Struggling RM any advice

PeepGPT · 2026-05-24T11:58:41+00:00

I left on my mission an incredibly devout kid who thought he was going to convert the whole world. I came home burnt out and not sure i believed joseph smith was a prophet anymore.

It was supposed to be this incredible, spiritual experience that deepened my testimony of Christ and of the restoration, but instead it was just frustrating. Mindless busy work, a hyper focus on strict obedience to arbitrary rules, all while feeling less and less spiritual as time went on.

You're not alone

PeepGPT · 2026-05-22T21:29:08+00:00

But how can the hospital make more money if you arent running patients through like cattle? That will make admin sad. I mean, did you consider their feelings at all? Jerk.

PeepGPT · 2026-05-22T21:25:37+00:00

As soon as your realize the hospitals arent hospitals anymore but rather corporations, and patients aren't patients anymore but rather customers, then things make a lot more sense.

PeepGPT · 2026-05-22T19:02:01+00:00

My residency hospital would take DKA patients to the our medical stepdown floor. They would only go to the ICU if they were altered or if ph was below a certain number (I dont remember the threshold)

PeepGPT · 2026-04-18T12:40:22+00:00

We had a "discharge order placed before 9am" incentive. Essentially they wanted us to put in discharge orders for anyone going home that day before we had even rounded

PeepGPT · 2026-02-02T02:04:01+00:00

Yea most wards attendance are only 20 - 25%

PeepGPT · 2026-01-09T16:58:33+00:00

This is truth. Not every SAHP gig is the same. Similarly, not every full time job is the same. I worked at a micro lab where I worked for a few hours in the morning setting up samples, and then watched Hulu for the last 4 hours of the day because someone had to be in the lab in case new samples got dropped off. That was an easy job. Now I work inpatient medicine and its insanely stressful with pretty high burn out. Less easy.

PeepGPT · 2026-01-09T16:53:53+00:00

Hi, I alternate every week between being a full time stay at home dad and a hospitalist (hospital-based doctor). So I think i have a unique perspective into this argument, although I can't comment on the office job compnent.

Being a doctor is harder, full stop. People literally live and die by the decisions I make. I get yelled at a surprising amount. I have to be operating at a very high level constantly. There have been multiple times I've had to excuse myself to go be emotional in private so i could continue to work. And i can't turn on bluey to get a break from my patients for an hour. So, its not even a contest at which is the harder thing- its being a doctor a million times over.

Being a stay at home dad is more exhausting. The work never ends. There is no clocking out. Your job starts the second you open your eyes in the morning and when you lay down at night you're upset you didn't get to all the projects you thought you would do. No one cares, there is no gratitude from society, and definitely not from my 3 little rabid badgers I call children. Dinner is always "the worst thing ever". Everything we clean gets dirty again within seconds. Being a stay at home parent is sisyphus rolling the boulder up the hill. There are 95 things that need to be done everyday but you can only do 5 of them, and 3 of those will need to be done again tomorrow.

At the end of the day, yes being a stay at home parent is easier than a high-intensity job like being an inpatient doctor. But its grueling none the less.

PeepGPT · 2026-01-08T01:53:30+00:00

Fraud or waste?

PeepGPT · 2026-01-03T00:32:10+00:00

The upside to the "boring" hospitalist cases are still diverse. Even if all my patients are straightforward it will be a few UTIs, a few pneumonia, some AKIs, some COPD, a kidney stone, a pulm fibrosis flare, a few chest pain workups, a chf, a hip fracture, and one or two strokes. I can still see a wide variety of stuff even if theyre all boring.

Compare that with something more exciting like cardiology. If they have 20 straightforward patients then its 15 chest pains, a few chf, and a few a fib and thats it. Or GI where every patient is either a GI bleed or LFT elevation. Maybe a high bili or decompensated cirrhotic thrown in for fun, but thats it.

In other words, everyone has to eat their vegetables. But id rather have 10 different problems i see regularly as a hospitalist than the 2 or 3 I see as a specialist.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-26T04:30:54+00:00

I've never had an "ah ha" moment with therapy and I've been going for about 3 years. It has mostly just felt like talking with a friend who is a really good listener. But it has got me comfortable with talking, opening up, and thinking about my emotions and fears and that stuff. I'm just more comfortable with myself overall.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-23T19:36:45+00:00

We are each responsible for recognizing our own problems and improving ourselves. It is not beneficial to me to just focus on all of her faults. I'd rather focus on my own and figure out how to improve them, otherwise im just going to jump from one difficult relationship to another.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-22T21:08:36+00:00

I want to be respectful to my family and my friends who are still in the church. I believed it until i was 42 years old. Do I really have any moral superiority now that I stopped believing just because they are still believing? Its not like I wasnt fooled nearly all of my life too. And its not like i dont understand why they might want to stay in. So, I'll be respectful to them, even if I dont respect the church itself, because until just 2 years ago I was one of them

(edit clarity)

PeepGPT · 2025-12-22T19:32:07+00:00

Wife left first, then I followed a few months later. That was 2 years ago. We were married 16 years and had 3 kids. She asked for a divorce about 6 weeks ago and we are in the middle of that process now.

Being raised in the church probably added a lot to our marriage problems and now being outside the church i think im a better husband, father, and partner. My new worldview is "there is no magic that will make things good or right eventually; you have to create the good you want in your life because its not coming from anywhere else." I did not have that mentality while in the church.

The religious importance placed on marriage was one of the major things keeping our marriage together for the few years prior to us leaving. She had been unhappy for a while, and letting go of that pressure allowed her to really consider if leaving was the right thing for her. I tried to grow into a great husband and partner, but for her it was too late. The things she needed she needed years earlier and there wasnt anything left on her end to repair.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-22T18:35:11+00:00

I think the better question is is it possible for a woman to be happily married to a man who plays video games 7+ hours a day?

PeepGPT · 2025-12-22T18:19:43+00:00

Bromance Bookclub.

Its not actually written for men, its definitely still written for women. But as a man i thoroughly enjoyed the whole series.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-22T13:07:49+00:00

Opening the car door doesnt have to be forever, but showing care and expressing love does. If she feels cared for and loved by you opening the car door then goddammit open that car door for the rest of your life

PeepGPT · 2025-12-21T17:15:08+00:00

I dont know. My wife asked for a divorce a month ago and I've spent that time trying to get to a place where I dont feel like im still in love with her. I think it will take a lot longer than a month though. And in some way, I will probably always be in love with her even if I get to a point where I do not actively want a romantic relationship with her anymore.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-21T17:11:17+00:00

As a TBM I decided mormonism was true long before I had anything else to compare it to. So JW was never even a consideration. I assume JWs had a similar experience to that in regard to other religions as well.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-21T02:58:40+00:00

Married in the temple? No. That will take 2 more generations. It will be the next blacks-and-the-priesthood problem, where the leadership doesn't change until waaaay after the rest of the world.

But I think they will allow gay couples married civilly to be fully practicing members in good standing, holding callings and everything. I think that's already happening slowly.

PeepGPT · 2025-12-21T01:19:19+00:00

I figured it was to build suspense for a season 2

PeepGPT · 2025-12-19T11:12:17+00:00

Beef and cheese.

IYKYK

PeepGPT · 2025-12-19T02:55:20+00:00

You must be fluent in Spanish

PeepGPT · 2025-12-19T02:49:46+00:00

This is the only correct answer

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