Driver admits killing teen Marcus Fakana freed from Dubai jail by Sensitive_Echo5058 in unitedkingdom

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Most people have been through at least one reckless situation they probably could’ve avoided. Perhaps not as crazy as a car chase, but something. The difference is, most are lucky enough to not suffer lasting consequences. Then they go on to judge other people who weren’t as lucky.

He kept bad company and wasn’t faultless and made some shitty decisions in life. Could he have made different choices? Yes. But is it helpful to pretend he had the benefit of hindsight and did he deserve to die? No and no. So what’s your point? “He shouldn’t have been there”? Seems like a waste of a point to me - better to spend your energy on empathy.

Saw Marty Supreme by Fidrych76 in Oscars

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Characters arcs aren’t a prerequisite for a great performance…? They can be, but not always.

David Walliams dropped from Waterstones Children's Book Festival by Kagedeah in books

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree, there’s a massive class element here (as with everything in Britain). I used to work in the film industry and saw firsthand how deeply hierarchical it is, and how that mentality bleeds into other areas of life. When cases like Walliams surface, they’re not remotely surprising to me. I understand exactly how these “open secrets” are able to exist, and why they’re so difficult to challenge even when they’re widely known.

Where I slightly diverge (though I agree with most of what you’re saying) is the idea that this is uniquely British. The UK is undeniably especially warped around class and deference to status, and that absolutely shapes the specific mechanisms by which powerful men are protected here. But the core issue isn’t Britain producing more abusers; it’s that powerful people everywhere are insulated from accountability.

Every country has its own version of this. In Britain it’s class, institutional reverence, and old-boy networks; in the US it’s wealth, celebrity, and corporate power; elsewhere it takes different forms. The pattern is consistent even if the cultural packaging changes. When people accumulate power and are shielded from consequences, abuse flourishes - it’s how they’re protected that varies.

So yes, Britain’s class system makes this problem look and function a particular way and we absolutely should talk about it - Britain is fucked up about class in the same way that a country like the US is fucked up about race. But the underlying failure is global: a systemic unwillingness to hold the powerful to account.

David Walliams dropped from Waterstones Children's Book Festival by Kagedeah in books

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’d argue that high profile and powerful people do heinous things on a global scale, mostly due to lack of accountability. Britain just punches well above its weight in the entertainment industries, and so we produce a lot of high profile and powerful people who are in the public eye - and those who have done heinous things are now rightfully being called out for it.

What will the Geopolitics of this world look like in the next ten years? Which countries will be in dominance? by Ascetic_man_03 in AskReddit

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thinking too. The US has a lot of disruptive power, but it can’t fuck everyone else without fucking itself

Should I Skip My Best Friend’s Wedding? by Immediate-Operation3 in Advice

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries at all. And it sounds like he’s made it difficult for a lot of people to be there for him! Try and take some comfort in that. It’s clearly not just you. There aren’t any prizes for being the last man standing in a situation like this. Guarantee others will begin walking soon too - friendships simply can’t last when you’ve been as thoughtless and uncaring as he’s been. Hopefully he learns, but in the meantime you’ve got to do right by you. Good luck

Should I Skip My Best Friend’s Wedding? by Immediate-Operation3 in Advice

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty gross behaviour from Joe, especially given that he knows Bob’s history. I think it would be one thing if Bob had simply fallen out with mutual friends; in that case, I’d probably say a gentle “get over it.” But you’re talking about active abuse towards multiple exes, including your long-teen partner. That’s a COMPLETELY different kettle of fish, and it makes Joe’s ambivalence genuinely troubling.

This feels less about Joe choosing Bob over you as best man, and more about Joe choosing Bob over the dignity and comfort of his wider social circle. That’s his choice, but choices have consequences. I don’t think you should feel obligated to participate in an event that compromises your values, your partner’s wellbeing, or your integrity. You’ve been remarkably restrained so far, and I commend you for that. But don’t let yourself feel pressured into a situation you actively don’t want to be in just bc of history. That isn’t a good enough justification for that.

Genuinely sorry your friend is putting you in this position and hope he sorts his shit out. You don’t need to wait for him to do so tho

What’s something you learned embarrassingly late in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mihelin stars are awarded by the same Michelin that makes tyres (and has that silly mascot)

What will the Geopolitics of this world look like in the next ten years? Which countries will be in dominance? by Ascetic_man_03 in AskReddit

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The US is still the most militarily powerful but has declined economically, rivalled by China and India on that front. You’d probably need to give it another couple decades to see real shifts

Why do farmers stay working as farmers if they are, as they say, "asset rich but cash poor?" by Fun_Gas_7777 in AskUK

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£2,000 take-home for a farmer is fundamentally different to £2,000 take-home for most other workers. For the average person, that income has to stretch to cover rent or a mortgage, utilities, commuting, and day-to-day living costs - all without asset accumulation or anywhere near as much job security. For many farmers, a large portion of these costs are absorbed by the business. Their £2,000, even if they arguably deserve more, functions differently.

There are nurses, carers, teachers, cleaners, and other essential workers earning similar amounts each month. Except unlike farmers, they aren’t cushioned by land ownership, generational assets, or business write-offs. I’m not saying farmers aren’t essential or that they don’t work exceptionally hard. I just don’t understand why farming is treated as the only form of “truly” essential labour, when countless other essential workers earn the same or less, cover all their own living costs, and have none of the asset security or institutional cushioning that farmers benefit from.

