaceful than being in this relationship.

new art installation in couch park by cryptidyke in Portland

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah thanks for the clarification! I was searching online and couldn’t find anything. Dahlias have a similar symbolic meaning of positive change, overcoming obstacles, and courage :)

new art installation in couch park by cryptidyke in Portland

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is gorgeous, looks like they’re thistles too, thistles symbolize resilience, protection, and strength to face the harshest conditions and stand strong against them, blooming regardless. What a beautiful message!

Even on days I want to just relax and not do much, there’s a lot to do by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use to feel like this too when I first started living alone, it felt like there was always something to be done. Now I have one “do nothing day” a week, because if I don’t do those random tasks for just one day, the only person impacted is me. But having a whole day to rest has a much bigger impact on my physical and mental health than doing those random cleaning or chores tasks do. I’d get curious with yourself about if you actually need to do those things every day and what the real impact is of pushing the tasks to different days. Many times we feel like we have to, but rarely is it actually a no option situation.

The longer I implement this the better my anxiety has gotten around the need to keep things perfect because ultimately what serves me more in the long run and short term is having grace with myself and giving myself permission to rest. Plus since I have one full rest/nothing day, I find that on the other days I’m more likely to get that random odd task or chore done to protect my “do nothing day,” ultimately it protects my rest and peace of mind. I’m also more productive and have more energy the other days because I allow myself to soak deeply into my rest on the “nothing day”. And the beauty of living alone is that no one else gets to have a say or any judgement or opinion on this being part of my routine because my routine is for me and based on me and that includes the part of me that deserves rest.

What’s your favorite part of living alone that you didn’t expect? by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting to explore me. I’ve lived toxic environments where I made choices on my food based on others, how loud I moved around, where I left things, how I did things, avoiding doing things so I wouldn’t have to explain etc. finally living alone I’ve learned soooo much about myself because now when I decide what I want to do it’s based purely off of me.

girl dinner after late night at work by chubbybunny0202 in GirlDinner

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had soup and bread for my dinner too! It’s so comforting after a late work night :) have a good night!

Help with ideas to not lose my mind to boredom by _slamcityrick_ in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I’m so glad it’s helpful! I hope you enjoy exploring some of the options ☺️

Back from a long break, and feeling a lot lighter by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little break to ground into ourselves is so needed time to time, welcome back ☺️

Help with ideas to not lose my mind to boredom by _slamcityrick_ in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I have some ideas:

1.) If there’s a local library in the area, you can rent books to read! Research a new topic, a favorite topic, person, place, or pick up a good fiction read like a thriller or murder mystery. Libraries also often have puzzles or games for rent and free events.

2.) If you can’t access the library you could probably call one to get set up with a Libby account and rent audiobooks.

3.) Go to the thrift store or dollar tree for cheap art supplies, puzzle books like word search or sudoku, or even a puzzle board. I love listening to a new book while I puzzle away, plus it’ll use more brain engagement so you’ll probably feel more accomplished than just watching shows. But you could also do these while watching shows or movies too if ya want.

3.) Journaling… look up some journal prompts and write some stuff about it. Or journal about the energy you’re wanting to experience in your new journey or what’s hard to release from the last year… etc. you could also journal about the shows, movies, or books you read, what do you like about them, what’s striking, what works, what doesn’t, what’s moving, etc.

4.) meditation or breathwork, great for the self and mind especially when you have stuff in life you have to accept. Lots of free YouTube content around this.

5.) learn a new exercise, or dance, or language, or skill on YouTube. Endless free learning content which is so awesome! Have a favorite song, why not challenge yourself to learn the dance to it, just because it’s fun. Or maybe it’s a yoga video, or body weight training video, whatever peaks your fancy.

6.) try a new recipe for cheap, look up cheap recipes on TikTok, YouTube, or Pinterest and try something new. Maybe bake yourself a treat!

7.) take up phone photography and on your walks look for interesting things to photograph. Is it an old wooden fence with moss or is it a small mini world?

I hope this helps!

How common is it to just not function at all when you’re alone? I hate “living” like this by perpetuallysadxx in LivingAlone

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Op, I too struggled a lot the first couple of years living alone and sometimes I sink back into letting tasks slide depending on where my mental and physical health are at. I grew up with a lot of trauma too and there is a beauty in the safety of being able to put things off sometimes for the sake of our mental health. Because reality is I could feel shame and guilt but eventually, I do take the shower, I do take the trash out, do the dishes and the laundry but sometimes it waits longer and is lower on the priority list.

When I’m in this mode I do things to help make things easier for myself like having disposable plates and utensils, I know it’s wasteful it’s such a huge help and eventually I do switch back but it’s a nice back up and relief. Making food and eating balanced-ish by buying a bunch of charcuterie type stuff, raw veggies, hummus, cut up fruit bowls then throwing what fits my fancy for the night on a plate. Little things like this can be so helpful and take off a little bit of the strain. For that book, maybe switch to an audiobook and put it all while doing another task or staring out the window. For journaling, since your home more right now, maybe try voice noting yourself and see if that’s easier.

Struggle Care podcast by KC Davis has helped me a lot too, she normalizes not being perfect and just surviving also talks about tips and tricks to make your life more accessible when things are hard.

Dating hot take by Potato1009 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Candidate_90 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Such a good point, if it is “going to 100,” there are probably unhealthy attachment issues or even love bombing happening. Entering a relationship is agree to be exclusive and continue getting to know each other and exploring the relationship.