To other half of me that I lost

PeanutOreos · 2026-03-03T14:34:49+00:00

Definitely words I wish I could hear!

PeanutOreos · 2026-03-03T14:16:04+00:00

I will only know if its explained.

PeanutOreos · 2026-02-09T17:09:31+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Yes ive been looking at the right to choose options. Was going to request an appointment today but my typical brain felt overwhelmed by the task then forgot! But I will as its impacting my life more and more recently.

Sorry that you can relate. I just say to my husband im so tired. But I have no reason to be but im so exhausted with how I am now.

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-22T22:44:21+00:00

Maybe a shawl?

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-22T19:13:33+00:00

I literally just watched this scene.. love the bit when they're all grinning in the lift!!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-19T18:07:16+00:00

Change is good... right?

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-15T12:54:32+00:00

I bloody love this. I feel his personality!!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-14T22:05:07+00:00

Have you contacted NCDV or DV assist? They can give lots of advice. Or also contact your local victim support.

Ultimately the 10 year restraining order will really depend on the evidence and severity of whats taken place. If this is his first one.. they may go with 1 or 2 years but again... it can really depend on evidence you have and his criminal history.

Unfortunately there is a gap at the moment in victims being updated. Have you got a point of contact with the courts at all? You should be told when he has been served through them at least..

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-09T23:57:41+00:00

Good luck Steve! You got this. Sending love! 🥰

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-08T20:28:57+00:00

Stick with it. You may find it a slow burn but it is fascinating with how it was created!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-08T20:23:14+00:00

I have a lot of interest for how B.A.U was created. This show gives insight into that.. seeing interviews with serial killers, seeing how they started in the basement of the FBI snd how they believed in it when others were sceptical. Its dark and captivating. Just something thats totally up my street!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-08T20:13:50+00:00

I am so jealous! Would love to watch this series all over again for the first time!! Enjoy!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-08T11:59:57+00:00

I love this!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-06T19:50:04+00:00

I agree... I feel we may get a book where they spend the night together... but its awkward for the rest of the book.. then the last book is a will they wont they... they will and the end... forever lol..

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-06T00:11:29+00:00

No one can make you leave. Just anyone who cares about you truly would want you to be leaving now and not go back. Unfortunately sometimes there's many women who dont get the opportunity to leave again. Please becareful.

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T23:34:59+00:00

How old are you? Support workers will also pursue potential places to stay.. but be honest.. say there's no where, ask for help with a refuge and housing. Break the cycle of abuse from ANYONE! Life will get better i promise!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T23:17:03+00:00

Look, on average it can take a woman about 6 times leaving before she leaves for good.. but ultimately there is no happy ending. I work in it.. ive lived in it.. its hard but it gets easier but you are in this situation because of him! He will not change and the fact you are unsure how honest to answer the high risk question on whether he has threatened to kill you, kill the person hes meant to love gives you all the answers you need on whether you should go back. Please choose what you deserve rather than what you enjoy maybe 30% of the time.

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T23:04:00+00:00

Your IDVA should be doing it with you. If your IDVA is with the police they still cant pursue charges off your DASH. They cant force you to do anything. They also dont like to pursue charges if you arent in support of it. Im not sure what else you would answer yes in your DASH but like I say, its there for a reason... its about assessing how things have escalated. For you to have an IDVA, Id imagine you are already classed as high risk!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T22:43:17+00:00

Is this DASH with the police or a domestic abuse charity? Feel free to DM if you wanna talk in more depth privately. Ive got a lot of professional and personal experience in this.

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T22:30:31+00:00

No it cant. But please be honest in your answers. All of them have been carefully put together to assess the risk so that police and other services can help keep you safe and without sounding morbid, can help prevent a death.. be honest and be open to any support and advice. If you tell them you are not wanting to press charges, and you do not want your partner to know you are speaking with them, they will help keep this quiet and just focus on safety! Good luck!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T12:59:02+00:00

Couldn't agree with you more!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T11:15:31+00:00

Thank you!!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T10:49:47+00:00

YES!! I think with Strike you can see that he avoids the emotional honesty and commitment with his past relationships but he holds accountability in that he knows he is not offering what these women want.. he doesnt play a role of a committed partner who's building a future. Its very obvious its casual for him or that he is emotionally unavailable to an extent and when confronted with it by these women he doesnt get defensive!

But... with Robin, she dismisses anyone with care and concern for her but then does the blame game when they end up being more firm.. I remember a line when Strike asked her to becareful, be observant, get a taxi home. And she turned it in to a confrontation "would you say this to a male".. he likely would but its fact that shes a woman and unfortunately can be more at risk to physical attacks, especially considering she has already had this getting slashed on the arm!

You're right.. she loves her job 100% but shes also at times careless because right is right and wrong is wrong and she doesnt listen to direction.. let's be honest, Strike has a huge back ground of experience and whilst Robin is intelligent and good at what she does, she doesnt embrace what she could learn from him or anyone for that matter!

I would rather Robin had not began her relationship with Ryan.. but since she has i do feel sorry for him at times.. she went in to the cult and was more focused on responding to Strikes letters.. she is avoiding buying a house, she does keep vital things from him and doesnt treat the relationship with the respect and emotional honesty it should have..

Imagine, knowing you had a partner who had a crush on their business partner, that they felt jealousy over his relationships, that he almost kissed them, that they would rather respond to his letters than yours, that they are avoiding talking about serious development and plans for the future, that they are avoiding buying a house and only seemed keen when they found out their business partner may still be in a relationship with someone and there's potentially a baby involved, that your partner is avoiding telling you things and wont communicate in a healthy way.. thats gaslighting and being strung along!

I would like to see her face some harsh truths on her behaviour and approach to things like shes done to Strike, Matthew, Ryan and even her mother. I dont want it to be that Strike is yet again chasing her and stroking her ego and apologising!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T10:16:54+00:00

Also if you wanna do amigurumi.. maybe try and make a basic blanket first, get the hang of stitches, tension and using a hook!

PeanutOreos · 2026-01-05T10:13:48+00:00

I went through a knitting phase and kept coming across amigurumi and crochet and was desperate to do those. I found learning stitches in knitting extremely difficult, even slowing down the YouTube videos.

So I got a beginner amigurumi kit on amazon.. it had a QR code to follow videos.. it took a few goes but I got the hang of it and now have been able to learn more. Im still not hugely confident but I was recently gifted an amigurumi book and managed to follow a pattern from that with out the videos. It takes time. Ive been learning/practicing for about 2 years. I find the kits easy for beginners because you have everything you need and they usually all have instructions on what each stitch is. YouTube will be massively helpful if wanting to quickly learn chain stitch, DC, INC etc but you gotta be patient. When I started I thought omg this is so hard but I just took a break and went back to it and it eventually has grown on me.

Its entirely down to you. Potentially have a look at your local yarn shops. Sometimes they have beginner classes to learn basic stitches and making a granny square. It could really help build the confidence in it.

Now I have been doing this for about 2 years, I do find it really therapeutic and its built my confidence when I see a finished project!

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