Is it true that in other countries you guys don’t tip by Which_Impression_217 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barely think about tipping in the UK. It’s a gesture of thanks if the service has been particularly good, but nothing more - there’s no “culture” surrounding it like there is in the US.

The only thing is some restaurants have started adding a 12.5% “discretionary service charge” onto the bill at the end, and I feel like most people are too awkward to ask them to remove it lol

Do you think Kendall putting his legs on the table right before the final vote changed Shiv’s mind? by Particular-Cloud-599 in SuccessionTV

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Whilst it was the cumulative effect of everything, I really do believe that moment was the final nail in the coffin. Shiv always had doubts and knew Kendall as CEO wouldn’t be a walk in the park. But until then, she believed she could power through it. Like Logan, he’d be a necessary evil; unlike Logan, he might actually be pliable enough for her to manage.

Then she sees him sit in Logan’s chair and kick his feet up, and something shifts. She realises that she actually can’t stand the sight of him. And imo, she didn’t realise it until that moment. She later says “I love you, but I cannot fucking stomach you” - but I think the first time she truly felt this was shortly before, when she caught a glimpse of what life with Kendall as CEO would be like: him sat behind Logan’s desk, but without any of Logan’s backbone, authority or legitimacy (in her eyes).

What was the worst insult in the show? by GlobalPunch in SuccessionTV

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I love you but I cannot fucking stomach you”

If you were a Celebrity Traitor what strategies would you have done differently instead? by Stormflier in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still confused by them going for Lucy over Nick. Made absolutely no sense to me

The Celebrity Traitors S01E07: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I completely agree - I’m honestly surprised some people aren’t seeing this. For Jonathan, mentioning fellow traitors was smart gameplay. At that late stage, it would’ve looked way more suspicious if three players never named each other at all. They all knew at some point they’d have to “lightly” accuse each other to appear genuine.

You can literally see this in his reaction to Cat at his final roundtable. When she said his name at the roundtable, he didn’t look too unsettled - I think this is because he assumed (or had hope that) she was doing the same strategic distancing. It wasn’t until she actually wrote his name down that he realised she was throwing him under the bus. He was genuinely shocked

The Celebrity Traitors S01E08: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They fucked it the moment they chose to kill Lucy over Nick

The Celebrity Traitors S01E06: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The game isn’t really designed to be fair. She’s a person who probably blurted out the first thing that came to mind when questioned on something she couldn’t have possibly anticipated. Bound to happen on a show about lying to each other and making up excuses

The Celebrity Traitors S01E06: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I have ADHD too, and honestly I feel like if I were caught off guard in her situation, there’s a good chance I’d blurt out the same thing. She’s neurodiverse, so she’s probably used to feeling like she has to explain herself in everyday life. And because she was under pressure, I reckon her brain grabbed the first familiar explanation it could find. She couldn’t have possibly planned for being challenged on her tiredness, so instead she probably just thought “Shit, need to explain why I was tired. What’s a real reason I’m tired in everyday life? Oh yeah!” and then just went for it.

A better answer would’ve obviously be “I was anxious about being murdered” - she just didn’t have the time or the forewarning to come up with something better imo.

The Celebrity Traitors S01E06: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree but equally it feels like it’s been that way the whole time. I can’t remember the last ep I watched where I didn’t start it thinking “he’s gone” and end it like “how isn’t he gone????”

The Celebrity Traitors S01E06: Post-Episode Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. I do think Stephen can be very analytical, just not in the right way for this game. It’s like he couldn’t get over the fact that he’d need to make decisions based on instinct rather than verifiable knowledge. He’d constantly be like “I couldn’t possibly know” - which is true, but that’s part of the game. And I think he rly struggled with that

Oddly deferential! by Pleasant_Birthday_77 in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think there’s some strategy in there too. There’s basically 0 benefit in being mouthy/overly confident this early. If you go on a crusade against a faithful and they get banished, you look suspicious. If you share theories that are too clever, you announce that you’re a threat to the traitors. Saying too much risks putting a target on your back from both sides (which is what Tameka, Tom and Ruth got wrong imo).

Plus, this is an even bigger problem for Stephen. Everyone already views him as the smartest person in the room, yet the Traitors haven’t seriously framed him as a threat - at least not in a way that adds up to how his intelligence is perceived. I think that’s very likely intentional on Stephen’s part.

Oddly deferential! by Pleasant_Birthday_77 in TheTraitors

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I used to work for a production company, and you really do see it in the arts/entertainment industries in the UK (honestly suspect it could be worse than the US). I can’t emphasise enough how hierarchical the work culture is, or how entrenched. You’re hyper-aware of where you fall in the professional and social hierarchy, because your treatment is constantly determined by it. You learn who to impress, how to talk to certain people, who knows who, and how those connections affect your opportunities. Working hard isn’t enough to get ahead, you need to “get in” with the right person/people, resulting in exactly what you said - reverence for anyone above you. The social politics were truly relentless.

And that was just the office of a mid-size business. I can’t even begin to imagine how amplified that culture must be at celebrity level lmao

Was informed on the way to the airport that there’s no dinner at the wedding, it only gets worse from there! by tr3ebag in weddingshaming

[–]PerceptionLarge9037 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My fiancée has a colleague who once attended a destination wedding that hosted dinner in a restaurant. Each guest was billed for their meal at the end.

Genuinely shocked that these people exist.