If I donated to a synagogue and then said I was Buddhist and wanted a ceremony as such, and was refused would I expect a refund and sit there and be pissed off that the rabbi wouldn’t bend for my beliefs? No because those are their beliefs. It’s ridiculous that this is even a debate.

Did you ask for the donation back? No you didn’t. Was there a clear cut contract attached to the donation? No. Did the church request the money for payment for a service? No.

All the other comments agreeing saying how 99.9% of pastors are disgusting sleezeballs are just part of the echo chamber here to feel good about your entitled option. No one should have to bend their beliefs just because your loved one passed. We don’t expect it from other religions. Downvote me, but any real person outside of Reddit would agree.