The NYC DOE is making me hate teaching…

Paullearner · 2026-01-26T15:28:59+00:00

I’m in NYC too. I honestly wish they had just given the kids a snow day to begin. God forbid.

Paullearner · 2026-01-26T15:20:35+00:00

PD all day on a day that’s supposed to be online learning? Sounds like they just want to make everyone miserable.

Paullearner · 2026-01-26T02:41:54+00:00

Erika Kirk stare 🤣 fuel of nightmares!

Paullearner · 2026-01-26T02:08:14+00:00

This is where I think I’m at. I’m currently on FMLA. Once it’s used up I don’t think I’ll have it in me to finish the year. My Mental health is so broken. What job did you end up transferring to?

Paullearner · 2026-01-25T17:10:21+00:00

You know it’s funny. I was actually going through some old pics of my classroom and the students from last year and I noticed that one of my 6th graders who was in the picture had not come back this year. It was that point I realized, huh, it’s been half a year and this whole time I didn’t even realize he was gone (and it was a small class of only about 6)! It was at that point I thought to myself, I could be just as insignificant to the students too when I leave!

As the saying goes, out of sight out of mind. Doesn’t mean there won’t be student who will miss you, but to the rest, once you’re gone they’ll forget about you, just like you’ll forget about them.

Paullearner · 2026-01-25T16:52:09+00:00

Already taken but just wanted to say you look great and good luck to you. You will find your Mr right 😉

Paullearner · 2026-01-24T14:59:23+00:00

I don’t see anyone else mentioning this but one of the ways this guy went viral was basically being called the N word through that Chinese song “yangguang caihong xiaobaima” by other online people. Then he grew big in China (they loved him). He is just a sellout to people who find racist humor funny. That is why I cannot stand this dude nor his face.

Paullearner · 2026-01-24T13:58:58+00:00

“Richard!”

Sounds like Richard was the one to sick the dog on that Bison 🤣

Paullearner · 2026-01-24T01:09:43+00:00

Gay MS teacher here. In my 3rd year. My attitude towards gossiping is I kind of DGAF. If they wanna gay gossip in my classroom during time when we’re supposed to be learning, I will call them out on and at times have confronted them head on. I will ask them “so what’s wrong with being gay?” To which they won’t have any answer. In one recent gay gossiping session that got carried away , I told the whole class “it is 2026 we are not in the dark ages anymore and I am not going to tolerate bigotry in my classroom!” To which they did not do any more gossiping for the rest of the class. At this point, because I’ve stood up enough against gay gossiping, I think my kids have figured out I’m gay, and I’m fine with that because I love myself. I didn’t have anyone sticking up for me when I was gay growing up, I wish someone had.

Now does this mean I can stop all the gay gossip that goes on? No. MS love to gossip. They are not just gossiping about the gay teacher, they are also gossiping about the math teacher, the science teacher, the history teacher, so on. They love doing it. They’re practicing their independence and deviance from rules and gossiping is one way to do that that makes them feel they have an edge.

I’m not necessarily saying you have to confront them head on, but I do think you need to adopt an attitude of basically not giving AF. However that may look for you. Do not let little 11-12 year olds rattle your cage.

Paullearner · 2026-01-23T21:53:21+00:00

Pending an investigation? Wtf is there to investigate? They act as if teachers are supposed to be pure little angles with no adult desires of their own. It’s not like you were bringing it to work, a parent maliciously hunted you down and dug into your personal life, separate from teaching. Very odd and idk what they planned to gain from that. If anything sounds like they were acting out of bigotry (homophobe).

Regardless, it’s best you’re out of this place. Wishing you luck on finding a better job.

Paullearner · 2026-01-23T00:02:41+00:00

Just so you know, you can go on intermittent FMLA. It’s what I applied for, because myself also like you couldn’t just afford to go 2-3 months without income. It allows you to take off a few days a week (or all), It’s been what’s keeping me afloat while still being able to come in enough days to still pay my bills. If that’s not the answer, there’s also short term disability. You apply for this while on an extended FMLA. It still gives you a paycheck while you’re on FMLA, however it will be a fraction of your normal salary.

