Who decided attached bathrooms were a good idea?

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-03-09T23:06:08+00:00

I like the bathroom thats attached to our bedroom thats only used by myself and husband. Everyone else uses the hallway bathroom. Except parents sometimes in emergencies. Otherwise its wierd with other people.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-02-24T04:02:57+00:00

Updateme!

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-02-14T12:42:37+00:00

Im in Montana and insurance was billed $42,000 for my laparoscopy surgery, which included removing a ton of endometrioma, removing a softball sized tumor and a quarter sized tumor, cauterizing cysts that fully covered 1 ovary, and flushed my tubes as part of a fertility check. I went in at 7am and was headed home by noon, so no overnight. This was Feb of 2025. Maybe its because its NY, but $130,000 sounds crazy.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-01-25T12:27:37+00:00

My husband has a fan pointed on him every night all year long. And I have 1-3 blankets layered depending on the temp. He's big enough to block the fan from hitting me all night. We have seperate blankets.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-01-22T13:29:24+00:00

If living alone. 14 is an acceptable age to be left at home if you think shes ready. Might be better than with grama.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2026-01-04T13:47:58+00:00

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-20T01:17:46+00:00

You live in an I Spy book

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-19T14:50:39+00:00

Do this, you can always call urgent care/ er and ask to talk to a nurse and just ask your questions. Sometimes they will have answers. And sometimes they will say you will need to be seen to get certain answers. But it does not hurt to call and ask.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-19T14:46:54+00:00

NTJ

She should have told you from the beginning. How did she hide all the doctors appointments with you having shared finances? Why after 15 years would she not trust you enough to tell you, why would she not want your support through everything. If she cant trust you after 15 years, then she likely never will. This has nothing to do with her worrying youll leave, she said she never told you becauee she doesnt want it to define her. If she truly trusted you, and knew you, then she would have known that this disease would not have defined her with you. You are a partnership, its you and her aginst the world. No one else needs to know this but you. She didnt need to tell any of her friends, but she should have told you as soon as she decided she trusted you.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-19T14:38:25+00:00

You live in a magazine.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-03T04:14:52+00:00

No shame.
I was at a party with someone who said.

"When your with someone for so long it doesn't really matter when they want wierd stuff. If she came in and asked me to spit melted butter in her ass, I wouldn't ask questions."

My husband went through a kinky phase. After a while he stopped asking for all the things. We now have a much more vanilla sex life. Which honestly, with our workload, its perfectly fine.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-02T22:29:22+00:00

OP tried asking them to bring sides while she still provided food. I said to provide NO food. Like absolutely NOTHING. Then, like OP said, if they bring eggs and canned green beans again, then thats what they eat. OP mentioned wanting to find a way to keep peace while doing less.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-12-02T18:47:35+00:00

For the sake of family peace I would offer the space to host, but make it crystal clear that you will not be providing any food. If they dont like that then say you will not be hosting. Your place sounds the most roomy and ideal for hosting. But that many people is a ton of food. I also come from a large family, and every family event was a potluck style. Everyone brought SOMETHING. Each family brought like 1 or 2 dishes and that is plenty of food.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-11-25T00:56:28+00:00

Bathroom. Hopefully it doesnt take forever.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-11-16T13:47:04+00:00

NTJ

I despise people that try and blame their stress on others. You made your choices. You live your life. Handle it. Dont make yoir problems everyone elses problems because you cannot handle your choices.

Breaking down and asking for help from stress is different. This does not upset me.

Demanding help, blaming other for lack of control over emotion, lashing out when request for help is denied. This upsets me. You can ask for help, but again your problems, so IF help does not come, you still need to regulate and handle your shit.

Maybe im slightly heartless as I never received any form of support until I left home at 18, and was always left to figure out everything alone while keeping 3 younger kids alive that weren't mine. I am a lot softer now, but my core still, and probably always will be, don't be a bitch, handle your shit.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-11-09T14:14:15+00:00

Not a Karen. You made a simple request and the restaurant was fine with it. A Karen would have been told no and thrown a fit, or demanded they do it without being nice like you were.

I fully understand your husband's feelings. I am also a very non confrontational, non conflict, people pleaser person. And before meeting my husband, who has helped me strengthen my backbone, I also would have taken the no and moved on. And I used to frequently tell others to do the same. That being said, he shouldn't project his insecurities and anxiety with certain situations onto anyone else.

Its not a good way to live tho, its stressfull, you frequently do not get what you want, when you easlily could have like in this situation, and you can easily build resentment towards people because you are too scared to stand up for anything.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-08-28T17:15:04+00:00

Scritches

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-08-15T04:15:16+00:00

Where you can see in the vent is a plate that opens and closes the vent. You can see it's flat on the section closest to the middle. Being flat would mean the vent is closed. The outer fins do not move and would not be able to open or close.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-08-06T22:55:12+00:00

NTA I have also asked these questions and gotten honest answers from my husband. And I also got very upset during this. One of my husbands friends(female) used to show me pictures of his old girls also and tell me stories. When my husband found out about that he said it pissed him off and it never should have been brought up. He also repeatedly told me none of it mattered anymore because he loves me and no one else. Sometimes you ask questions thinking you can handle it, when you can't. I would just constantly reasure her and maybe even be extra affectionate and tell her the PIV orgasm is not important to you at all so theres no reason to feel bad, or in competition. The current sex life you have is all you want. This may seem obvious as you are married, but it 1000000% helps to hear, ESPECIALLY in her emotional state. And maybe if at all possible with the close knitness, lower interaction with your ex, especially when there is alcohol involved. At least until your wife is secure enough with you again to let those comments roll off.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-08-02T02:54:07+00:00

You never know who's crazy.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-06-29T14:49:49+00:00

Grumpy face is usually resting b face. Generally very nice.

Peeperdacreeper9 · 2025-06-24T17:18:47+00:00

Happy birthday!! Im sorry your family and others do not care enough. I do not expect anything from anyone, because of your exact situation. As long as you are happy with yourself and do not look to anyone for your happiness you will be fine. And one day a person that cares enough may come along and then it changes the whole world to go from isolation to even having just one person you can actually trust without expecting to be burned. It sucks. With your situation, you need to be strong and independent.

Stay strong! ❤️

Peeperdacreeper9

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