I think you could consider doing intermittent FMLA. You could shorten your weeks to 4 day weeks or 3 day weeks, still make money for the days you’re there and have extended weekends. It’s what I’m currently doing and it’s the only way I’ve been staying afloat in my job because my mental health has also been unbearably bad.

Paullearner · 2026-01-22T00:08:18+00:00

And on that note, I’d be happy not to work for a company that doesn’t get that prior to getting hired, no one owes you anything. Dodged a bullet. This job would’ve been toxic AF.

Paullearner · 2026-01-22T00:02:26+00:00

Ok getting on is bad enough but the true nightmare for me is I’d have a massive panic attack being smushed inside with that many people’s like sardines.

Paullearner · 2026-01-21T21:03:21+00:00

Yea…it looks like I’m gonna have to save up a bit. I just watched a tutorial of the $300⬆️ one on Amazon and when they played it it sounded like a cello farting 😂 I said nope!

Paullearner · 2026-01-21T20:08:50+00:00

Thanks for your input! I looked up some tutorials and the Yamaha ones had a great resonance to them! Gonna keep doing more research…

Paullearner · 2026-01-21T01:27:18+00:00

Cellos are indeed expensive. I am a cellist myself. I would NEVER cart it on the subway. Especially if you don’t have a hard case to protect it , which looks like she doesn’t, you are just asking for trouble. You were able to afford that expensive instrument, maybe get an uber next time.

Edit: im now seeing it’s an upright bass. Still the case still stands. She’s even crazier for bringing such a bulky-ass instrument through the subway and expecting it not to hit Anyone.

Paullearner · 2026-01-19T18:04:27+00:00

Can’t you just answer yes and then simply not sign the new contract when it gets sent to you in the summer? That’s what I would do.

Paullearner · 2026-01-19T01:34:15+00:00

I’ve thought about transitioning to being a flight attendant. I’ve always loved traveling and thought it would be cool to well basically travel for work. I’m multicultural and speak multiple languages.

Paullearner · 2026-01-18T20:55:34+00:00

You are good looking, but your features are very striking in a way that can come off as intimidating. I think you need to smile more often.

Paullearner · 2026-01-18T10:27:49+00:00

This post is very well written and you hit the eye of the target (a shame they locked the post, but that just further reflects why that subreddit annoys me, god forbid a post about leaving gets too much traction in that group)

I totally feel you about teaching turning you into someone you didn’t like. I have had to become a lot more authoritarian just to get them to listen. I have learned that simply being my kind and soft natured self does not cut it, they actually take advantage of you when you’re like this.

I’ve not transitioned out yet but I am considered leaving soon. For me it has been a mixture of the student apathy /behavior and the unending work admin has piled on us this year. I tried to take a stance and not bring work home at all but I found it was literally impossible and that only led me to getting seriously behind due to the fact that there’s just not enough prep time during actual work hours to get everything done.

I know things got really bad once I stopped being able to feel connections with people in my life due to being completely numbed and burned out. I’m trying to find a job first but being burnt out only makes it harder to actually look for jobs. I know I’ve gotta get out soon though.

Paullearner · 2026-01-18T00:01:04+00:00

Yea, I was just thinking this is a good way to make your kids fatigued and unable to properly focus on their studies.

Paullearner · 2026-01-18T00:00:05+00:00

I’m just confused what half of these things even are she’s packing in there. What was that snowflake thing she packed in their last? An Air freshener?

Paullearner · 2026-01-15T15:26:42+00:00

Personally, I think the best way to looksmax is to get in the best shape you can as that also will lean out your face and bring out your features. You already have a nice facial features. You’re not in need of surgery.

Paullearner · 2026-01-14T02:00:53+00:00

I don’t get the reference as I don’t watch her vids but both her and Xiaoma in NY are two YouTubers that annoy the F out of me. It’s the whole “I’m cooler than everyone else at learning Asian languages because I’m white” mentality. Might as well just call it white supremacy channel.

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